Is Five months a long time to wait for someone?
I have been going out with this girl for the same amount of time 5 months and we have both said we wanted this long distance to work.
I think there is an added factor and that is I Love this girl and mean it and she in return can only like me a lot.
do i wait for her or is this too much for one person?
She has a guy who texts her a lot from back home (writing flirty messages)and i am worried she might be wanting him back even though she told me she has no more feelings for this guy. I asked her to let this guy know that i'm her boyfriend but this is hard for me. Would a girl actually want two relationships at once? i told her if that was the case to break it off with me and she said she did not want that. What could i do or ask her to find the truth?
2007-09-13 09:53:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
5 months is not that long to wait. I've waited longer than you and for me it wasn't worth it, only b/c I realized that I didn't love this person. For you its different you love this person and I'm hoping she loves you. You obvisouly don't trust her. If she says she doesn't have any feelings for this other guy, then she doesn't. I know you can't see her in person, but you always know when someone is lying to you. Tell her to tell this guy to back off, if she can't do that, then she doesn't really want to be with you. You both need to get back to the trust and honest issues. Trust me having two relationships at once always comes back and bites that person in the ***. Sure it might be easy in the couple 1st or 2nd month, but theres always going to be a time, when the 2 meet or the 2 find out another one. You need to seriously have a talk with your girlfriend. Sit down and make a pro and con list of your relationship and this long distance. If you can't handle this long distance get out. Its not worth being this paranoid about this. I hope that helped..
Good luck!
2007-09-13 10:05:03 · answer #1 · answered by Sublime Chick™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was worth it to my husband---who was a state away. Everyother weekend he drove 200/miles from Desmoines to Mpls. There he opened his wallet, chucked out a thousand and said we'll do what ever you want. I was happy to do that. And saw the sheer power of his commitment to me , especially when I put all but his Sunday church clothes in the trash and told himto get better clothes, the next time I saw him. He was nice to my weidest friends even. Called me when ever he could and literally would attempt to please my every desire. That was 26yrs ago---he is the same now, although I kinda wore him out. So I think you'd know if this were the one (girl ) you go for it.
2007-09-13 17:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
long distance is never worth it unless both of you are equally committed to each other and both are willing to do what it takes. if not cut your losses and move on trust me im living this same crap almost right now and I've been doing for three years. if you don't trust her than there's a reason you don't. do whats right for you. the way to know what is right is it will be the hardest and most painful and it will be what you don't want to do.
2007-09-13 18:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just watch out. Sometimes love is not enough to hold together a long distance relationship together. Sometimes lust and curiosity takes over just be careful.. If you feel that she is true to you then wait, if you have your doubts then get out before someone gets hurt.
2007-09-13 16:57:45 · answer #4 · answered by Nally25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I don't know what I would do... But if I was still me, in your situation, I would break it off with her and tell her to consider things, to put her thoughts and feelings in order and then decide what (and whom) she really wants.
After all, as I always say, an end with pain is better than pain without an end.
2007-09-13 17:11:02 · answer #5 · answered by overtherainbow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
women don't like to be bugged by insecure men,maybe when the distance is no longer between you,then you can talk about love,you can't push that on her.stop trying to make her tell you stuff about another guy,she'll get sick of it fast.
why can't you just be happy with what you have??
2007-09-13 17:21:32 · answer #6 · answered by susan e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Text messaging is a bit too brash, but unless if you haven't decided how she is going to fit in your life, she may be confused. Let her know how you feel,
"How hard can it get"???????
2007-09-13 17:16:34 · answer #7 · answered by allspiceglitter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
five months move on honey and this is from a single person
2007-09-13 17:00:13 · answer #8 · answered by mrs.roseberry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, you're going to have to trust her and see if it works when she gets back.
Good Luck :-)
2007-09-13 17:01:57 · answer #9 · answered by Captain Jack ® 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might need a face to face meeting and ask her to be honest with you, it's your move after that, you got to decide if you trust her or not...........
2007-09-13 16:58:18 · answer #10 · answered by nocateman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋