I have been a good guy all my life. Always shown respect to women. Always tried to be sensitive to their needs, and respect them as people and partners. And I've got nothing but crap for it. Women don't respect me. I always lose them to the @ssholes anyway. So, I'm a bad guy from now on. I'm going to sleep with as many women as I can, and use them any way I want.
2007-09-12 20:53:47 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I really can't tell you if it was a front. But if it was, it was a front I carried around for 25 years. I doesn't really matter now. I'm done with it.
2007-09-12 21:02:36 · update #1
If men are jerks, it's because girls want them that way. They all say they want a nice guy - but they'll go for the jerk every time.
2007-09-12 21:05:05 · update #2
So now, for you, it's "payback is the *****" time.
I feel your pain. I've always wondered too why women fall for jerks and *****les.
Be careful with the planting of wild seeds though. You might hurt yourself, physically and emotionally, in the process.
2007-09-12 21:09:49 · answer #1 · answered by 123mantobeat456 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think you're posting this question because deep down you don't like who you have chosen to become (a bad guy) and you need to know good guys are appreciated. I wish there were more good guys around. The kind that are respectful, and sensitive, listens to you and offers solutions. A guy that's not only interested in sleeping with as many girls as possible.
The women that did not respect you when you were a good guy are probably not the type you want to end up with. So why waste your time with them? On the other hand, just because you are a nice guy it doesn't mean you let people step all over you. Every girl, especially a good girl wants a guy who can and will step up for her. Simply because it can be very uncomfortable for her to do that for herself. If you let people who DON'T appreciate you change your way, you are letting those people bully you and, in turn, you are ruining your possibility of meeting the special person who WILL appreciate you for who you really are.
Do you feel happy to sleep with a lot of women and using them? I think if you were, you would not be posting here. Stay true to yourself. Shake the haters. So what if there're a lot of misses. You only need to find 1.
2007-09-13 04:16:09 · answer #2 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chin up pal! I know how you feel. I've been treated the same by girls many times, and had a chip on my shoulders for a few years as a result too. It's not worth it. If you are a nice person and you start to act like a jerk, all you will ever feel like is a jerk. Women who go for @ssholes are losers anyway. Be strong and true to yourself. Be nice but don't be a doormat. Stand up for yourself and move on if you have to. There will be someone more deserving of your time elsewhere. I know it's hard when all you seem to meet is losers who go for these guys, but with a bad attitude all you will ever do is keep on meeting these losers and missing out on getting to know some of those good and special girls. Trust me. I found out the hard way.
2007-09-13 04:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mustang Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a difference between being a nice guy and a pushover. Women want a man that can be sensitive and caring, yet assertive and strong, emotionally. Maybe you were too much of a doormat, sorry you had bad experiences, but sleeping around and using women isn't going to make you feel better in the long run.
2007-09-13 04:02:54 · answer #4 · answered by ctelly22 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way to go, dude. Being a nice guy won't get you nowhere, especially with women. I know it's not easy for someone nice to change, but for god's sake do your best to change and be a jerk with women. Your good side will probably make you feel bad about doing such thing, but here's what you need to know, if these stupid women don't feel sorry for themselves -when they date and stay with jerks- why should you ? After all, it is they who're actually pushing the nice men into being jerks and a**wholes. Good luck.
Oh yeah, try listening to the Tom leykis show on the radio, or check it out on the web. It's a must for nice guys.
2007-09-13 04:15:22 · answer #5 · answered by Mr_realist 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give respect to yourself first so others will respect you. You dont have to be bad to earn respect. They are just some people who are taking advantage of you. Learn how to say no and stand firm to your principles. Always be yourself. The right one will come to you and for sure she's the best one. My mother always telling me...its better that you can say something to that person rather saying something on you. Atleast everytime you'll learn something new and it will make you a better person.
2007-09-13 04:12:27 · answer #6 · answered by "Maldita" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look astro just because you haven't ecounter with the goos girls doesn't mean that you have to get revenge and sleep with as many women as you can do you really want all those infections....i'm pretty sure that you knowing how to respect a girl is because your parents taught you those morals...why would you change that??? not all the girls are the same.... but it seems that you just have met girls that don't value or appriciated they way you are....i would love to have met a guy like you i've only met jerks so i guess its goes both ways... i suggest to you not to change the way that you are...sooner or later you are going to met a girl that does appriciate you...what do you think all those girls are going to end up like..???. i'm pretty sure that they are going to be hurt by all those guys that don't appriciated them or care for them that all they want is sex.. do you really want to be one of those guys...if you do then that's sad....don't stoop up to their lever they are not worth it.....later on its going to be them who don't feel respected or appriciated .. (what goes around comes around right?)
i'm glad that there's still guys like you in this crazy world thanks for knowing how to treat& respect a gurl...i hope you don't make the wrong decision... and don't change your personally... ( you are already appricated by me :) good luck and best wishes
2007-09-13 04:18:12 · answer #7 · answered by rosalinda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sleeping with a lot of women dont make you a bad guy, the bad guys are the ones that lie to sleep with as many women as they can. As long as you real and up front you are still good :) well maybe not good, but not bad.
2007-09-13 04:03:05 · answer #8 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmmm...so you want to be an asshole like those bitches too?u want to go to their level?isn't that stupid?look a lot of people gets hurt we can't help it..thats life..what if the girl for you finally came and you played around with her?then you realized she really did love you,and you let her go..isn't that what you want from the start a girl who would love you till the very end?how will you get want you want when you go to the level of those stupid bitches, don't let them affect you, just look at it this way they were just challenges to gain knowledge to have a better lasting relationship, to know how to handle a relationship that will last, don't be a jerk like them, its not worth it, goodluck!hope you still be a decent guy..
2007-09-13 04:05:41 · answer #9 · answered by rentaw02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a bad guy doesn't make it better...n while being a good guy all the girls u lost to the stupid guys r not even worth the respect u gave them...dude i think u should keep being a nice guy cuz on tht path u'll find a gril worth ur respect n emotions...don't change...
2007-09-13 04:08:26 · answer #10 · answered by *~LoVeAnGeL~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋