Problems with father?

Question

I am 25 years old having issues with my father. I dated a man for 10 months and broke up with him in May because he hit me. He had full custody of his 4 year old son. My father and stepmother got to know this child in the last three months that we dated. After we broke up, my father came to me asking what I thought about him continuing to see the child. I told him that it didn't make sense. However, my father disregarded my feelings and continued to see him. Now, 4 months later, this is tearing my family apart. My brother doesn't approve, either. My father knows that we do not approve but takes it to extremes (will not even call us when he has this child). In the past month this has become every day. This child is mean just like his father and continuously disrespects everyone. I currently have a new boyfriend who my father won't even try with. This child has a grandmother to provide care. Now I hear my father is going to try and get custody because my ex is in jail! what to do?

Answer 1

You're a big girl now and don't need your dad anymore. We all want to continue to have our parents in our lives but do we NEED them? Not really.

I'm not sure what your dad's thinking. Maybe he misses being needed but you can't do anything about it. Just walk away, maybe he truly can help this poor child who's obviously in a hideous environment. If he gets custody and the boy's in a decent environment, he may turn out to be a nice kid.

Either way there's not much you can do except move on with your life.

Answer 2

sound like to me that your father want a child. well, your father knows what he is getting himself into and if that what he wants the step aside. I agree with Free_angel..if he want custody of your ex's mean azz kid, then so be it. I am sure that he feel that he can change this child, but I think this child would make your dad life unbearable. And let your dad know that you don't want any thing to do with your ex child, that if he can get custody. If this child is mean as you stated, I don't even think his grandmother want to deal him. And she would step aside and allow your father to gain custody of him. The only problem I see with this, what will your ex do once he service his time? will he come back for his son or be a pain in your father life about his son?

Answer 3

I guess you have to let your father live in his delusional world....

Maybe your father sees some potential in this child and wants to help him? Perhaps he is "making up for" stuff he never did when he was younger? why don't you ask him why he is doing this?

Sometimes we have to give it up and accept others at face value. If the kids' father is in jail, he really needs a good role model.

I don't know what else to say. We can't control what anyone does but ourselves. Work on taking care of you and trying to exhibit patience and understanding (even if you think this is "nuts"...)

Answer 4

Let your father go for custody. That child will put him in an early grave.

Answer 5

your dad shouldn't have continued to see the boy after you broke up with the kid's dad....once you broke up with him all connections should have been severed....now his actions are causing a rift in your own family....talk to your dad about the issue, if he won't listen talk to your stepmom so she could intervene...i don't think your dad will get custody of the boy...custodies are usually awarded to relatives of the child...

Answer 6

let him do what he want to, & you know that hes not going listen to you unless you tell him his REAL Grand-SON is on the way

tell him that your Pregnant