your wedding. if you don't like her don't invite her.
2007-09-13 05:00:34
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answered by gorgeous 4
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The misspellings and other errors make this a little hard to read; please write again if I don't answer what you're trying to ask.
This is your day, not the bridesmaid's. Did you somehow solicit help with the invitation list? Was her request a simple, off-hand mention, or is she pressing you to supply company for her?
If it's the former, I'd say let it pass. If it's the latter, you have a potential problem. Will *not* inviting the best friend leave your bridesmaid lonely and neglected during the festivities? Is she that withdrawn or unsociable that nobody else would spend time with her?
Also, if the best friend hates your husband, why would she want to attend your wedding? Why would you want her there? it sounds to me like inviting an unpleasant element to *your* day of celebration.
If your bridesmaid presses you for an answer or a reason, you have plenty of room to give her replies:
(1) This is your wedding, not the bridesmaid's;
(2) you don't know the friend well enough to invite her on *your* account;
(3) the friend has expressed dislike of your husband;
(4) this is your *wedding*, a day of celebration;
(5) making an exception for the bridesmaid's desires would open a floodgate of similar situations, and those paying for the wedding would soon be overwhelmed. Paying for the friend's attendance is also not an answer: this is a private affair, not a public event to which you're selling tickets.
Is that enough to get you through the problem? If not, feel free to email me with more detail.
2007-09-13 12:11:24
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answered by norcekri 7
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Rather than try to figure out if it was rude to ask, let's figure out what you want to do. If I were in this situation, I would only invite the best friend if she and the bridesmaid were an established lesbian couple. Otherwise, I would not for several reasons:
1. Weddings are expensive, and space limited. I would only invite spouses, fiances, and perhaps long-term bf's/gf's of guests.
2. Other folks might ask to invite a friend. It would be inconsistent to allow some to bring a friend, but not others.
3. This friend hates your fiance. I wouldn't want anyone at my wedding who doesn't like my fiance.
2007-09-13 12:08:17
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answered by Ms. X 6
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It's not rude of you to say you don't want her to come. My best friend was a bride's maid three weeks ago and wanted me to go as her date because she didn't know a single other person invited to the wedding, but the bride said no and she could only invite a male date. But, it was her choice so whatever. If you don't want this friend to go, you can say no.
2007-09-13 15:51:52
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answered by tink 6
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Did you tell your bridesmaids they could bring a guest?
If you did...you're stuck..if she really wants to bring her friend.
However, it is RUDE to ask to bring someone to an event like this if you have not offered to let them bring someone.
That said, it is YOUR wedding...you can have, not have, whomever you wish.
You have to decide if you are upset because you think your friend is rude for asking, or if it is a financial issue (some wedding reception food and $$ are based on how many people will be attending...
You COULD tell your bridesmaid friend that you just can't afford extra people at the wedding...that your "budget" won't allow it...
2007-09-13 12:09:37
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answered by Toots 6
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If she wants her best friend to come so badly, then she can bring her as a guest. But invitations are normally reserved for close friends and family of the bride and groom.
2007-09-13 12:21:31
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answered by bestadvicechick 6
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I dont think its rude. I mean rude would have been if she just invited the girl herself. She seems like she is trying to do the right thing and let you decide if the girl can come or not.
2007-09-13 12:05:31
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answered by mudcreekfarmer 3
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You may invite your friend's friend if you choose, but you may also opt to deny the request.
This is someone you're not close to who actively dislikes your fiance, so I really doubt that you'd particularly want her there or that she'd particularly want to attend.
Feel free to say it simply isn't going to work out.
2007-09-13 12:12:49
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answered by gileswench 5
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I don't think you need to invite her just because your bridesmaid wants you to! it's rude of her to ask/expect that.
If you aren't close, you don't need to invite her.
2007-09-13 12:37:23
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answered by Amy P 4
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it's up to YOU and your fiance who is invited, NOT the wedding party. tell her i'm sorry but we already have the guest list made up.
2007-09-13 15:26:10
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answered by SweetPandemonium 6
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Invite who you want. It is your wedding after all.
2007-09-13 12:33:31
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answered by Kristen 3
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