ok, I'm 17 and this girl that was 14 or 15 came over because she was locked our of her house because she left her keys in her house. I thought she was really cute, and I wanted to show off, what guy wouldn't?
So, I told her i had to work out and so i did and she watched. We went up to my room after and I started playing some music (rock). I was sitting in the desk chair (my parents weren't home) and she grabbed my arm and then sat on my lap. She began kissing me and one thing led to another, and before I know it we're in the bed naked and yea.
What do I do? She's not pregnant... but I still feel horrible?? help!
2007-09-13 01:44:25 · 36 answers · asked by guy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't ever do that again. Forgive yourself and move on. Just leave it alone lest you piss her off and she starts to cause all sorts of problems for you.
2007-09-13 01:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by Shel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to stay away from her from now on. Or if you want to start a relationship with her, then do so. You are not of age, so it doesn't matter too much now. It is what she wanted, and she made the moves, so you shouldn't feel bad. However, it is not a good thing that she is so young and felt so comfortable sleeping with you the first time she was around you. You have to be careful with people like that. There is no telling how many she had been with before you....and at such a young age! My goodness. What is it that makes you feel so bad about it? Whatever it is, work on that and you will feel better about it before long. Just hope for the best.
2007-09-13 01:53:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I know you're already beating yourself up about this but some states consider that statutory rape whether she started it or consented to it or not. Anyone under 17 is absolutely out of the question. One of the things to learn as you grow up is self-control. Know when to say no, even when you don't want to. This girl sounds very confused and is trying to find something she's missing. Be careful swimming in that water, it can get you in more trouble than you could imagine. Tell her you would like to be friends but that this was a mistake, as you get older and she does, you may find that there is something there but for now, don't cross those lines, your future depends on it. Good luck.
2007-09-13 01:55:00 · answer #3 · answered by littleone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok I dont think you should feel horrible but was ahe a Virgin and if so she moght have a conneticon with you what you need to ask your self is why you feel horrible and then if you dont want to be with her sit down and talk like adults because you cant rake it back but you can at least make it better. be nice but dont avoid her because then she we feel as if she did something wrong and the truth is that both are young so it is not wrong and if you need any more help you can email me
2007-09-13 01:53:12 · answer #4 · answered by Slit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be more responsible for your actions. You need to not repeat this behavior again especially because you have no feelings for her just your regret. If every thing turns out ok then treat her with respect and explain that you cannot repeat that because of all of the problems it could cause. I think you need to wonder why you would put yourself at risk that way. She isn't mature enough to make good decisions so you have to take some responsibility and be mature in your actions.
2007-09-13 01:52:40 · answer #5 · answered by msqtech 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date her become her boyfriend, whats wrong with that? Sure the relationship has started off with sex, infatuation, and lust, most do. From there see if love can be built up. Always carry condoms with you in case something happens in the heat of the momen. I wouldn't be giving up a good thing so soon.
2007-09-13 02:21:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite the problem...have you talked to her about what happened? What are her feelings on what happened?? I think you both should talk to either one of your parents, or someone you trust about the whole incident. Its not going to be an easy situation, but it seems like you need to talk to someone, not a peer, about what happened. Hopefully you have learned something from this and won't let it happen again. Showing off is one thing, but sex is another.
2007-09-13 01:51:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anne D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do dumb things - though to be honest I think many guys would have ended up in the same situation.
Anyway, beat yourself up for the required amount of time then stop worrying about it.
As for her, there's no reason to avoid her, just don't repeat the mistake - at least not until she's legal.
2007-09-13 01:53:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude thats like every guys dream to nail the girl next door lol. ok on a serious note, y do u feel bad, things happen. the moment felt right if ya did it. now y u should feel bad is cuz shes like 12, thats wrong man, ur almost 18 u gotta be careful with that. now the question is..do u like her? did u like it? does she like u..have u talked since? if u dont talk to her just let it be, move on and get over it. like i said things happen in life that just happen. move on man
2007-09-13 01:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well basically, what's done is done. All you can do from here is
1. If you feel that bad about it, don't let it happen again
2. Make sure she's ok (don't be the guy who sleeps with the girl and then flakes out)
That's about it, learn from it, and deal.
2007-09-13 01:52:39 · answer #10 · answered by Niki L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably tell her that you didn't mean for it to happen like that. Just tell her how you feel about the situation and she'll probably be very open to whatever you say considering shes younger than you.... kinda sucks that you didn't even know how old she was. Kind of random too.
2007-09-13 01:49:21 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋