Someone tried to introduce this lady and myself so that we can see it the relationship can progress to a marriage. I was unable to attend on the day of introduction. Eversince, it has been difficult to make a date with the lady. She always says that she is busy. Also, she once said that it was my fault that i did not make the appointment for the day we were to be introduced. What do I do? Is she playing hard to get? (ladies please help?)
2007-09-13 06:16:02 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't give up dude, just let her know you are sorry for missing it the first time, and that you would like to get to know her, and that she should give you a call when her schedule allows her to....the balls in her court.
Woops didn't see you've been trying for 4 months.....yeah time to move on man.
2007-09-13 06:21:56 · answer #1 · answered by DANNY D 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She's not playing hard to get she's playing impossible to get. Read between the lines she's been busy for 4 months it means she'll always be busy, for you. She blames you for not going to the introduction so there is no attraction or even hope for a relationship with her. Move on and find someone else.
2007-09-13 13:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by Die S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You haven't said if you have appologized to her. If not, that must be item number one on your "to do" list.
After appologizing, try asking her out one more time, but not on a specific day. Ask her if she would like to go out for dinner/lunch one day next week.
If she gives you the brush off on an open ended opportunity like that, even after you have appologized for your earlier error, then I believe that it is wise for you to just give up on her and move on.
Sometimes first impressions are the only ones that matter, and there may be nothing that you can do to make up for not showing up on the day of your first introduction.
2007-09-13 13:30:11 · answer #3 · answered by Bret 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not be playing hard to get as much as she's afraid you'll be a "no-show" again if she agrees to a date. Once someone has been burned, it can difficult to trust again.
Instead of continuing to ask her, tell her politely one last time that you'd really like to get to know her. Apologize again for not making the original date, and tell her if she's ever interested in trying again you would like to hear from her. Then leave your phone or email address with her, and leave it in her court.
Then, move on. If she calls you, great. If she doesn't don't wait for her. Continue dating until you meet the right one.
2007-09-13 13:23:44 · answer #4 · answered by Dating Diva 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I say forget about her. It is pretty obvious she is not interested in you when she claims she is busy whenever you ask her. There are much better ladies out there for you. Opportunities need to be created as well. Try dating services. I'm sure you will find a soulmate who cares for you. People who play hard to get rarely manage to settle down and find someone they truly love because they are always looking for someone better, which causes them to go in circles and miss out on somebody who is really worthy. Best of luck in your quest for love.
2007-09-13 13:26:44 · answer #5 · answered by Boogie0821 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. If she is so busy day after day and has offered no alternate dates or arrangements, chances are, she's not too interested. maybe she has some kind of resentment towards you because of the first no-go arrangement, but if she does want to eventually get to know you, she'd have set that up already. Move on....
2007-09-13 13:21:31 · answer #6 · answered by kandikayne2104 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would send her flowers with a card that read, "Sorry for not making it to our introduction and sorry for bothering you for the past four month. Sincerely hope you find what you are looking for. Goodbye". I then would not try and contact her at all. Throw the ball in her court, if she does not answer, you lost nothing.
2007-09-13 14:28:10 · answer #7 · answered by Brad M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, she's not playing hard to get, she just isn't interested in you at all and is too overly "nice" to come right out and say that. She'll keep saying she's busy in hopes you'll just forget about her.
I'd find someone else to pursue if I was you.
2007-09-13 14:59:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, but the way its going shes not interested. Shes holding a grudge, after all you were supposed to meet her.. Now if she is playing hard to get (which i sincerely doubt) wait for it, don't go after her..she'll realize its not working, and come to you.
-Don't suffocate her, Let her be.
2007-09-13 13:22:37 · answer #9 · answered by - 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four months is a really long time to be chasing one girl, I would say move on and find someone that will at least get to know you.
2007-09-13 13:21:50 · answer #10 · answered by Grumble 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋