Ok. I have this boyfriend of over 3 yrs. he is great!!!, but has a few bad traits!! But i just recently started back to school. I meet this guy "T" and he seems really sweet. Me and him have gotten to know each other pretty well within the last few days. I mean we know a lot about each other already. But he has a 6 mo old daughter, that he loves to death. and he said that his babys mama is cool with him dating other people. And yesterday (wednesday) i took him home from school, and we got to know each other a lil bit more (not in that way)...but he was talking about going on a date. I was wondering what yall thought and whether or not i should go. I mean i would technically not be doing anything wrong. but im just 21 yrs old. Should i date this guy since he has a child and i have a boyfriend? or should we be just friends??
Someone pls give me some ideas...i need help
2007-09-13 05:49:20 · 14 answers · asked by **Christie** 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Pray.
2007-09-13 05:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by MV 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you could be memorized by this NEW guy who seems flawless (except for the child of course). You've been with your boyfriend for 3 years and have gotten fed up with a few of his flaws and so you believe you can do better (and maybe you can). However, you've only know this new guys for a couple of days, you can learn a lot from a person but not nearly as much as a 3 year relationship. Plus he has a child that would gradually start becoming your responsibility.
I would advise NOT to date this guy (even if he seems to be a great guy). At the very least, get to know him at least a few months before you decide if he's so much better than you're current boyfriend.
2007-09-13 13:35:25 · answer #2 · answered by Jewish FiLiPiNo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you got a boyfriend for 3 years and all these years you've known some of his bad traits. Then you meet this guy with a daughter known him already in just few meetings. Have you not thought why his wife cool-off with him? Do you think you can sacrifice the 3 years with your bf to this newly dumped guy? Maybe his wife recently known his bad traits.
hmmm...you better not agree for a date till you known him more and his qualities will turn out better than your present bf.
anyways on the other side, by dating you will know him better. But what will your bf will felt?
2007-09-13 13:35:02 · answer #3 · answered by poorguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey this is a no brainer answer. Do Not Go On A Date With Someone When You Have A Boyfriend!
If you are questioning your relationship with your boyfriend, maybe that relationship isn't as strong as it should be after 3 YEARS!
If this other guy lives with the mother of his baby and he is dating other people I would say he is a player and to stay away from him.....
2007-09-13 12:55:49 · answer #4 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer should be obvious. Say no. You mentioned that you didnt have feelings for him in that way. Besides if he is dating other ppl thats not right. Dont be the one to encourage it. The mom might say she is cool with it but she might still not like it. Think how she must feel. He should be loyal to her and his own child. If he wants to date other ppl then it makes me wonder why the hell he married her in the first place. Plus if u had a three year relationship and ur gonna end it over a married man then you basically ruined ur bf's life.
2007-09-13 12:57:07 · answer #5 · answered by Cero 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl that is a no no... you wont like it if your boyfriend just had a friend with a child and this girl invited him out to eat. You should just be friends and friends away from home and hanging out. It should just be friends in school. I'm in a relationship and if i try that to my boyfriend what i'll be hearing it the next day. It doesnt look right for you go to out on a date with this guy. Hello key word Date. This guy wants a relationship with you. Now you have to ask yourself do you still love your boyfriend, cause if you dont then you should just end it. I'm sorry but just be friends with this guy and dont take it to the next level. btw he has a daughter. Hello baby mama drama. Even if he says that his ex says its ok, in reality its not. The babies mom is not going to like it if you are around her baby. Two especially if she doesnt like you. you have a great boyfriend be faithful to him cause just to let you know what comes around goes around.
2007-09-13 13:02:48 · answer #6 · answered by giggles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Technically you would be cheating and so would he. Either you have a boyfriend or you don't. If you have a boyfriend, going out with another guy is cheating.
He said that the child's mother would be OK with him dating. Is that really true? Do you really think that she would approve of her child's father dating other women?
Take care,
Troy
2007-09-13 12:55:55 · answer #7 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first, I think you should talk to your boyfriend about his bad traits. Just tell him how you feel. About this "T" guy, he has a baby. I mean, that doesn't really have to matter but, think of the situatio you are putting yourself in. If you and your boyfriend can discuss his bad habits and reach an agreement, stay with him.
2007-09-13 12:56:48 · answer #8 · answered by liveurlife8806 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NEVER give up what you already have to give in to your desires. If you do, you WILL lose the one you're with and the one you will get might not work out at all. Keep the one you have and work on those few rough edges.
2007-09-13 13:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't date someone when you already have a boyfriend. Him having a kid does not make it okay. You have to choose one or the other.
2007-09-13 12:58:10 · answer #10 · answered by omichels24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Errr..how would YOU expect US to help when you YOURSELF are CONFUSED???!!!
Ok we get him, he has a daughter he loves to death and isn't cheating on anyone (not sure, he might be telling lies, how can you expect anyone to be honest with you when you yourself are being dishonest to people). But on the other hand, YOU, my dear, are thinking of cheating on your boyfriend??! Uhh, I don't think that's a good plan.
2007-09-13 12:57:13 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋