My Goddaughter is pretty over weight. Seriously. She is 15 months old and her parents go to a McDonalds and oder her a Happy Meal and she can get pretty far on it. She eats pure crap. Anyways I was watching her for an hour and it turned into a lot more than that and she was getting hungry. So I gave her some organic apple sauce and apple juice. Her mother came to pick her up and was very upset that I didnt microwave her mini hamburgers that she likes. I told her b/c we had healthier options available and she enjoyed the Apple sauce and apple juice. She then gave her some of her moutain Dew!!! b/c she was asking for it. She said she wasnt angry but next time could i please give her what she asks to give her daughter. I would be so pleased if someone gave my child organic apple sauce and organic apple juice over microwaved burgers. Was I wrong? What can I do? I do not have kids, so I may be in the total wrong.
2007-09-13 09:46:44 · 10 answers · asked by A little Southern Comfort 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
You are right. The mom is wrong. Mountain Dew has a lot of sugar and caffeine. I am guilty of giving my daughter fast-food on occasion, but not all the time, and just recently I've allowed her to have sips of a soda, like Sierra Mist (she's 2 1/2 years old). She loves fruit, veggies, and yogurt and I am so proud of that. When the mom isn't around, I would say give your goddaughter whatever you want and tell the mom that she likes healthy food. If you are close enough friends, maybe you can sit down with the mom and explain that her daughter is overweight and it's unhealthy physically and eventually mentally if kids tease her. I applaud you for trying to do the right thing. Maybe you could talk to your friend's mom (your goddaughter's grandma) and maybe she could tell the mom what to do. Good luck!
2007-09-13 09:56:22 · answer #1 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you were wrong. If she was in your house, you give her what you think is best. I hope your goddaughter does not get diabetes in the future because from what you say, that is where her life is going. If she is at your house again, just throw away a mini hamburger and tell the mother you gave it to her. If you don't tell, she won't know and you can give her something healthy.
Unless the child has a medical condition that requires her to eat that junk, you says eats. I have seen on TV that some children have a medical condition that requires them to eat fatty food.
2007-09-13 09:59:00 · answer #2 · answered by kmg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you! My 20 month old asks for a lot of sweets but I don't give in all of the time. I suggest you and your goddaughter's mother take your goddaughter to the peditritian and asks her what she thinks. Now your friend may be embarrassed, but it's what's best. And when she comes over your house give her the organic stuff. If your friend contunies to feed her child this way after you see the peditritian I would call Social Services. She was told she is over feeding her daughter, so she shouldn't contuniue. You are a very good person for caring. My niece was the same way 14 mon. and my sister-in-law was feeding her the junkiest stuff. So I had to step in and help. Contunie to help your goddaughter and god bless. Contact me if you wish!
~Taylor
2007-09-13 09:58:24 · answer #3 · answered by Jasmine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do home daycare and have ran into some of these problems myself. I had one mother that insisted on bringing her children with donuts and chocolate milk everyday.( I don't disagree with these things on occasions but they shouldn't be an everyday thing, in my opinion.) Her son was about 10 months when she started this. I told her that whatever she feed them at home was her problem but at my house the donuts were not allowed. If they were going to have donuts for breakfast then I would buy them myself, so that all the kids had the same kind.(she was always so nice to bring the messiest ones she could find too and never enough for all the kids.) These kids were to the point that they wouldn't eat any foods that were healthy.
Maybe you could explain to her that you don't really think that food is appropriate and that when the baby is at your house, then you will provide her with some snacks. Or you can just tell her that when you keep an eye on the baby, she doesn't need to bring any food. You can tell her that you have plenty at your house. Maybe she is just going with food that is cheaper.
2007-09-13 09:58:13 · answer #4 · answered by chris l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like the mother herself is a little bit of a pig I feel sorry for the little baby its not her fault her mother is that way with her. It's a battle you will not win she is her mother and the only person thats going to suffer is the little baby when she grows up. I wish you took care of my nephew it sounds like you really care and a person thats going to care for my nephew and feed him healthy foods I wouldnt mind if you fed him all healthy foods. Youll probably make a good mother yourself one day, dont beat yourself up for being caught feeding the baby healthy food its not a crime feeding the baby unhealthy food though should be a crime. What you can try to do is talk to the mother about your concern just talk with her dont try to force your advice on her some people are just stubborn people they think they know whats best and they have no clue. All you can do is talk to the mother and tell her whats shes doing to her daugthter and its up to her what she does shes the mother there isnt much you can do other than that. Good Luck I hope for the baby's sake her mother changes that childs diet.
2007-09-13 10:08:38 · answer #5 · answered by D S♦T♦A♦R♦S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you weren't wrong. Parents don't always know what is best, even for their own children. In our society with the rate of type 2 diabetes in children rapidly on the rise, it is important for any adult that can have a positive influence on helping a child make healthier choices to do just that.
I would definitely commend you on your choice.
2007-09-13 09:55:24 · answer #6 · answered by Rachel C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think your wrong. if it were my kids i would be glad they got something to eat regardless of whether it was the hamburgers or fruit and juice. I would prefer the fruit and juice anyway, Dont stress it you were just looking out for the kids health unlike momma
2007-09-13 09:57:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents can be very picky about what their children consume. I find it odd that she was upset you gave her healthy food, but I guess that is her perogative. You weren't trying to "defy" the mom or cause any problems. Don't worry about it.
2007-09-13 10:09:45 · answer #8 · answered by Rachael R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are deffinitely not wrong. especially since your goddaughter liked the applesauce, her mom should be happy that she likes healthier foods and should thank you
2007-09-13 10:15:40 · answer #9 · answered by me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you did a good job by feeding her that she really needs to back off on the junk and put her on a little diet
2007-09-13 10:00:11 · answer #10 · answered by BrItT 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋