They say most married couples fight about money, kids and sex. So, here is some advice. Be sure you know the man you are going to marry. You need to have basically the same principles, morals, values and standards. If you don't, you will have problems. Be sure you agree about alcohol, porn, discipline of children, money and sex. These things need to be discussed. Good Luck! =) Love is a choice, and marraige vows are sacred. Take a look at the vows and discuss what they mean to you with your significant other so you know for sure that you agree and really know who you are marrying! After having 30 or so boyfriends before my husband came along, I think I should know a few things and I think I should pass that info on =)
2007-09-13 02:14:32 · 17 answers · asked by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to *KaE*KaE*, have this convo as soon as they bring up marraige =)
2007-09-13 02:22:34 · update #1
to cleancutspike, even though I have only been married 1 year just about, I have learned from many who have been married 10, 20, 30 and 40 plus years! =) and I have learned from the mistakes of those who have divorced.
2007-09-13 02:24:18 · update #2
that sounds like good advice. im 23 so im not thinking about it now but in a few years who knows? good stuff a star for u lol
2007-09-13 02:18:25 · answer #1 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Excellent advice (thank you) and I agree. Many people are too quick to jump into marriage and then wonder why it falls apart after a couple years or even less. I can think of at least 10 couples I know personally who are now divorced. Vows are not taken seriously any more. There isn't a lot of consideration and thought being put into marriage and what it really takes. Just because two people are in love doesn't mean that they should get married.
I'm 26 and marriage is still a long ways off for me. I'd rather wait and make sure it's right and going to last than become another divorce that everyone talks about.
2007-09-13 02:30:51 · answer #2 · answered by Ersabette 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a single mum to a four year old. I think it's amazing what u r doing trying to get a degree and also raise ur daughter. I think perhaps at her age maybe full time study isn't ideal and maybe part time would be better. Don't worry at all about not having the house or the pet or this or that. U don't need any of that to raise a well adjusted, authentic, happy child. All she needs to absolutely flourish and thrive is a strong bond with u a roof over her head and possitive caring pol in her life. U need to really mAke the most of the time u have with her, teach her new skills, show her new games, laugh and laugh some more with her. When u tuck her in at night cuddle and read a story and both share ur favourite thing about the day. WhAt kids love most is having someone that will play there little games and that will enjoy the time and make it fun. There are a ton of parenting books which offer amazing advice and tips which really make life so much happier, go to ur library and get reading the tips u can get are sooo worth it, really value ur daughter because as each day passes u will have less and less time with her.
2016-05-18 05:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry if I sound like a jerk, I'm really not trying to, but you've only been married for 1 year I truly doubt you have the experience to offer this type of advice. If your opinion hasn't changed in the next 10 to 15 years, then I would say that you are right on, my guess is though that it will, believe me the honey moon phase will go away.
2007-09-13 02:21:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly believe thats why there are so many divorces and broken heart after broken heart because people (me included) do not take their time and get to know the person first. We jump into intimacy way too fast then basically months later we figure out thats all we have in common...Like you said ..it takes alot of stuff not just sex.
So may advice would be TAKE YOUR TIME and figure out who is best for you.
2007-09-13 02:27:52 · answer #5 · answered by kakeydec 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so i go out on a date with a guy and start seeing him exclusivelly how long before you have this crazy but very good convo with him?
2007-09-13 02:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is great advice and I absolutely agree.
2007-09-13 02:18:27 · answer #7 · answered by littleone 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thank you much, I was just looking into asking my girlfriend if she wanted to marry me... but I was going to wait awhile so we can both talk about it. We'll keep your tips in mind.
Thanks again. :-)
2007-09-13 02:18:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree
2007-09-13 02:18:35 · answer #9 · answered by 801 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Excellent advice, and sage from your experiences.
2007-09-13 02:21:53 · answer #10 · answered by Jeanne B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋