Can Homosexuality be caused by parents?

Question

I was wondering if homosexuality is really a biologicial issue, or could have a majority determination basedon the parents influance on the child? After reading this, http://medsocial.com/safe/viewblog.aspx?blogaction=viewblog&show=681 it got me to thinking. My parents fought alot and my father was distant and my mother over nurturing, and I am homosexual, stuck in an abusive cycle with other men, so this makes sense to me.

Answer 1

Nature, not nurture.

Now, the abusive cycle with other men, I really can't speak towards but I firmly believe that gays are born, not made.

Answer 2

So far there is no consistent evidence as to what leads to some being homosexual and others not. There are far too many exceptions to every scenario to point to any one possible cause, from nature to nurture and combinations of each.

Your home environment and upbringing probably have had more to do with the cycle of abuse that you're experiencing than with your being homosexual. A professional, licensed therapist could probably help you out there.

The website you refer to is church-sponsored and is not a legitimate medical website, despite its attempts to appear so, and the opinion expressed does not represent current medical views on the subject of homosexuality but is just a personal opinion of the author presented as accepted fact.

There is a whole section here in Yahoo Answers devoted to gay and lesbian issues and experiences. It's under Society and Culture -- Cultures and Groups -- Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender. It would help you to understand yourself better, I think, to read their widely varied experiences.

Good luck and God bless.

Answer 3

IMO homosexuality is something someone is born with - that's just how that person is made.

My sister (she is three years younger) and I grew up with wonderful parents - we were brought exactly alike and we were very much alike - we were both tomboys, we have been told we refused to play with dolls. We wore pink, blue and all the other colors in between!!!

We`were both very athletic, I played tennis in school. My sister was the basketball captain. We both made the Dean's list and today we are both very successful.

That's where the similarity ends. I got married 8 years ago (I am 36 today).My sister is gay, she dated guys in school - but she finally came out about 10 years ago right around the time I got married.

My dad was appalled.My mother,on the other hand accepted it very well IMO - she didn't overcompensate!!!

In the last 10 years she has been with two different partners - and she is very happy. And dad came around after that initial shock wore off - as long as we are happy he is too :)

Answer 4

From what I understand, behaviour is typically a combination of both nature and nurture. There has never been a "gay gene" identified successfully, so I highly doubt that you were just born gay, simple as that. But I also doubt that your upbringing had 100% to do with it. That is like saying that everyone who is over 6' tall is predestined to be a basketball player - it helps, but it certainly doesn't cause the person to pursue that path.

Answer 5

I FIRMLY believe that you are born gay. I have an uncle and many friends who are gay and i have asked when they knew they were gay and thay all answered the same way. They knew when they were little that they were different and that there was nothing that anyone could have done differently to make them straight. I have a 9 month old son and i will accept any choice he makes in life as long as he accepts himself and is happy. As for the abuse, I was in the same situation and i had to realize that i had to love myself before i could love someone else and accept who i was and not let anyone change me. the abuse can stop with you. I stopped the cycle and i am happly married to my bestfriend. good luck to you beautiful person.

Answer 6

I'm gay. My father wasn't distant. My mother wasn't overly nurturing. They had a wonderful relationship, and didn't fight. I wasn't abused. I was popular in school, and pretty good in sports.

I've known people who came from every conceivable form of parenting and environment. About 90% are straight, and about 10% are gay. Logic compels me to conclude it's not parenting nor environment.

Answer 7

Homosexuality isn't a choice

for all the straights I'd be curious when you chose to be with the opposite gender? we're you abused or did you have distant parents or all the other steroetyped lies that come up due to ignorance?

Answer 8

The blog sounds like nonsense to me. And frankly I don't understand what it is trying to say. I don't believe that you choose your sexual orientation. I can't speak for homosexuals but I didn't choose to be heterosexual. When I reached a certain age, it just happened. I became attracted to females. I think that sexuality is largely a physical thing and so I don't believe that parental influences are a factor in determining your sexual orientation.

Answer 9

No i believe you are born with your sexuality. you either like men or you don't

if you're a woman and men don't apeal to you then theres absolutly nothing you can do...
you can't force your self to be with someone if you are interested in a different sex

so no i don't think it has anything to do with how you're raised

god decides before you are even born

hope i helped answer your question

good luck

Emily xxx

Answer 10

I very much believe that you are born gay. My nephew, when he was very little, didn't really take an interest in "boy" things, and would have fun playing house, dolls, and doing make-up. I know this might be a stereotype, but he was ALWAYS like this and we all knew that he was gay. He never had guy friends, but tons of friends who were girls. He's nineteen and only officially came out to us last year, but we all knew, and we think he just born that way. It's who he is.