my son went from dvd covers to now bringing in movies i know he is growing up but what do i do i am a single parent with other kids. i try not to blow up but man who wants to face the fact that their child is about to be sexually active. he is a 3.5 gpa child.but man i dont want anything to distract him from his education HELP!!!!!!!!
2007-09-13 04:59:03 · 9 answers · asked by champ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He's not necessarily about to become sexually active. But it is perfectly normal for him to be interested in sex, and at some point you do have to face that. Even without the visual aids, the thoughts alone are enough to distract him.
Here's my suggestion: Tell him (calmly!), "Son, it’s normal for you to be interested in the female body, but since you are a minor it's illegal for you to view porn, and as a parent it’s my job to ensure that you don’t break the law. It’s also my job to ensure that your brothers and sisters are not exposed it to. If I find it again, I will take away every privilege that you have." And then follow through.
Whatever you do, do NOT make him feel guilty/ashamed about this (that would result in some real problems for him down the road).
2007-09-13 05:19:41 · answer #1 · answered by kp 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that you can do, is inform him about sex and the precautions, he must take before engaging in such activities. As for the other children, you son will still read and or watch these videos. I suggest putting a tv, for him only somewhere, the other children are not allowed, do not put it in his room, for it offers to much distraction. Set a time for him to have his alone time, if and only when he does his school work, and let him know that if his GPA drops the tv is going. As a boy with hormones, that are out of control, he will still do these things even if you say no maybe even more so then, so tis better that you know what he does.
2007-09-13 12:16:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
⥠The best thing you can do is educate him! As you said he is going to be sexually active, and he sounds like a good kid [[having a 3.5 gpa]] so I'm sure he will be fine. As for the porn... I think its natural that he's curious. Good Luck!~
2007-09-13 12:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by NCIS ♥ Addict 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it is all part of growing up, i have 3 son's they've all gone through the same thing, i'm a single mum of 5 children,
i found the best thing to do was sit down with them and talk about it, explain your concerns, but let him know that he can come and talk to you if he needs,
2007-09-13 19:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by sparkles3003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you don't want his GPA to suffer from any extracurricular activities. Just because he watches porn doesn't mean he's about to (or already has) started sleeping with other people. Sit down and talk to him about it. About condoms, about when/where he can watch his pornos, about pregnancy, STDs, cover it all. If he wants to moan about it tell him he's old enough to be watching people have sex he's old enough to talk about it too.
2007-09-13 12:50:58 · answer #5 · answered by Manny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hormones are raging in every 15 year old on earth, not just in your son. my oldest boy started maturing at 11 years old...
guys are "visual" creatures, and they look at these things from time to time. please don't "blow up" at your son or shame him about sex -- that could instill guilt and shame in his future marriage or adult sex life.
i think the best thing you can do is to let him know that if he looks at adult materials, please be discreet out of reach and sight .
OR
if you are totally opposed to this sort of material in your house, let him know that sex between adults is perfectly natural and nothing shameful about it. however, you are thinking of the other children in asking him not to bring it home... keep it short and sweet.
i think that's the best you can do.
2007-09-13 12:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's something you can't control, he will find a way. And what teenager doesn't go through this? A bigger distraction would be finding ways to hide it from you and avoiding you if you make a big deal out of it. I'm sure he'd be too embarrassed to talk about it, so you may just have to avert your eyes for now.
2007-09-13 12:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by lippy 3 · 0⤊ 4⤋
need to have the birds and bee talk with him. or if u don't know that then u need to at least have a talk with him about unsafe sex and all kinds of diseases that he can get. show him pic on the internet or through books. maybe that will help. good luck
2007-09-13 12:11:14 · answer #8 · answered by LUCY JO 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
at least he's not haveing sex. explain to him that he is going to have these feelings and it's ok but not to act on them. let him keep the porn.
2007-09-13 12:12:11 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋