Hello guys?Am in a very tight spot n i so much need you help.I don't know how 2 deal with issue i've about a gal am very much crazy about.I meet this girl in the internet about an yr ago n we hooked up.we slowly grew fond of each other n we fell in luv wit each other-atleast i do luv her,but am not sure about her...but she say she does luv me.We have never meet n this is cuz we live very much apart from each other.....like in different countries n different continents.But we've talked so much how we will meet each other after her schoolin.I do luv her so much,and infact i think i've never luved anyone this much.But the thing is she does makes me doubt of her luv 4 ma.She is sometimes very cold 2 me and she closes me out when it comes 2 talking about her family.Recently her father died,but she didn't let me kno about it!I found out about her father after his funeral.This has changed ma alot lately that she has taken notice.She says am not the same.But i don't know how 2 tell her of this
2007-09-12 22:52:39 · 6 answers · asked by steve 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would be very careful in this situation. Have you ever even met in person? Meeting people through the internet can be successful, it can also be a complete nightmare (Hard Candy style). It is very easy to mistake what you are feeling for love. I would try to cool off (there must be a reason she is doing so). You cannot do anything serious with this relationship until you have met in person and can start to develop a relationship face to face. Meeting a person on the internet and meeting a person face to face are two different things. Anyone can type something amazing when they have had time to think about it. When you are face to face, there are not as many secrets and the truth of the real person comes out. Try not to stress about it. I would calm down and get out more. The internet is not always the best place to meet people. Stay friends with her and then see what develops from there after you have met a few times. Don't go psycho though as, if she is genuine, you will scare her off!
2007-09-12 23:02:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Judging by your question description,
I'm assuming you're still pretty young.
Not saying that you can't be in love,
but you might not have as experience in 'love' as other people.
Of course there's the stranger danger factor on the internet.
But you could also be in stranger danger with someone down the street..
If you really do love her,
the only way to meet her is to fly other there, or her to you.
If you are both really serious, either of these WILL happen.
About her having her 'off' days,
it's completely normal.
Sure, she could just not be into you as much as you seem to be into her,
but she's probably just tired etc.
All the best.
2007-09-13 06:03:28 · answer #2 · answered by Jolly Polly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is easy to get duped on the internet. she may like you to talk to but when you start talking about her family she will not tell you anything. you can never really know them until you meet them a few times. maybe you could go on holiday there? tell her you might go on holiday there, see what her reaction is! if she makes excuses then you need to ask questions. when you talk on the internet it is a lot different from knowing someone, you get on well but when you meet you may not get on at all.
2007-09-13 06:03:41 · answer #3 · answered by blue_lagoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her feels are genuine than you should have no secrets and be able to ask her these questions yourself, then it will be your decision to carry on with this long distance Internet relationship or not. Take care and try to think rationally concerning your future life.!!
2007-09-13 06:21:28 · answer #4 · answered by 121aloraphotos 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Steve, I never read other’s answers b4 I write mine...but this time I did. I MUST SAY THAT I AGREE WITH “YANDA” 100%. Lemme tell u a REAL story about 2 ppl I know that met on the internet.....
I had a best friend that met this guy from Australia (she’s from the U.S.) She fell head over heels for him. They emailed n IM’d many times daily. They also spoke on the phone. She left her husband n two small children to go n meet him there. She called me daily about HOW WONDERFUL he was. Though I was skeptical about the whole situation, I still supported her b/c she was my best friend. But she also knew my thoughts on why I was apprehensive about it all. He was older than her by 15+ yrs n he still didn’t have a stable life...BIG RED FLAG!
She was there for almost 2 months then returned to the U.S. with him. OH...I FORGOT TO MENTION that she even went as far as filing for divorce right b4 she went there. They married as soon as her divorce was final. I had recently married n had not put my home up for sale. So I rented to them. When my husband n I went over to have em sign the rental agreement, he said to my husband: (she n I wasn’t there) “WHAT KIND OF MESS DID I GET MYSELF INTO?!?! I GAVE UP A GOOD LIFE IN MY COUNTRY THAT I MISS TERRIBLY TO BECOME AN INSTANT HUSBAND N FATHER!!!”
She had changed...she couldn’t call me when he was home b/c he didn’t like me. I never did anything to make him feel this way, he was just controlling! She then started calling me daily b/c of their fighting, which had become physical. I’m not sure who hit who first. But it was NOT a good environment for her two small children and she had just had a baby with him. She had gotten pregnant while she was in Australia. I think she did it on purpose so he then had an obligation to her.
They fought like cats n dogs n were both miserable with NO FINANCIAL MEANS of being able to go their separate ways. She TRIED to get her ex-husband back...he was too smart for that situation!! Heck, she’d only be back on the computer looking for another guy!!! He became ill n was diagnosed with Cancer. Which at this point she had given birth to their second child! He lived maybe a year.
Guess what she was doing while he was dying? YEP...on the internet finding another man from over seas...this one from Ireland. He came here shortly after her husband passed n they were married in no time!!! He knew nothing about her husband that had died!!! U CAN BE WHOMEVER U WANT ON THE INTERNET!!! IT’S LIKE PLAYING A PART IN A MOVIE!!! Unfortunately she suckered men into believing she was this person she wasn’t. She’s a REAL GOOD ACTOR n should receive an Oscar Award for it!!!
While they were married (which wasn’t long), her n her girlfriend were going out. YEP...”going out” as in going to the bars. (I had washed my hands of our friendship by that time....WAY TOO MUCH DRAMA N SHE CAUSED MANY PROBLEMS IN MY MARRIAGE) She didn’t come home one weekend n he packed up n went back to Ireland!!! He had BOUGHT them a different house, n he took his losses n left!!!
SUCH A GOOD MAN THAN HAD BEEN SCAMMED BY A CONNIVING MANIPULATIVE FEMALE! Even with him being over sea’s, she continued to harass him. Phone calls n evil emails...you name it, she thought of it n did it!
OH!!!!!! Did I mention that she immediately had a guy move in when he moved out?!?! Last time I heard, she had gone through 3 or 4 men moving in and out...... The big lesson here: IF A PERSON CAN BE WHOMEVER THEY WANT IN REAL LIFE, JUST THINK HOW THEY CAN PORTRAY THEMSELVES ON THE INTERNET!!!
A word from the wise: find a REAL female! You r gonna save urself a lot of problems!!! I’ve known quite a few ppl from Yahoo! 360 that had internet relationships. Not one had worked out. Be wise, not fooled by a wolf in sheep’s clothing!
BEST WISHES, Deb
2007-09-13 08:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by Two Feather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is probably a he! bend over n hold ya ankles matey
2007-09-13 05:57:48 · answer #6 · answered by Tiger01204 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋