What do you do when you don't like your brother's girlfriend?

Question

My brother's girlfriend is completely obnoxious! When she comes over she always makes fun of him in front of the family, like she thinks it's cool or something. She isn't very attractive and when they go swimming I want to throw up a little in my mouth. They are always fighting over something petty and what-not. She will throw a fit and leave, but the next day it's like nothing ever happened!

I don't think they are right for each other. But my brother won't hear it. What should I do about her?

Answer 1

Absolutely nothing, It's none of your business.

Answer 2

lol, Hun there's NOTHING you can do about it. Trust me. My brother's (who is 27) hooked with a 39 y/o oldie who had already been sleeping with a guy without getting married to him, and has 2 kids with him. My brother took care of her kids and everything (even their schoolwork)! Trust me hun we've been explaining him for over 7 years now and he still doesn't get the point, he just goes "yeah you're right she's a b*tch she's this and that", yet doesn't leave her! And she beats him up and what not, she keeps insulting him. She did that to us too, she insulted my mother, he fought with her over this but yet doesn't freaking DUMP HER. Oh well, I don't even care anymore. What can you possibly to do make a fool see into the light? Nothing. Not until they realize it on their own. You can't control people. Forget about it hun, he won't get it. I've been through all that. All you can do is point and laugh at him. Don't waste your time. There was a time I really cared and stuff but it's like banging your head on the wall, it'll only cause you harm but not to the wall! It's his life after all. Let him live it the way he wants to. (That's what I've learnt anyway)

Answer 3

Firstly, you should respect your brother's wishes. If he loves her and finds no fault with her, then there's not much you can do about his choice. As any family member would, voice your opinion in a way that doesn't offend his feelings for her, let him know you care about his well-being and leave it at that. Only he can choose whether this girl is right or wrong for him. And being "obnoxious" about it won't win you points with him.

Besides, I think you're being a bit petty. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. You should try to find ways to appreciate your brother's girlfriend and attempt to be polite, respectful. She might actually be receptive to your input about her behavior if she felt you accepted her. Who knows? Her behavior might be a direct response to how your family has "accepted" her--her nervousness or discomfort makes her hyper-critical as a way to alleviate her own insecurities. Try to see things from her point of view instead of judging the book by the cover. Would you want your boyfriend's sister feeling this way about you, esp. since you obviously view yourself pretty highly?

Answer 4

Not much you can do, the only way is that your brother will most likely get tired of her and realize she is not the girl for him and then he'll find someone else. But the more you oppose of his girlfriend, the more he will be stubborn about it and will remain with her just to prove you wrong. Let him realize it on his own. It will take some time but it will be for the best. Just stop nagging him, because you sound like you care about your brother and I know if you continue he'll end up mad with you. Good Luck.

Answer 5

Other than reminding your brother to use condoms, there isn't a thing you can do. However, I think you have problems as well. What does it matter whether she is attractive or not? Get over yourself.

My brother also dated a gal that I couldn't stand. Then he married her. Yep, he made a mistake, but chose to stick with her. I can count on one hand the number of times I've heard from him since he married in 1978. It's his life and I don't have to live with her.

Answer 6

Love is tough sometimes, He has to make his decisions in that area on his own, good or bad. If the relationship ends then be there for your brother then. You can voice your opinion to your brother about his girlfriend, but leave it at that. don't run it into the ground. Also you point out you opinion of her looks as not being good. Looks have nothing to do with love and relationships except idiots in California who are sub-human anyway. Try reading the story "THE UGLY DUCKLING."

Answer 7

I have the same problem with my brother's girlfriend. I think you should just tell her about your brothers past relationships to make her jealous. Like even if you have to lie, say his last girlfriend all they did was make out all damn day. Chances are she might get real upset and won't answer his phone calls, hopefully the will break up.

Answer 8

I know exactly what your going through. I would suggest you telling her that you dont appreciate her coming over and disrespecting your brother in front of his family. A girl like that only wants attention so dont give it to her. Tell her once and for all and then ignore her and let your brother deal with her. When she comes over say hello and walk away. This is what i do with my sister in law and i have no stress anymore and she stopped disrespecting my brother cause i threatened to kick her out of my house if she did it again. Explain to your brother ur actions and if he doesnt understand then just ignore him and her. Good luck

Answer 9

You should take your brother aside and tell him what you are seeing and how you feel. Please, try to tell him in a non confrontational way. After you have said what needs to be said, leave it alone. He has to decide whether or not to continue the relationship. If it goes sour, the only thing he is going to think and remember is that you constantly said "I told you so." Be there for him. If you cannot stand the way she treats him, quietly leave the room or area. Lots of times, love is blind. He will eventually see her for who she is. Good Luck in the meantime.

Answer 10

I'd be a biatch with her. That's what I did with my brother's ex. He was a little inadvertent to her existence as a human being that had feelings and he was always cheating on her and abusing her verbally and sometimes physically. I didn't like her nor did I feel sorry for her because she was just as much of a horndog and abusive. So one day she couldn't take it anymore and she cried to me and whined about everything he did to her and how he took her away from her "loving" family. I told her to pack her bags and leave while he was in the shower. Sure enough. 10 minutes later she's packing her stuff on her way out. My brother bawls like baby, but she could care less.

2 months later he finds out she's 5 months pregnant...And it's not his.

Aren't you glad I kicked her out?

Answer 11

now the only thing you can really do is acually try talking to her.
i know that sounds a bit crazy, even when you see her half naked and want to throw up in you mouth lol, but you have to do it for your brothers sake, expecally if he really likes her, and puts up with her bulls**t that only a 6 year old would pull.
but dont try to be fake, i know that might be hard but respect is the thing here, who knows u and her might share some things incommon or become friends. but if not and you refuse to make your brother feel comfortable with her around you, then your brother might just not talk to you for awhile, you arent being rational in his eyes if thats the case.
family membesr even friends have to sit back on the back burner till a solution is made, and even if they dont work out dont throw it in his face ither, that would just piss him off even more. and that will only make you feel like a tard, im speaking from experiance here, i know how must it burns when you see your brother with someone you dont like, me i threated her and everything, but my brother basically told me where to go and how to get there, and we didnt speak to eachother for about 2 years.
so you need to have some lodgic in this and be an adult ok
this may be tough but its either you leave it alone, try to talk to her, or be completely ignorant.
its your call ok hun, even when she makes fun of him, you must bite your tounge, for me that would be hard but bite it untill you completely had enough,

good luck