I met a guy 3 years ago got to know him and know I've fallen in love with him, the thing is we're not together and never have been, I'm not very experience in relationships it's been 11 going on 12 years since I last had a boyfriend, I don't know how to act around him and seem confident bcause I'm not I'm soo scared of mucking things up . it's been three years and I don't know what to do say or think anymore, i feel depressed and tired emotionaly. I don't know why he'd ever want me because I'm not like all his gfs he's had in the past, we love the same things and just seem to connect, i don't know what to do, please help me!
2007-09-13 09:42:05 · 11 answers · asked by ωєℓѕн 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me you have the basis for a good relationship already, starting of as friends is always a good thing, and its very common that people fall in love this way, you cant help your feelings, i know this from experience.
But if he is single now, are you gonna really let this chance pass you by, i mean if you try and it doesn't work out, surely a possible rejection is easier to get over than a life time of wondering what if and watiching someone else be with the guy you so desire.
At this point the only thing you have to lose is your love for him, if he says no then you will soon get over it, but if you dont try it will take a long time because you will always be wondering.
Take the plunge and ask, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you
Al....
2007-09-13 20:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by alser 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am myself a a straight to the point type of person, if you both get on with each other, then your problem is half way there, the things that you are thinking of, have you considered that he may be think the same and is afraid to act on his feeling, i case he loses you as a friend, and you are probable feeling the same way.
I would say that you confront him, and tell him your feeling for him, he could be feeling the same about you.
and this could be the beginning of a beautiful relationship.
as i do not know the situation, this is just what i think you should do.
by showing your feeling s towards him could break the ice for the pair of you. so i hope that your get a good result and the both of you have a long and prosperous relationship.
you only get answers if you ask, so do not be afraid to ask
from a welsh man in south wales best of luck alec
2007-09-13 15:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by alectaf 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just act natural.. and what is with this rubbish "I don't know why he'd ever want me because I'm not like all his gfs he's had in the past"? Please.. be more confident in yourself.. you are a hot attractive woman.. interesting, with a point of view.. so why wouldn't he like you? that is how you should think, attitude is everything.. So.. you're not like his ex.. but.. he's no longer with his ex.. maybe what he needs is someone like you.. no?
you may be not perfect for everybody.. but for some particularry guy, you can mean the whole world. Just find it, and be happy if you did .
2007-09-13 09:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by ann3lizz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you're having a chat next ask him if he'd like to go for a drink or say there's a film you would like to see but don't really like going on your own. I know it scary but what have you got to loose, and on the other hand you have so much to gain he might be your soul mate, but you won't know if you don't try. You say your not like his exes well that's a good thing he obviously didn't like them that much or they wouldn't be his exes And believe me life is too short don't wait around. Good luck x
PS Is he Welsh ?
2007-09-13 11:48:51 · answer #4 · answered by Bezza 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I had been in a very bad relationship and been on my own for two years, i was very much like you not knowing how to approach someone i really fell head over heels for, so i got the courage to text him, which was so difficult, and that's where i started six months ago, and now we are so much in love, now he has asked me to marry him. so if you have fallen for this guy, then i would say go for it. If its meant to be then its meant to be.
2007-09-13 10:38:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anna 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Will the pain of being rejected by this man be any greater than the pain of loving him and watching the years melt away and doing nothing.
You dont say if he has anyone else but if he hasnt, you risk losing him to someone who wont wait around, they will just take what they want.
For Lords sake....go for it .......xxxxxxxxxxxxx
2007-09-13 10:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
All I got from that was "I'm not like all his other gf's"...
A friend of mine told me his gf asked him "Why are you with me? All your exes were so beautiful, and I'm not"
I can't remember what he said to her, but what he told ME was that there was a reason he WASN'T going out with those girls anymore, whereas he WAS dating L.
Have faith in your own qualities, and good luck.
2007-09-13 19:39:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if its ment ta b then it will happen. if he feels that u r the one 4 him i bet he will ask u to b with him. but i wouldnt throw your self at this one guy cuz there are many out there.
just b happy :)
good luck
2007-09-13 09:52:49 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok you may not be like previous gfs but perhaps thats why they are exs
2007-09-13 19:44:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you tell him how you feel? Youve got nothing to lose!
Good luck.
2007-09-13 19:38:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋