I am a maid at the wedding which was to take place in 3 days time. Her fiance is the one who called one of us (the maids) to say the wedding has been cancelled. Herself she hasn't said anything. Should I call or wait? Doesn't she owe us an explanation?
2007-09-12 23:04:50 · 13 answers · asked by missfun 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
NO she does not owe you an explanation; however, SHE should have called to tell you the wedding is off. Wonder if she knows or if the fiance just decided.
Why don't you call and just say that you are sorry to hear that it has been canceled and if there's anything you can do to please let you know. You really DO NOT need to know the details if she isn't willing to talk now.
2007-09-15 02:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait here.
It's a very traumatic experience to call off a wedding-- there will be a lot of pressure, a lot of talk (behind their backs) and a lot of self-doubt.
No doubt that you as someone in the bridal party will be expecting (and probably hoping for) some kind of explanation here... but it's really a time for you to sit back and let her sort through things on her own. When she's ready, she will talk about it. If you're a maid, you're probably close to her, so in time she will come forward, perhaps. If not, you simply need to stick by her so she knows you're there.
It might be worth a very NON-pressuring NOTE sent to her house or dropped in her letterbox, saying, "I know things are probably hard for you right now. Just letting you know I'm here if you need me or want to talk."
Then leave it alone....
2007-09-16 09:30:38 · answer #2 · answered by LJG 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't push.
You are not that important and she does not 'owe' you anything.
Her problems are likely far greater than yours!
Be patient.
You will find out what happened. She's probably pretty stressed right now. Perhaps you can offer to help; but don't go around demanding things.
2007-09-13 00:18:24 · answer #3 · answered by mgerben 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The Doctor it right.
Now is not the time to wade in with questions and requests. She is no doubt in shock and needs time to reflect and heal from this experience. In time the story will be told. You just need to be a friend for her and let her know that you will help her in any way SHE needs.
Wait it out...patience...
support...
consideration..
2007-09-12 23:25:35 · answer #4 · answered by Goddess of Laundry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No she doesn't owe you anything, just let it be, she must have her own reasons it was probably hard enough for her to cancel it in the first place.
2007-09-13 01:03:23 · answer #5 · answered by chiefs fan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't owe you an explanation. At this difficult time I'm sure your friend is struggling. If you call, it should be because you are her friend and you are concerned about her.
2007-09-14 06:32:04 · answer #6 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO SHE DOESNT.... THIS IS OBVIOUSLY HER FIANCES DECISION SINCE HE IS THE ONE WHO MADE THE PHONE CALLS AND U NEED TO WAIT FOR THE BRIDE TO CALL U ... THIS ISNT ABOUT U THIS IS ABOUT HER AND WHAT HAPPENED... IF U WANT TEXT MESSAGE HER ON HER CELL PHONE AND TELL HER U ARE THERE IF SHE NEEDS U BUT DONT DEMAND A EXPLANATION FOR NOTHING... WHAT EVER HAPPENED BETWEEN THEM IS THEIR PERSONAL BUSINESS AND U SHOULD RESPECT IT...
2007-09-13 02:22:53 · answer #7 · answered by THE UK WILDCAT FAMILY 10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you call her just to let her know that she has a friend in you. Apparently, she is going through a very painful event in her life and perhaps at this point, she is not ready to talk yet. Just assure her that you support her in her decisions and that you will be there if she needs a friend. Give her time to heal. I am sure in time, she will be ready to talk and explain what happened.
2007-09-12 23:19:51 · answer #8 · answered by DR. MCVDQ 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
well...it is a bit delicate situation u r in... but, i think u'd better give ur friend some time and do not bother her with unpleasant questions... who know what feeling she is going through...most probably she needs a little time to be alone with her thoughts and feelings...to think everything over...i am sure she will contact u as soon as she calms down...
2007-09-12 23:25:48 · answer #9 · answered by miraclelight777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't call, she has enough on her mind, if she needs you, and she calls, be a good friend, but she will call you if she needs your help
2007-09-13 01:25:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋