ok, so homecoming is coming up...again...and i am so far dateless...again...how do i go about working harder to find a date??? i know...you dont need a date to have a good time...blah, blah, blah...but i want a date...and i am going whether i find one or not...but i want one...and so background on me...im not hideous (at least i hope not)...but its not like im a walking goddess or anything...and ppl do tell me im pretty occasionally...and not just my parents...im not a fat person or anything (not to sound rude)...in fact im pretty dang petite...im not a social reget, but im not exactly a member of the "in crowd" either (i dont exactly want to be)...i hope i have a good personality...some ppl tell me i can get annoying...but i do have friends that like me for who i am and all...what am i doing wrong? an how can i try harder?
2007-09-13 09:53:49 · 28 answers · asked by solemlyswearimup2nogood 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i do have a few ppl in mind that i wouldnt mind going with...but i have quite possibly the worst case of stage fright...ever...so i have problems with going up to someone...especially guys...and asking them to a dance...plus im sorta old-fashioned and think that the guy should be the one asking...and as for asking a family friend...the ppl who my family is friends with...EWW...thats a last resort :P
2007-09-13 10:59:23 · update #1
just be yourself and it will happen. i am currently going through the same thing, but i know if i wait long enough ( i know it sucks) it will happen for the both of us.
2007-09-13 09:57:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not doing anything wrong, if guys cant see the true beauty in you than the hell with them. What they need to do is look not just look on the outside look in the inside. Both are very beautiful, if they cannot do that than find someone that will do not be so anxious to find a date the right person will come along. I guarantee you, within time you will be happy of yourself if you just allow life to plan ahead. I would date you, you sound like a great person, and are probably gorgeous but don't even know it.
2007-09-13 10:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well to me ir seems like ur trying too hard! (no offense) all u hav to do is be urself. i know blah blah blah!! if u hav a certain someone that u want to go to homecoming with than whenever ya pass him just laugh or tlk w/ a louder voice to get his attention. if not just ask the boy. i know that is weird but if u really want to have a date then u might as well do it. i know tht u dont want to hear all that stuff about no having a date is ok but it's true because all u have to do is get a gang of friends and go with them. it will be fun. boys tend to be shy if they're no in the popular group so just wait or ask. ur choice. i think that u will get a date because from ur description u sound nice. i would be a friend!
*hope this helps*
2007-09-13 10:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by helenmelon;<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if there is a guy u like just ask him out. its not the dark ages anymore. a girl can ask a guy out these days. and if he says no then he says no its not the end of the world. even consider asking one of ur guy friends. if u sit there and wait for a date to come along then u might not get one but if u take charge and ask someone chances r u will get a date
EDIT: well if u have a problem with asking a guy to the dance just go up to him and start talking casually. then start to mention homecoming week. and then the dance. and talk about it. ask him if he has a date yet.
2007-09-13 09:57:53 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the first place,you shouldn't be "trying" to get a date.When you "try",you look desperate.I know that you "are" desperate,but you need to just be yourself,relax.If you see someone who intersts you,flirt a little with them.It's okay,this is the 21st century.It's even okay to ask them,but be fairly certain that they are going to accept before you do.How will you know that?Have you ever heard of body language?
When you're around some of the opposite sex,watch them,especially when you approach them,the ones who might be open to your invitation will be sitting,leaning outwardly,with their legs spread apart.The ones that will not be interested will have either their arms crossed and/or their legs crossed.Try it.There are many other mannerisms that tell you what a person feels and they don't even know that they are doing it.
2007-09-13 10:08:29 · answer #5 · answered by old_ge.ezer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it has less to do with you, than to do with social cultures that are evolving away from dating and such. The best thing you can do is to have friends of both genders you can talk to and be comfortable with.
The hardest part about that is being confident and feeling good about yourself. Try focusing on things that are good for you, like exercise, sports, healty meals, plenty of sleep and drinking lots of water. Avoid soda pop, sweets and television. It doesn't sound like fun, but it will help you become a stronger, healthier and confident individual. And that will attract others automatically. Its not the quick fix you want to hear about, but look after yourself and you will be happy.
2007-09-13 10:04:51 · answer #6 · answered by gaurav19671031 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe be less loud, a little more coy, and possibly mysterious. I find attractive girls being loud and biligerent and obnoxious which makes them far uglier than even the ugliest of girls. The most attractive girls are easy going without being sloppy, and funny without being vulgar.
But if you just want a date and not a boyfriend, try approaching him and acting a little shy at first, and a little more vulnerable.
Vulnerability and intelligence are the key elements in sexuality.
Hope this helps.
2007-09-13 10:01:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all- it's good that you don't want to be part of the "in crowd." Good for you! Try to be yourself more and try to not be "annoying." I'm sure you have a great personality, and you are doing nothing wrong. Try to interact with guys more, trust me it works. If worst comes to worst, ask a family friend!
Good luck!
2007-09-13 10:04:35 · answer #8 · answered by NJW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should talk to a guy in one of your classes and just bring up the dance, if he sys he has a date just be cool and alk to another guy. im not really sure how this whole thing works because i live in norther california and homecomming isnt a big deal and no one gets "asked to the dance" you mainly just go with your bf or a group a friends, prom isnt even a really big deal at my school the guys dont even go.lol.
2007-09-13 10:00:10 · answer #9 · answered by jacquie925 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I can find a date I will give you a detailed walk through since I experience the same ordeal as you.
Don't worry, it's infinitely easier for a woman to find a date than a guy could.
2007-09-13 09:59:35 · answer #10 · answered by snipertkc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not so desperate move:
Check what your interests are and join social activities, groups, clubs, conventions, etc... that are connected to your interest.. You'll find someone to connect with soon if you do it this way. And don't go in groups. Just go with 1 friend or 2.
desperate move:
go bar hoping with just 1 of your friends (the least attractive friend if you're desperate)
2007-09-13 09:59:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anne "Ravince" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋