What do you think? People say nowadays it's the parents' fault.?

Question

I find it amazing. I have been having problems with certain children in my street. After years of it, it thought of asking the parents of two of the children if they minded me telling the children to be careful round my car/ property. Some use that was, they took the hough and refuse to speak to us at all. (the parents and the children)Some parents need to face the consequences that their children are doing wrong, and that in the future they can't just take the hough when their teenage kids are causing havoc.

Thanks. You all made me feel a lot better.That's so made me feel as if I'm not horrible. Linda B- I have been asking them( the children) for about 4 years very kindly and politely to mind my car and property and that's why this time, I asked the mother. It has put me off approaching a parent for life. Mind you, I have around 10 friends who all have children and none of their children are like this. Perhaps my friends are normal though. :-)

Answer 1

it was certainly not unreasonable of you and i probably would have said something sooner . a lot of children these days are not being raised with good values ,discipline or even educated socially by their parents.
dont faint but ive raised 12 children with my husband . theve all benn well brought up with good eduacation,morals etc yes weve had some difficult times but you struggle through and aim to achieve the best. i cant understand the attitude of so many today.
on the otherhand 1 of mine turned out really difficult to control and while i still love him , i hate his attitude its aweful. the femily has not given up on him though and fortunately there is a lot of them . he was brought up like the others but his personality is so different
i think drugs has a lot to blame and the government for taking away the right to discipline at scool and now they are even telling us we cant smack our kids . society as a whole is frightened of telling a child off as its frowned upon and everyone goes tut tut
well tut tut is not the answere
give men descent wages so the mums can stay at home without feeling guilty and look after the kids . stop trying to force all the parents into work while the kids run wild .

Answer 2

every child should have right and wrong and respect for other people and their property drummed into them, by both the parents and teachers at school.

ultimately this should fall on the shoulders of the parents, and reinforced by the school.

if the parent cant control their kids and do not teach them how to behave towards other people and their property, then this is bad parenting.

I would be upset if I was to be told I was a bad parent because of this, however if you had spoken to me about my kids, then I would have a word with the kids and explain it all to them so that there is a minimum risk of accidents. I wouldnt take it to heart as I wouldnt like other peoples kids playing around my stuff.

seems some parents just turn a blind eye and say its just kids growing up, which in part is true, but they have to think that if anything does happen you your car, then it is them that will have to foot the bill.

Answer 3

To a certain extent, yes it is the parents fault but in some cases its not always. I grew up in a very tight knit community and we were all very close as neighbours, as kids we were all taught the same thing, have good manners etc but there was this one boy who just refused to listen, he was an absolute menace. Now you could blame his parents for that but then explain to me how their other two boys turned out fine, why didnt they go down the same path if it was the parents not doing a good job? Wouldnt the other two boys have been the same if it were the parents fault? so i wouldnt say that it is always 100% the parents fault. In your situation however something needs to be done , they are all behaving quite childishly!

Answer 4

I feel the same way. During the winter, some young boys play in my driveway in town, gathering snowballs and throwing them at passing cars. They actually sit there and scrape snow off of my car to use, and I have no clue who they are! It amazes me, cuz as kids we would never have dared to go on someone else's property who we didn't know, let alone be touching someone's vehicle! It's ridiculous what some kids are allowed to get away with these days. And yeah, usually you find out the parents are jerks too who could care less that you have a problem with them or their kids.

Answer 5

It is the parents fault. It is as if they don't care anymore. They don't teach their kids manners and let them run wild and do what they want. The kids are disrespectful of others and their property, it is disgusting. I refuse to raise my child that way. She will be the exception to the rule. I have friends who let their children run their lives and it is wrong. I saw no problem in your asking the parents, but, I would of just said something to the kids and bypassed the parents. You have every right to protect your property. What is wrong with these people? Ugh!

Answer 6

I agree with you entirely. Our parents taught my brother and I very well about what is wrong and what is right in all aspects of life and neither one of us has seen the inside of a Police Station or a Law Court. Around where we live there are parents and children who are never out of both. Nobody in this day and age can tell me people do not the difference between right and wrong.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Too many parents think their child can do no wrong. If my son ever damaged someone else's property he would be punished. I am not going to be one of those parents that buries their head in the sand and think that my child is perfect. Children need to learn to be responsible and that starts with the parents making them face up to what they have done wrong.

Answer 9

I keep my kids away from other peoples things but they cannot seem to return the favor like a grown up. Forget the parents and the kids and if the kids continue and damage anything think of it this way, the parents should have heeded your warning and now they have to pay for it.Its your property and you have to protect it.

Answer 10

i do think it the parents im a parent and i wouldn't let my kids run around your car or mess in your garden if a ball went into someones garden by accident i'd get my kids to knock the door and ask not just go in and get it ,my husband told a boy outside our house to stop hitting a girl who was crying and the boys mother came to our house and shouted at my husband some parents can't stand any critism at all about their kids ,i even know of one girl who's son was caught on cctv breaking a lock in a block of flats and refused to belive it was her son !!