it reads "He who spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him disciplines him promptly".
and please no thumbs down to answers on here. everyone is entitled to their own opinions. thanks.
2007-09-13 09:01:14 · 20 answers · asked by Trace 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
If you love your child you will discipline him, just as the Lord disciplines us. If you don't it means you don't really care about your son, not only their present but their future.
I can give you an example, look at a child who is not disciplined and the life he lives, rebellious, disrespecful, rude and so forth...yikes....and then look at one child who is disciplined, well mannered, able to do well in school, can control him/herself. Becuase they know they are loved as well.
Myself growing up, I didn't have much discipline and I did whatever i wanted to do when I wanted to do it because I had no one to do anything. I got into a lot of trouble and Looking back at that as a parent now, it makes me mad that parents couldn't even take time to even sit me down and talk to me or ground me, it has made me feel really unloved and uncared for
Now when you discipline it needs to be done out of love just as our heavenly father s does with us, not when we are angry or upset, I also think it is important to let the child know that you love them and they could never do anything to make you not love them.
Probably more of an answer or opinion then you were looking for, but the word says "you shall know them by their fruit". You'll know just by spending time with someone for about 10 minutes if they have been disciplined (loved) or not, and just as your child represents you, we as parents need to represent Christ.
Good luck and God bless you
2007-09-13 09:21:15 · answer #1 · answered by Ama A 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
In the Bible they do many things that are simply unacceptable today. It was written at a time when rape was a way to claim a wife, a man couldn't walk between two women because they might bewitch him, stoning a person to death was the norm and people had slaves.
It can be interpreted in a way that doesn't advocate beating your child. To discipline means to teach. Good discipline precludes the need to use corporal punishment.
ETA: I'm not Christian; I never knew the proverb was referring to the shepherd's rod. That is so cool! I'm so glad that I learned that :)
2007-09-13 16:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by Evin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it simply means that as parents showing our children the difference between right and wrong is an act of love. Children who never know that there is a consequence to bad behavior can grow up with the idea that it is permittable to continue to act in such ways. As far as what that action is, that surely can be debatable. Back in the times of the Bible it was proper to beat a child with a rod. Whether you believe in spanking or not, some form of discipline in required for a child to develop proper morals and to learn to do what is right.
2007-09-13 09:16:28 · answer #3 · answered by SadieB 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's pretty straight forward. Kids need to be disciplined and sometimes that means a spanking (when they're young). It's hard on the parents but a little pain when called for will prevent a ton of pain and even death in the future. Parents sometimes confuse with making their kids happy with loving them. Disciplining while isn't fun, is really saying to the child, "Listen, I love you enough to show you that what you want to do and are doing right now, is destructive to yourself and others and is not the way of life! And you need to remember this! When you walk away from the path of life, it hurts!"
There are many "Proverbs fools" in the world today because their parents never disciplined them. Of course there are extremists who beat their kids. That's wrong but not disciplining your kids is far worse!!
2007-09-13 09:34:49 · answer #4 · answered by Lover of Blue 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
The rod symbolizes the rod of the shepherd who used it to guide, not strike, the flock.
It's meant to say that if you love your children, guide them along the way. If you love your child, you discipline them and teach them right from wrong.
It' important to note that DISCIPLINE is not the same as punish. Discipline means to train by instruction and exercise.
2007-09-13 09:35:05 · answer #5 · answered by ~Biz~ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
interior the Bible they do many stuff that are purely unacceptable on the instant. It grew to become into written at a time whilst rape grew to become right into a thank you to declare a spouse, a guy could no longer walk between 2 women human beings through fact they might bewitch him, stoning a guy or woman to death grew to become into the norm and human beings had slaves. The Bible is (IMHO) perfect examine with a recommendations it truly is open to option understand-how. additionally, the King James version of the Bible grew to become right into a commissioned interpretation that strayed a great deal from the unique works.
2016-11-10 08:40:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children have rebellion in them and when it surfaces, it is our duty as parents to drive it out of them. This rod could be a switch from a fruit tree branch or a willow tree branch or a small wooden spoon.
The purpose of a spanking is not to cause any lasting bodily harm, but to cause spiritual correction.
There is a Chinese proverb: Spanking is to love so is scolding is to love too.
Some people say that all spanking is child abuse, but this is totally wrong. The real abuse to the child is not to spank them when they need correction.
When you love a child, you care that he grows up to be a respectful, honest andresponsible adult who takes the right path in life. Disciplining a child is the hardest thing for a parent to do. Many parents choose the easy way out and refuse to take the task of disciplining their children. These parents only care for themselves and are not concerned about the future of their children. That is being irresponsible and it is not true love.
I know many ppl out there disagree with me. I am sorry. You deserve your opinion as well as i deserve mine. Well, I grew up in a different culture / country... and i believe children of our ethic grow up to be more respectful of people.
2007-09-13 10:31:20 · answer #7 · answered by Sal SR 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Obviously you shouldn't abuse your kids, or take discipline too far, but you're also doing them no favors if you never discipline them.
Kids need discipline - different amounts for different kids - and they expect it. Set reasonable goals or standards for your kids, then hold them to those goals or standards. Reward them when they do well, and punish them for deliberate disobedience.
I've known parents who think it's wrong to discipline their children, and make excuses for all their wrong-doing and bad behavior. They've actually "enabled" them, and are responsible for the negative results.
The best parents I know - those who have the best kids - use a balanced blend of love, praise, and punishment.
2007-09-13 09:37:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not taking the "rod" literally, I agree that children thrive on discipline, rules and expected behavior, and that parents who let their kids grow up like weeks are essentially lazy and self-centered. The ones that scare me are the ones who claim to be "best friends" with their kids. Kids don't need adults as "best friends", they need adults as parents.
2007-09-13 10:57:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
it means that if you love your child that you would take the time to teach him right from wrong and by not sparing the rod youre letting him or her know that it is not okay or acceptable...the things you teach your child while he is young will stick with him when hes older and make him a more productive member of society because he was raised right...
2007-09-13 09:10:58 · answer #10 · answered by Beans_The_Mighty 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋