I sent my cousin (she's 41) a few photos of us ages ago, and not once did she even have the decency to reply. Each time she sends/emails me photos of her, I eagerly thank and welcome them. Now my mum wants to send her a handmade card with photos of her when she was a child. I said to her,"But she hasn't even answered our photos yet from a year ago". Do you think my mum is being too nice, because I certainly wouldn't send her a card like that when she rarely appreciates/acknowledges my communication with her.
2007-09-12 20:53:21 · 10 answers · asked by Hello 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think your mum is right. I believe in treating others the way I would want to be treated, and your mum sounds like that kind of person also. Hopefully, if you do it long enough, it will rub off on them..... plus, she is family, and maybe she is busy.. does she have a family, etc... You could email her and ask if she got the photos you sent... and did she like them? I think keeping in touch with family is very important... But if you do it, do it from the heart... not expecting anything in return.. then you will feel better about it.
2007-09-12 21:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by suisse shoggi 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and your mum are naturally thoughtful people and sending a handmade card to your cousin is a lovely thing to do so don't go against your nature, even if you think you might be being too nice to a cousin who doesn't always reciprocate - it might be that she really appreciates your efforts but isn't organised enough herself to properly acknowledge them - don't be too hard on her, I am sure she will get around to thanking you eventually.
2007-09-12 22:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleybumple 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mum seems a nice woman and she loves her family. You are more down to earth and you know how your cousin really is, so I understand why you don't think it would be a nice idea to send the card when she is so ungrateful. Talk to your mum ( don't argue) and tell her to send her something less emotive as you know your cousin doesn't appreciate it at all. If she still wants to send the card, let her do it, she will realise herself how ungrateful your cousin is.
2007-09-12 21:07:29 · answer #3 · answered by Lola 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with the above answerer, actually. I believe all relationships are 2 way streets and your cousin sounds very selfish. I would advise your mum to stop being so nice and let your cousin make a fuss over your mum, rather than vice a versa.
2007-09-12 21:04:05 · answer #4 · answered by Say It Like You Mean It 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all depends what kind of relation your mom has had with your cousin (41), maybe they were good friends more than relatives earlier in life when you were not there. Take your mom into confidence. Discuss with her, whats the reason she is not responding, maybe its genuine or maybe she has not received your mail at all. Don't jump to conclusions. There definately will be something which you are unaware.
2007-09-12 21:05:33 · answer #5 · answered by Olvin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you ,your mum is being to nice to say thank you to your mum wouldn't hurt. I have the same problem with my relatives but i tend not to be so obliging nowadays. Good manners don't hurt and i think to acknowledge someones kindness wouldn't hurt she is just being rude.
2007-09-15 06:19:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's up with you,do you only give to get,why should she reply,if she sends stuff to you and you reply with thanks then that's the way you do things,don't start getting paranoid about it just carry on doing what you do or you'll turn into a nasty old woman.
Life's too short.
Cheeky......
2007-09-14 02:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your mum is being human! your cousin might have other more important things to do. you think too much
2007-09-12 21:08:06 · answer #8 · answered by Ottilie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you sure she actually received the photos? you know what the post can be like !
2007-09-12 21:05:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you know that she actually received the email!
2007-09-12 22:14:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋