People say that women are clingy, needy and emotional, but in my experience guys are like that. It seems like most guys are just looking for someone to be their mother. The guys that I've dated recently wouldn't give me any space, they were constantly breathing down my neck, calling me and asking me questions like "What are you thinking about?" One guy I was dating got SO upset when I forgot his birthday. I admit, that was pretty horrible of me but I didn't understand why he got so upset. We weren't dating for a long time (less than 2 months) and I honestly wouldn't care if he forgot my b-day. It wasn't like we were dating for 2 years
I think I am just too independent, stubborn and set in my ways? Or are guys just too clingy? Recently I've been called an "ice queen". I don't think I'm cold, I just don't go crazy over someone in a matter of weeks. I can be nurturing and loving, but it takes a while for me to be like that. I don't pretend to adore someone when I really could care less.
2007-09-12 22:23:46 · 7 answers · asked by A.H. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Partly, I think they may be looking for more in a relationship than you are.
Let it be known from the beginning if you don't want to get serious right away. Men have emotional needs, too, and if they get serious they will want something in the way of a commitment from you.
Usually these roles are reversed. You might try looking for other ways to meet men. It sounds like older guys might be right for you, although that won't guarantee they won't be clingy.
You may be too inflexible and too insensitive. Most women like men to be more sensitive and it's really unusual to see a woman react negatively to sensitivity.
I think you may need to try to find the right guy and narrow your dating down to him. Be up front with the men you date and be a little more accepting if they do become attached to you sooner than you're ready for them to.
It is really hard to get two people on exactly the same wavelength, so I would counsel a little more patience.
2007-09-12 22:38:42 · answer #1 · answered by Warren D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but the pool of guys HAS become significantly "wimpier", not to mention more desperate, within the last 30-40 or so years. Nothing wrong with you. Just sift through the losers until you find the right guy.
2007-09-12 22:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Loyalty has turned into clingy
loving has turned into emo
attentitive has turned into stalker
You the one's that skewed all the good traits men possess.
Truth is though, you not and ice queen, your just afraid of connecting to someone. It's not a sign of weakness to love and nurture someone it's a sign of being human.
2007-09-12 22:31:49 · answer #3 · answered by shadycaliber 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Obviously you are dating guys u dun love. If u love him, then you will pay particular attention to everything and anything.
One way u can do is not to date guys unless you love him.
Sounds like the guy do love you and obviously you dun feel the same. Maybe make it clear to him so he can find the right partner.
2007-09-12 22:31:11 · answer #4 · answered by sydneybeach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you. I was like that myself. I was always saying to myself i wouldn't let myself get hurt so i never opened up to anyone. but then I met a guy who just melted me down. i never imagined i could be so in touch with my emotions the way i am right now, with him. don't worry. a guy will come and sweep you off your feet, and you'll "melt" ;) I hope i helped. just speaking from my experience.
2007-09-12 22:48:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well try to find out why you are atracting guys that are clingy maybe you are coming off wrong to the wrong guys,also you are probably blowing off the guys you would probably like and dont realize it you might have some issues you need to deal with
2007-09-12 22:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by jmcslob 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I got the same thing w/ my gf...i think we're just suckers for sad faces
2007-09-12 22:28:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋