I have been noticing a pattern of behavior in this woman I have been dating for a few weeks now.
Whenever we see each other at work she will sometimes say hello to me. Other times she won't even acknowledge that I am standing right there or holding the door open for her. She rarely, if at all, starts a conversation with me. I usually have to be the one who starts it. Then there are times that she chooses to barely acknowledge my input on conversations.
But whenever we go out she will talk to me and start the conversations.
It almost seems like at times she is interested in me, then at other times she doesn't seem to care too much. We don't have a really serious relationship going but we are definitely dating.
Is this a game that she is playing that many women play or no? Or am I just thinking about it too much?
DISCLAIMER:Nothing I have said applies to every woman in the world. So don't get all pissy and defensive. If you do, don't bother answering.
2007-09-13 05:09:24 · 21 answers · asked by Cameron 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She may just be trying to be professional at work. I used to work with my boyfriend...we never ate lunch together or really spoke at work if it wasn't related to work. There was the Hi, dinner tonite?, but really nothing that didn't have to do with work. Outside of work, we spoke about everything EXCEPT work. Trust me, its good to keep the 2 separated. We no longer work together, but we're still together, stronger than ever.
2007-09-13 05:16:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Let me get this straight. You work with her, right? That's your problem right there. It's not the best idea to date people you work with. If she barely acknowledges you at work, she's probably having doubts about the ethics of it so she distances herself from you. Dating a coworker and jeopardize both or your careers if your relationship gets in the way of doing your job. Outside of work, there's no problems. Nothing can interfere with her relationships. I would suggest dating women outside of the workplace.
2007-09-13 12:25:26 · answer #2 · answered by Erin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, it just sounds like she's trying to protect the relationship. If you both work at the same place, people often try to stick their noses into your personal lives...while your at work! She's probably just acting more aloof so people in the company don't bother you two. Some companies, actaully prohibit or discourage work relationships. Mine does...doesn't work though! So you guys are fine;don't worry.
2007-09-13 12:23:07 · answer #3 · answered by Jaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have dated people at work before...and she might just feel a tad uncomfortable around you in the work place at times.
i am not really one to mix a work life and a private life...so when i was dating people at work...i liked to not have too many other people know about it...because then things can get sticky...
i think give her space at work...and dont get too upset. If she is normal to you outside of work, then that is great...judge her actions outside of work only...inside of work there are all kinds of other pressures and things that could contribute to her acknowledging you sometimes and not others...
feel her out...and maybe casually mention it to her in a joking way...
a guy at work that i dated jokingly said to me something a long the lines of...way to say hi to me at work...hahaha...and i told him that i was uncomfortable...and he respected that...
he would come into my office and send me texts from across the room while chatting with my coworkers...instead of coming up to me...it was really cute... :) good luck!!
2007-09-13 12:20:31 · answer #4 · answered by CQ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem once. It turned out that she was sleeping with other people at work. May not be the case for you but I didn't think so either. As the others said, fight fire with fire!
2007-09-13 12:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by justin ohio 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't play this game but so women do. does everyone at work know that yall r dating? i don't know what her problem would be. ask her why she has been doing this. if she keeps this up i wouldn't bother with her anymore. what kind of a relationship would she want by not talking to you. but u really need to talk to her. shoot if i worked with my bf we would be in the breakroom alot..lol
2007-09-13 12:22:46 · answer #6 · answered by LUCY JO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably pointless to say this if you're even asking this, but ....
Get a little backbone and put her in her place. She's either proud to be with you and interested in you or she isn't. Be man enough not to put up with that kind of crappy behavior.
2007-09-13 12:16:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its a game that you should be playing too. Unless you work at Arbys or some crap hole like that. Work is for work, she may just be being professional because she doesnt want you to embarrass her at work.
2007-09-13 12:14:45 · answer #8 · answered by john b 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it seems to me that this girl wants to make it look as though your doing the pursuing in front of your colleagues. it's stupid and immature but some women are like that.
best thing you can do is ask her why she's behaving like that.
2007-09-13 12:15:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well its not a pattern with me I am either in or out! Just ask her whats her game! she sounds like a Jekyll Hyde type personality!!
2007-09-13 12:14:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋