Here's the situation: Their Dad & I were unmarried, we split up 2 years ago. He has been living with a woman who has a 14 yr old foster daughter. Last year my son started exhibiting some sexual behavior, I immediately took him to Children's Hospital, had a full examination which revealed he had not been physically violated. We saw all the Therapists and nothing ever came out from him that he was being abused. We went to PCIT (Parent Child Interactive Therapy) to help us learn to communicate better. The behavior he had exhibited ceased.
On Sunday night I witnessed him exhibiting similar behavior again. We talked about it and I later asked his 4 year old sister what he was doing. She told me it was something that he and the 14 year old did when at Daddy's house. I asked him again and he revealed the exact nature of the abuse. I called CPS, they interviewed her and she denied it. CPS came to my home yesterday and my son and daughter did not disclose anything to the worker. We are going
2007-09-13 02:39:40 · 4 answers · asked by Susan 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
to Therapy at Children's Hospital and I now have a lawyer and my case was filed in Family Court yesterday for sole custody of my children.
My question to all of you is, if you've had similar experience in this arena, how do you cope?
2007-09-13 02:45:40 · update #1
Robbie was very honest, and I do respect that, thanks.
As you see his family didn't listen and now he's a self claimed manwhore lol.
My suggestion would be NOT to make a bigger deal out of this than it needs to be. the 14 years should know better, but at that age she maybe just let her inner thoughts get the best of her. SHE absolutely needs to talk to a counselor which I'm sure you can get for free at school! As for your son, he too should get some kind of counseling, maybe at school too. The counselors can deal with them in a non-overwhelming way. I was not touched as a child, but had a much older, mentally challenged man show us his penis and things and would have us watch him masturbate. It was SO embarrasing when people found out about this, but it was something I was quite able to deal with on my own. The ABSOLUTE worst part was the social workers talking it over with my family and his etc. Kids are resilient, just do the best you can with out making more of it, which only creates more horendous memories of the incidents.
2007-09-13 03:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by tw9165 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I have been in your shoes so to speak. I have tried to kill myself and am disabled because of the problems that happen for more then six years. My ex has Traumatic Brain Injury, his recovery was more then I could handle, it was actually to much for just one person to deal with. Being the person I was, I would never let anyone think anything was wrong. I always acted as though things were wonderful. My family still doesn't know what actually occurred but lets just say what you shared was very close to my life. Then after a few years things changed in a way I can't talk about here. I'm thankful I could not have children. We are now some what friends as I see him as part of my therapy. He is willing to talk about the past with me and checks on me regularly He has recovered more from his brain injury but will never be a safe person for me to be with. I'm still unable to handle day to day things. I'm just now working on my self esteem, but panic attacks are hindering my progress. I stay home a lot and don't sleep or eat well. My family is my support system, but they have a hard time dealing with my mental problems and talking about it. By me getting a therapist they know I am getting help from someone educated, that I can talk to about anything and now I'm not hiding or holding anything back. It is a long process that takes patients and a lot of commitment. There are days I think of ways to get out of therapy, but once I leave her office I feel like I have regained a little bit of myself back. For me it was having somebody validate what I have been through. When we feel so low we think that everyone will blame us or think were cry babies. Nothing worse then hearing "why didn't you just leave him?" These are things that will never be said or be thought while in therapy. It will also help you understand that none of it was your fault and not every person you meet will do this to you. Feel free to email me anytime. Take care and never give up!
2016-05-18 05:27:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get an emergency court date and refuse to let your son AND daughter go to their dad's house. He should not be living with a woman that has foster children in the first place, and if that child had any prior run-ins with the police or had any record of abuse against a child the foster mother should have known not to let her be alone with any young children.
2007-09-13 03:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
get your 5 year old counseling experiences like this often gwet repressed and cause complications in adulthood
2007-09-13 02:58:39 · answer #4 · answered by ஐ♪♫♥atomic.angel♥♫♪ஐ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋