My boyfriend has always got hot over seeing threesomes on TV and in films and has suggested to me for us to have one. I actually find it quite a turn on and have kissed my female friends many times before but never done anything else. How do we go about this? What are the "rules" of threesomes if there are any? How do you start it all off when all three of us are sat there on the bed!?!? We have a friend who has hinted that she would be up for it.
2007-09-12 22:06:11 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We have talked about and set rules - there aren't any - we can both do what we want and the other girl can do exactly what she wants
2007-09-12 22:17:01 · update #1
hope you ain't the jealous type...have a pow-wow beforehand and discuss rules, limitations,etc.
2007-09-12 22:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well usually couples that want to have a threesome try to find somebody that they dont really know. That way there is no awkwardness later. You could do it with a friend but it could make the friendship a little weird if you hang out a lot. Alright the way you go about it is you almost have to be blunt. If you try to beat around the bush when asking someone, it makes it sound like your scared of doing it and arent for sure that you want to do it. Some of the rules of threesomes is the guy MUST start with his girl first. Because if he doesnt his girlfriend will probably find it an insult and well the sex probably wont be that great afterwards then. So I say you all start out kissing (again couple first and then he can kiss her and then the two girls can kiss). Its kinda of a major rule that for every new act or position, the guy should do it with his girlfriend before trying it on other girl. If you really want to turn your boyfriend on though, try taking it doggie style from him and at the same time performing oral on the other girl. This is probably the biggest turn-on ever for guys. For some reason we all like seeing girl-on-girl action while getting some ourselves. Anyway, after awhile the hormones should kick in and you guys will get in a rhytm and lust will carry you guys through the entire session. Sorry it almost sounds perverted that I give such detailed advice but hey Im a guy and i know how I would go about it and like. Enjoy
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2007-09-13 05:21:53 · answer #2 · answered by _ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good, you've already set the rules, and you've talked. First off... talk more! Talk about it *more* than you think you need to, because I guarentee, something is going to go wrong. Even if nothing goes wrong in the sense of one of you getting jealous, someone is going to laugh at the wrong time or say the wrong thing or tickle the wrong spot or get kicked in the head or fall off the bed or get thirsty and need to get a glass or water or have an upset stomach from too much desert or *something* will go wrong! Be prepared for it, whatever it is.
Now, the other part of your question: how do you get it started. Personally, I find that natural is the best way to go about these kinds of things. Invite her over, and since you and he will both know what's going on, it's open flirt for him. It's only natural that when you're flirted with by someone that you wouldn't mind being with, you flirt back... so she'll flirt back if she's really okay with it. (Maybe even if she's not... tread softly.) If she's receptive to him flirting, or only seems nervous about flirting back with you there, start flirting with her together as a couple. (Sometimes starting with that can be "too much" or "too scary" for some girls, best if it starts with just him flirting.) And when I mean flirting, I mean really flirting. If you're at a bar together, have him ask for permission to buy her a drink, complement her dress, offer his coat, etc. When you flirt as a couple, offer to give her a ride, take turns asking her to dance, let your hands wander while you're dancing. If you invite her to your house have him complement what she's wearing, have him sit next to her (between the two of you, or just the two of them) and "oops... I didn't mean to brush your leg... do you mind?" and "It's just easier if my arm is around your shoulders... do you mind?" And when you're flirting together, you can say, "Isn't it just so comfortable leaning on his chest like this. You try it," and "Oh, I have the cutest nighty that I think would fit you... want to give him a little show?" Let the evening evolve. And don't push it. Eventually, either it will build and things will hapen, or it won't. Just like when you're on a second or third date, either you'll end up in bed, or you won't. No big, plenty of time/fish-in-the-sea if it doesn't work out that way.
2007-09-16 21:49:13 · answer #3 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to set rules. Would you mind if you guy was having sex with her or just you? can he kiss her? Can he eat her out? How are you going to feel about that? There is a lot of things that you have to take in consideration but I think it would be a wonderful suprise gift.
2007-09-13 05:15:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Im in the process of working that out now, but the girl isnt my girlfriend just a friend with the benefits :) So i dont think there will be any problems
2007-09-13 05:25:10 · answer #5 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many relationships do you think will be ruined if you let this happen? I can count 3 and then there are the aftershocks of everyone else finding out.
2007-09-13 05:12:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think it's a start to ruin a planned long term relationships.
but if you think u don't want a long term relationship w/ this guy, go for it.
but any decision, u r the kind of girl that i like.....
lol
2007-09-13 05:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by Andrew Petrucci 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were to go ahead, find someone you don't know and will never see again.A no strings attatched, one night stand if you like.Jealousy always comes into it.
2007-09-13 05:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i certainly wish you were my girlfiend. what an exciting experience that could be.
2007-09-13 08:18:34 · answer #9 · answered by willie_mosconi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋