I broke up with my ex about a month ago, he really upset me and I've dealt with that. He spoke to me yesterday on msn about getting a playstation game back off of me which i will give back to him. I have just started to see another guy this is the early stages tho so don't want to do anything to mess things up. But my problem is my ex wants to see me and personally i don't want to see him as it'll just drag up all those feelings i had for him. I like this new guy alot, I just need some advise as to how to forget about my ex and how to just get on with my life and see how things go with the new guy. Hope this makes sense, my heads a bit all over the place at the mo. Thanks.
2007-09-12 23:46:24 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have already dealt with your hurt and pain, give him his stuff and tell hi9m you have begun a new chapter in your life that doesn't involve him in it. Stick to your guns as he knows what you want to hear, what you like etc. etc.
Give a go with the new man.
hope all goes well
sarah
2007-09-12 23:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by SARAH R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you mail the game back or get someone else to deliver it, if you don't want to see your ex, let him know in no uncertain terms that you don't want to see him again and have moved on.
I would also suggest you block him from contacting you, if he persists then report him, but I would also say that you should let new guy know what is happening before he gets the wrong end of the stick and thinks there is still something going on between you two.
Good luck in whichever route you take.
2007-09-13 07:39:47 · answer #2 · answered by Tom M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Send the game back to your ex and if he asks you to see him again tell him that you've met someone else and it wouldn't be fair on him. I was in a similar situation as you last year; now I don't even see my ex anymore and I am really happy with my new boyfriend. Unfortunately as you get older you can't stay friends with your ex; you have to make compromises for your new relationship. I felt likre there was no point in dragging up the past and I knew my ex was not the one for me; I am so much happier now and after 5 years with my ex it is a welcome change.
2007-09-13 06:55:13 · answer #3 · answered by kchick8080 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really dont want to see him, post him a package of all the stuff he left at your house. Its none of his business who you are seeing and well you cannot continue your friendship with someone who you dont want to confront. Why not block all contact and focus on your future thats what exes arent in so yeah if you had any feelings for your ex bury them in the past, and make sure this new guy isnt a victim in all this being just a rebound.
2007-09-13 07:01:52 · answer #4 · answered by a beautiful lie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really dont want anything to do with your ex then
I say stop signing in on msn or ignore his cahtting to you or open a new account.
Ignore all phone calls and emails and he will get the msg.
Give him back what he wants and tell him that you dont anything to do with him.
Get your life back with the new bloke.
all the best and have a happpy relationship.
2007-09-13 06:55:09 · answer #5 · answered by **tomtom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a mutual friend, have them give it to back to him. You are right. If you want to move on, you probably shouldn't see him. If you don't have a mutual friend that can help you, mail it to him. He's been without the game for a month. Waiting a few days for the mail won't kill him.
2007-09-13 06:52:56 · answer #6 · answered by Luffle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Post him the game or say you'll leave it with a mutual friend. Then you don't have to see him. There's a reason he's your ex, it obviously didn't work for whatever reason. Just remember those reasons.
2007-09-13 06:53:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, just please be honest with the new guy and make sure he knows you're head's all over the place and you're not really over your ex yet. Let him decide if he wants to be around you in those circumstances, cos anything else just isn't fair on him.
2007-09-13 06:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you say your ex really upset you but you've dealt with it but then you say your heads all over the place. I don't think you've dealt with it and shouldn't be dating until you've sorted out how you're feeling as its not fair on the new guy.
2007-09-13 06:53:43 · answer #9 · answered by Samiya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Delete him from your msn contacts and post his game back to him with a letter telling him that you need your space and will contact him when you are ready.
Good luck with your new beau.
2007-09-13 06:57:16 · answer #10 · answered by Buffy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋