her ex, that she never truly got over, just died. she needs to be alone so she can grieve. i need to be with her terribly, how do i show that i'll be waiting around until she's ready to be with me again?
2007-09-13 04:22:26 · 12 answers · asked by Tyler B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
her ex that she never really got over just died. and she needs to be alone. but i need to show her that i'll be waiting for her when she's ready to be with me again. She truly does care about me, i know. Also, how do i get her to reassure me, without asking? or should i ask?
2007-09-13 04:25:29 · update #1
straight up tell her or else if you try to send some signs she might take it the wrong way. telling her is the only way to guarantee things
2007-09-13 04:30:04 · answer #1 · answered by jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you say she truly loves you when all that's on her mind is some other guy and memories with him. Remove your rose colored glasses please and look at this situation again. If you were close to her you would be sticking around and helping her close her past, instead you want to tell her you're "waiting around"...huh? If you were close to her you'd be with her now and she would be wanting you near her. The person she's grieving is not a parent. If she's grieving that much for someone who has not been in her life for a while then she needs professional help to get over it.
2007-09-21 03:18:50 · answer #2 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend of mine had a love interest die. All she wanted was for everyone to leave her alone for six months, then she wanted what she had, back. Wait six months. Tell her how you feel. Wait. See. Be ready to roll with the punches. You've gotta take a chance.
2007-09-21 04:17:51 · answer #3 · answered by Pepper 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having been through terrible grief with my wife all i can say is to think of her, give her the space, she needs it, dont think of yourself and the fact that you need her, just talk and ask her if you can do anything for her, tell her you love her, make the little things in the day count like making her a coffee in the morning or dinner in the evening, stay close with out suffocating her cos at the moment the only person she should be thinking about is herself and the only person you should be thinking about is her, sorry for your loss stay strong
2007-09-13 11:33:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let her be, i kno that u need her but right now she probably isnt sure about anything & u dont want something 2 be said that could break the 2 of u up or put u in doubt so just step back & look 4 signs of her seekin comfort from u then just show her that ur there 4 her.
2007-09-21 11:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just send her little reminders that you'll be there for her. like send her flowers, candy etc. make her realize she needs you as much as you need her, and companionship while grieving can also help get over the guy. good luck.
2007-09-13 11:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by [kristi lou!♥] 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont ask for reassurance. She will be back. Maybe just send her flowers with a thinking of you card. Dont pressure her. Send her a dinner invitation where maybe she can fill in the date and mail it back to you....like...
_________is requesting a candlelit dinner with you. The event will be on ______________(you fill in date). I will patiently wait on your reply.
Thinking of you and missing you incredibly,____________
2007-09-13 11:33:09 · answer #7 · answered by mowsermae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just give her the time and space that is needed, send her litle cards and phone calls , flowers evey now and rhen
2007-09-21 06:43:59 · answer #8 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't push her. Give her the space that she needs but show you care too. Just be there for her (as a friend!)
2007-09-21 09:07:58 · answer #9 · answered by Joey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all you can do at this point is offer a shoulder, an ear and time will do the rest.......if she crys in your present just console her with a hug and speak not a word......support her with hugs and slient.......sorry for her lost.......hoping all will be well......
2007-09-21 01:26:56 · answer #10 · answered by LITTLE_JOHN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋