How do I feel important?

Question

My confidence has been sinking lately, I have been feeling like I don't matter at all for some reason and like no one cares about me. How can I convince myself that I am important?

I am not depressed, but thank you for the advice. I know what my problem is, actually, I just had a bad day.

Answer 1

Just look in the mirror, naked, and see yourself for who you are. Then get outside and make some friends and they will boost your confidence.

Answer 2

Dear Friend: The best way many have learned is to be kind, interested in, and caring for others who have real needs. Your neighbor may love a 'good morning' from you as she will be alone all day perhaps. Look into peoples eyes when you speak with them or listen. You don't need to feel like you are their problem solver, just a listening friend. People really admire that. Take some time for yourself also, learn something new with a group or go to a swim hall that you know young people are there. YOU ARE as good as they are, don't let ANYONE make you feel differently. You are a good and kind person, now go and get a little busy showing off who the real you is to the world! Good luck and God bless and keep you in His care. Suzanne

Answer 3

Clinical depression often begins with the symptoms you describe. People start to feel worthless, unloved, unimportant, all for no discernible rational reason. Of course you are important, as much as any human on the planet, but if you are becoming ill and your mind says otherwise, you can't believe it.
Please make an appointment with your doctor or a mental health professional right away. I don't mean to be an alarmist, but have had experience with this. Talk to your family and let them know what is going on with you. Never keep secrets about feelings like this.
Get some help dear, don't wait.
Best wishes.

Answer 4

Try to be more confident and find YOU ARE HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF! Loving and accepting ourselves is THE MOST CRITICAL FACTOR in experiencing joy,happiness, and success in life. When you really love yourself and you really love other people, you find that life is really an incredible journey where things flow, and no matter what happens you always find a way to enjoy yourself and you feel fulfilled. You MUST love yourself completely.
This determines your STANDARDS for what you are willing to accept or settle for. It determines how well you treat your body and your health, how much money you feel you deserve to earn or feel you can make, your belief in whether you can achieve your goals, how much others RESPECT you and how they treat you, and even whether people like you and want to be around you. People love being around confident people. You see, confident people do not feel the need to judge you or tear you down in order to elevate their own self-worth. They radiate a positive energy. You feel safe around them. You need to consistently and confidently take action to move towards your goals, and towards your ultimate destiny. People who lack in confidence often get ‘stuck’. So you see, your entire DESTINY is shaped by your degree of confidence. True self-confidence comes from an absolute sense of certainty deep within, that you are able to handle anything life throws your way. Truly confident people exude calm, control, power, certainty. They care about people, and they make people feel good when they are around them.They never brag – after all, actions speak louder than words. People who brag are just masking their insecurities. People have varying degrees of confidence depending on what activity they are performing. For example, someone might be totally confident in performing a piano concert, or driving a car, but feel totally inadequate at a new job they’ve started, or at flirting with members of the opposite sex. People with Total Self-Confidence, though, have complete belief in themselves. They never ask themselves “Can I really do this? What if this doesn’t work out? Am I good enough to pull it off?” They know that if they really want something, and they are committed to getting it, it will happen. They know that it’s just a question of time until they’ve mastered the skills and knowledge to make whatever they want a reality

Answer 5

well you do matter, dear. and the way you feel it is you just decide that's the way it is. Claim it for yourself. I am sure that people who know you do care about you. Here I am a total stranger and I care, so I am sure others do too. Besides, your worth is not based on others' opinions of you. It is there....all you have to do is claim it. Now, stop worrying about it and go do something interesting, productive or fun. Best wishes.

Answer 6

Well, I have depression and I understand the feeling!
Have you ever been diagnosed with anything like depression or OCD?
I'm just wondering because low self esteem tends to run along with mental illnesses/disorders.
Honestly, I could surround myself with a million people and still feel alone. Sometimes, I feel alone because I feel as if no one cares or takes the time to listen to me.
Maybe you need to take the time to find out what is causing this low self esteem issue with you. Take time for yourself. Surround yourself with people who love you and understand how you feel.

Answer 7

it seems to me, that most popular people are all about looks. Maybe get a new hairstyle? Have fun at school or work. Maybe take some drama classes :] Drama always boosted my confidence. And if someone would say "What were you just doing?!" You can say "I was just acting." Best ever character building in my opinion.

Answer 8

When you realize that it is not important to matter or be cared about and you move on with your life.

Answer 9

We are social creatures and it is people that make us feel important and it is people that make us feel unworthy. On that basis start your friend list again. Chose those who think as you do. Make them feel good too.

Answer 10

You maybe going through a Spiritual Awakening some people wake up some don't

Twelve Signs of Spiritual Awakening

1.Body aches and pains, especially in the neck, shoulder and back. This is the result of intense changes at your DNA level as the "Christ seed" awakens within. This too shall pass.
2.Feeling of deep inner sadness for no apparent reason. You are releasing your past (this lifetime and others) and this causes the feeling of sadness. This is similar to the experience of moving from a house where you lived in for many, many years into a new house. As much as you want to move into the new house, there is a sadness of leaving behind the memories, energy and experiences of the old house. This too shall pass.
3.Crying for no apparent reason. Similar to #2 above. It's good and healthy to let the tears flow. It helps to release the old energy within. This too shall pass.
4.Sudden change in job or career. A very common symptom. As you change, things around you will change as well. Don't worry about finding the "perfect" job or career right now. This too shall pass. You're in transition and you may make several job changes before you settle into one that fits your passion.
5.Withdrawal from family relationships. You are connected to your biological family via old karma. When you get off the karmic cycle, the bonds of the old relationships are released. It will appear as though you are drifting away from your family and friends. This too shall pass. After a period of time, you may develop a new relationship with them if it is appropriate. However, the relationship will be based in the new energy without the karmic attachments.
6.Unusual sleep patterns. It's likely that you'll awaken many nights between 2:00 and 4:00 AM. There's a lot of work going on within you, and it often causes you to wake up for a "breather." Not to worry. If you can't go back to sleep, get up and do something rather than lay in bed and worry about humanly things. This too shall pass.
7.Intense dreams. These might include war and battle dreams, chase dreams or monster dreams. You are literally releasing the old energy within, and these energies of the past are often symbolized as wars, running to escape and boogiemen. This too shall pass.
8.Physical disorientation. At times you'll feel very ungrounded. You'll be "spatially challenged" with the feeling like you can't put two feet on the ground, or that you're walking between two worlds. As your consciousness transitions into the new energy, you body sometimes lags behind. Spend more time in nature to help ground the new energy within. This too shall pass.
9.Increased "self talk." You'll find yourself talking to your Self more often. You'll suddenly realize you've been chattering away with yourself for the past 30 minutes. There is a new level of communication taking place within your being, and you're experiencing the tip of the iceberg with the self talk. The conversations will increase, and they will become more fluid, more coherent and more insightful. You're not going crazy, you're just Shaumbra moving into the new energy.
10.Feelings of loneliness, even when in the company of others. You may feel alone and removed from others. You may feel the desire to "flee" groups and crowds. As Shaumbra, you are walking a sacred and lonely path. As much as the feelings of loneliness cause you anxiety, it is difficult to relate to others at this time. The feelings of loneliness are also associated with the fact that your Guides have departed. They have been with you on all of your journeys in all of your lifetimes. It was time for them to back away so you could fill your space with your own divinity. This too shall pass. The void within will be filled with the love and energy of your own Christ consciousness.
11.Loss of passion. You may feel totally disimpassioned, with little or no desire to do anything. That's OK, and it's just part of the process. Take this time to "do no-thing." Don't fight yourself on this, because this too shall pass. It's similar to rebooting a computer. You need to shut down for a brief period of time in order to load the sophisticated new software, or in this case, the new Christ-seed energy.
12.A deep longing to go Home. This is perhaps the most difficult and challenging of any of the conditions. You may experience a deep and overwhelming desire to leave the planet and return to Home. This is not a "suicidal" feeling. It is not based in anger or frustration. You don't want to make a big deal of it or cause drama for yourself or other. There is a quiet part of you that wants to go Home. The root cause for this is quite simple. You have completed your karmic cycles. You have completed your contract for this lifetime. You are ready to begin a new lifetime while still in this physical body. During this transition process, you have an inner remembrance of what it is like to be on the other side. Are you ready to enlist for another tour of duty here on Earth? Are you ready to take on the challenges of moving into the New Energy? Yes, indeed you could go Home right now. But you've come this far, and after many, many lifetimes it would be a shame to leave before the end of the movie. Besides, Spirit needs you here to help others transition into the new energy. They will need a human guide, just like you, who has taken the journey from the old energy into the new. The path you're walking right now provides the experiences to enable you to become a Teacher of the New Divine Human. As lonely and dark as your journey can be at times, remember that you are never alone.

Now to help you through it Meditation can help

These are some of the benefits of meditation:

1.Improved concentration - A clear mind makes you more productive, especially in creative disciplines like writing.

2.Less bothered by little things - Do you sometimes allow
yourself to get upset by little things? It is the nature of the mind to magnify small things into serious problems. Meditation helps us detach. We learn to live in the here and now, rather than worrying about the past or future. We do not worry about meaningless things, but see the bigger picture.

3.Better Health - There have been numerous studies pointing to the health benefits of meditation. The reason is that meditation reduces stress levels and alleviates anxiety. If we can reduce stress, many health benefits follow.

4.Knowledge of Self - Meditation enables us to have a deeper understanding of our inner self. Through meditation we can gain a better understanding of our life’s purpose.

Love & Blessings
Milly