we met almost two yrs back we both relocated from different parts of the country due to work reasons n became very good friends,we started sleeping around a month ago.i know he loves me and i love him too,but am afraid of ruining his happy family.I just want to stop but i dont know how cuz i have to work with him on a daily basis n i just love him.He,s always there for me.Pls advice me
2007-09-12 23:36:01 · 20 answers · asked by cat r 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it takes the power of the mind and great strength and courage to turn our backs to whatever makes us happy... in your case it's him, he makes you happy like nothing has ever done you so you want to stop but you can't because you don't want to lose that happiness...
Love should not be that complicated... He is married and is hooking up with someone else... Don't sell yourself short... Go for the real thing... Be the wife and not just a girlfriend, etc...
It's hard... but you just have to stop it with all your mighty strength and courage... You're gonna be sad even depressed... but then you did him and yourself a favor... by stopping it you give him an opportunity to grow up and start making wise decisions for himself... and also you did yourself a favor by not selling yourself short...
you are worth the real thing... that is a man who is not tied to someone else and will love you and only you and will be faithful to you... it takes a lot of time and effort to find that one person I know... I believe that's why people are impatient, and any person who ever pays attention be it married, widower, etc... they grab that opportunity.. to love and be loved...
But you already know it's wrong and you want to stop... therefore you also know that the happiness you have with him is not pure...
I'll say it again... don't sell yourself short...
You'll get over it with time..
2007-09-12 23:46:27 · answer #1 · answered by terra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds you both want to move on in your life but don't want to let each other go at the same time. It's a whining situation. You either let go completely or quit hurting and wasting the innocent people around you both and reconcile. I believe that everyone deserve someone who they are truly happy with. And by the two of you being with the people you are, you guys are only stopping them from being with someone who truly loves them. You both are not right for them. What is stopping you both from reuniting? Your friends and family's opinions? You guys may think your are protecting the persons you're with but you guys are actually hurting them by being unfaithful. No matter how innocent your feelings are it does not justify your actions. You do sound like a nice person but don't let your emotions rob you of that. You both need to be together or cut off.
2016-05-18 04:28:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
D/CAT
Is it not clear when a married man has sex with u?? He will have with another one if another opportunity comes. If u are sensible, u gotten close, u had him on bed and thats it-- now get over with it as this marriage or his continued support is not possible. U can still work and keep him at a distance--if u still cant control, u go ahead have an occsl sleeping together minus this love crap and wanting to get married and finally have sex with him without any emmotional comitement just for sex sake-- u will be alright then.
2007-09-13 00:35:21 · answer #3 · answered by TROUBLESHOOTERKILLROY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a difference between loving someone & beeing IN love with someone. PEOPLE-start realizing it: u cannot love someone in a month!!!! maybe 3 or 4 months..so- take a grip & try to understand that not only u WILL end up loving him, but u will also have yr heart broken. He has a family-u do not belong with him-at least not now.
Leave the guy.
2007-09-12 23:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by disco ball 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I spent some time dating only married women after my own divorce. I now think I wanted the guarantee that things would not go progress beyond a certain point. Regrettably I left a destructive wake which I am truly ashamed of.
2007-09-12 23:42:36 · answer #5 · answered by temerson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your making excuses for one of the most destructive SELFISH things someone can do to another person. You and your boyfriend are trifling whores and surely you can add HOME WRECKER to your resume eventually. KARMA is a long handed witch , the deeds we do to others we pay for ten times over. If he'll cheat on his wife he'll cheat on you DOLL. Pull your head out of your *** and get some moral fiber. You may get more than hurt feelings, some woman don't take kindly to cheating, you could get your *** beat down!
2007-09-12 23:48:05 · answer #6 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that is going to stop this is will power on your part. You can go to all sorts of professionals and throw away good money for nothing, but if you don't keep yourself in check, you will go on with this destructive act.
2007-09-12 23:42:07 · answer #7 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll get a whole lot of moralistic rubbish about this. Fact is ... if he'll cheat on her and you'll cheat on her... where are you heading in the trust stakes in the future? Trust is the most important thing in a relationship I think. If it's gone - you're screwed ... so to speak
2007-09-12 23:40:41 · answer #8 · answered by Quandary 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to stop is to STOP!..And take another look at what you've written - "he's always there for me"...I don't THINK so girly!....He's there for you when he wants sex, and when he's got a few mins/hours to spare away from his REAL life - the one he lives with his wife and kids!
Wake up and smell the coffee!
2007-09-12 23:40:57 · answer #9 · answered by cautious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone..(.He is married which you already know.) The ring is on the wife's finger and not yours... How does this demonstrate that he is also there for you? You deserve the best and only the best. Take care of yourself and do not allow yourself to be used.
2007-09-12 23:46:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋