I was with this guy that I know through a friend the other night . It was completely out of character for me, I usually make guys wait a long time before I will sleep with them but anyway part of the reason why I slept with him was because I'm on the rebound. The next morning he asked me Who was Derek (my ex fiance's name) and I told him he was my ex and asked him why he asked that. Then he said I was calling out his name while we were..well you know. I felt so bad! I mean why didn't he tell me when I was doing it. I didn't even know I had done that. Now, I'm so embarassed. I can't even look at him anymore. Plus, I told my cousin and she told all of our friends about it and they were laughing at me! It's like they have nothing else to talk about it! How can I make them stop and maybe make it up to the other guy?
2007-09-12 19:47:42 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you actually like this guy then apologize and leave it at that. There really isn't anything you can do to help a person to recover from that situation. How would you feel? What would make you feel better?
As you said you are on the rebound....you probably aren't really into this guy anyway. If you want to see him again a simple sorry is probably the only thing to do.
As far as your friends making fun of you....well there isn't anything you can do about that.It's funny, plain and simple! It's not for you but to everyone else (except probably the guy you were with) it's really a funny story. Imagine that it happened to one of your friends. Wouldn't you think it was pretty funny? Maybe not. But a sense of humor really is the best way to handle this.
2007-09-12 19:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by Sherri S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear Miss Crabs-
Don't be to hard on yourself. I imagine this guy will get over it fairly quickly. His buddies will tease him for awhile, but they're just jealous that he's gettin' it.
While using the wrong name in the heat of passion is not a good idea, you're not the first it's happened to. And won't be the last. However, if this is THE GUY you'll need to make amends.
You also may want to stop telling your cousin things that you don't want spread around. I believe she showed you her strips and you can expect more of the same in the future.
Let your friends know that you can see the humor in the situation, have a good laugh with them and then move on. Everybody makes mistakes, and I'm sure your friends do too.
2007-09-12 20:07:24 · answer #2 · answered by poolplayer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the guy just what you said that you are on the rebound, that you did even know that you where doing it, and how embarrassed you are, etc...., as for your friends the less you say about it from here on out or let them know it is bothering you that they are saying things the faster they will move on to some thing else. Hope it all smooth es out.....
2007-09-12 19:57:15 · answer #3 · answered by humboldt1965amy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your situation. You can dance with the music. Don't be embarrassed. Tell them the truth, especially that guy. You are still in love with your ex. He's a nice sex partner, that you still longed for him. If they laughed at you, you laugh with them. Soon they will stop laughing.
2007-09-12 20:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by jan2 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Laugh with them. Look we all say things that we did not mean to say. I am on #???? wife and I have call my current wife by a name of Number???. She really doesn't like it but I have done it. So has everyone who is laughing. We all do things we are embarrassed about, however no one got sick died or went to the hospital..... Laugh with them.
2007-09-12 19:59:58 · answer #5 · answered by Sir Wayne 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Crab,
This is normal.
And don worry about everyone talking, it will soon be forgotten. Also no need to make it up with the other guy...
Calm down.... things will fall into place.
Real issue here is actually how to get out of your ex... how to move on... how to get him out of your mind and system...
If you really need help regarding this then mail me and I will help you.
All the best
2007-09-12 19:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by Ash 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
either one should make a point in sleeping only with own spouse. otherwise there should be no inhibitions and no shame. u need not feel embarassed as it is your discretion to sleep with anyone u like. every moment is unique and u have full and unquestionable control on your each and every moment. so go ahead and feel no embarassment.
2007-09-12 19:58:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friends and cousin that you were not saying Derek you were saying Da Wreck Da Wreck....I don't know i'm sorry....I did before....all you can do is say your sorry and move on...laugh at it with them and they will stop laughing at you for it..until they get drunk and bring it up from time to time.
2007-09-12 19:52:34 · answer #8 · answered by madkandy665 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WELL THAT BITES !!! SORRY YOUR HAVING SUCH A BAD TIME, BUT SOMETIMES WHEN YOU TRY YO FIX THINGS THEY ONLY GET WORSE. CALL THE GUY AND EXPLAIN, LIKE YOU DID HERE. AS FOR EVERY ONE ELSE, THEY'LL MOVE ON AS SOON AS SOMETHING ELSE HAPPENS. THEY SOUND LIKE THE TYPE OF PEOPLE WHO THRIVE ON OTHER PEOPLES ISSUES. HOPE IT BLOWS OVER QUICK!!! HANG IN THERE!!
2007-09-12 20:03:02 · answer #9 · answered by mother of 4! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its not that bad dont worry about your friends and as for making it up to that guy you know what you can do hehehe just use his name this time. actually dont worry about that guy are you doing anything tonight
2007-09-12 19:54:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋