I have been deployed to Afghanistan for the past few months and my girlfriend put an ad in the paper seeking a roomate. One has followed through, but he happens to be a guy her age. Should I be worried?
2007-09-13 02:15:27 · 15 answers · asked by tfitm 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am sorry to learn about your predicament. I had a similar thing happen to me and it led to no good. Although I trusted her, I felt uneasy at the way she willingly went into sharing space with another man. I did tell her that I didn't think it was a good idea, and that I felt jealous (once), but that in the end it was up to her. My friend, you can not force love (and along with it, commitment) from a person. If this girl wants to fool around, she will sooner or later. It might as well be sooner, so that you are not taken for a rather long, confusing and painful ride. As for me; in the end she broke up with me. It took her about four months or so, and although I was fully aware of it, I let her make the mistakes and the decisions. In the end, although I was sad, I was happy that I could be trusting, unwavering and also did what ever I could to actually have a real relationship. Be patient and strong, but be prepared as well. Good luck my friend.
2007-09-13 02:47:48 · answer #1 · answered by Been there 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's human nature. I would be too. I am getting ready to deploy myself and would worry about the same thing if I were seeing someone.
Just be honest with your gf about how you feel and as her what this guy is like. He maybe gay...he could have a relationship of his own. Maybe he has a job that keeps him out of the appartment most of the time. Hopefully she would not be offended by the fact you feel a little jealous or insecure about the situation.
2007-09-13 09:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by Jessica 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't spoil all your waking hours worrying -it's self-destructive. Talk to her about it, the open communication will be good for your relationship. If it is the end of your relationship, you will do better in the future.
My mother brought in extra money for us by renting out rooms in our house, which had 5 bedrooms. I often "lived with" more than one man my age. Nothing ever developed between myself and any of the renters.
However, because it was convenient for us, my last boyfriend did rent a room from her, on the floor below me. We "lived together" twelve years, yet never shared a bedroom. Try explaining that to friends!
2007-09-13 09:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust your girlfriend. But if I were you I would ask her to keep looking for a female roommate and let her know that it makes you a little uncomfortable. I think that when you live with a roommate it's common sense not to cross certain boundaries though. Just let her know how you feel, but also have trust in her.
2007-09-13 09:21:43 · answer #4 · answered by Chelley 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. it's possible that a man and a woman can be strictly friends (my bestfriend is a male and he's not gay), but when living together things may seem ok at first, but the smallest thing can turn someone on. Like she could be getting ready for bed in what is her everyday sleep attire...but to him, she looks damn good in it. Then next thing you know one thing leads to another and they've made out or worse have sex. Good Luck
2007-09-13 09:23:10 · answer #5 · answered by D N 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well. yes. put one girl and a guy together long enough and some thing is bound to happen, trust or no trust. I don’t mean to make you worry, but there’s too many chances for them to be alone and do something. Unless he’s asexual.
2007-09-13 09:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by Spidergurl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you trust your gf then not at all.. but if u have had issues in the past just keep an eye on whats happening but you would awsome u pretect ur country so if she does screw things up she is stupid cos she just losta hero :D
2007-09-13 09:20:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would keep a close eye on the situation....if you ever get to come home I would stop by unannounced and see what you can find out =)
2007-09-13 09:24:22 · answer #8 · answered by durtyboyz2005 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are 100 percent in love and have trust for eachother then no...but if she is the type to cheat then she will anyhow...sorry but thats how it goes...then if she does cheat then she was worth no heartache anyway. good luck.x
2007-09-13 09:21:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
depends on how much you trust her... and what kind of a person she is..
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2007-09-13 09:19:36 · answer #10 · answered by AYOOZe 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋