How much can I personalize it? Can I have secular readings? We can have it without the Eucharist correct? Any information about Catholic ceremonies is helpful.
2007-09-12 18:53:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i can understand your questions. my husband is catholic and i am not, so i had a ton of questions. you do have to met with the priest or deacon before the wedding, and they are really good at answering any questions. i recieved a little book that listed all of the little rituals that take place and whether or not they were optional. if they were not (like readings and vows) it list all your options. all i had to do was go through the book and check off what i wanted and then give it back to the priest/deacon so he knew what we wanted and didn't want. (we chose not to have the eucharist)
you also have "run through" or "practice" ceremony usually the night before the wedding. that was really helpful.
go talk to the people in the office/rectory for the church, they will guide you through the whole process.
2007-09-13 02:59:24 · answer #1 · answered by sprikles_777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Catholic weddings always have the Holy Mass. The wedding rites are in the middle of the entire Eucharistic celebration. The Catholic Church have certain readings taken from the Holy Bible for the Holy Mass (1st reading, responsorial psalm, 2nd reading and the Gospel). You can't have secular readings. Why don't you go to the Church where you intend to wed and ask the Parish Priest for what needs to be done or what needs to be prepared. Usually different churches and different priests have their own way of personalizing some parts of the ceremony...say, personal wedding vows or processional songs, wedding songs. But there is already a certain structure that needs to be followed. That would make the wedding more solemn.
2007-09-12 20:39:53 · answer #2 · answered by sandae 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would have to ask the priest about secular readings. The Sacrament of Marriage in the Catholic Church is very much like a regular Mass, and I think they're usually pretty firm on choosing Bible readings. You do not have to have full Mass with the Sacrament of the Eucharist. And if you don't have full Mass, you can have a deacon officiate instead of a priest.
2007-09-13 13:30:55 · answer #3 · answered by ds37x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you give yourself enough time (like 6 months +) to do pre-cana. This is an ABSOLUTE must if you want to get married in the church. Its also one reason DF and I are NOT getting married in a Catholic church (we have less than 4 months between engagement and wedding). Everything else depends on how strict your priest. DF's sister had mass but not the Eucharist (keep in mind if you have family/friends who are NOT Catholic and you have the Eucharist, they can not partake in that...which might piss some people off)
2007-09-13 05:02:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should meet with a priest ASAP. Some parishes require 6 months in advance, so don't wait too long.
You can personalize it a little, but in historic churches, there are limitations on flowers, candles, etc. Pew bows are rarely allowed. The service has to stick to the standard, but within that standard, you have choices.
No, you can't have secular readings, unless you can convince the priest to use them in his homily. Save that for the reception or print them on your programs.
Yes, you can have it without the Eucharist.
2007-09-13 08:43:16 · answer #5 · answered by sparki777 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't personalize it too much. It's up to the priest really. You don't have to have communion but that would mean not having a mass. I am a Catholic and go to church but I didn't have a mass at my wedding. Having been a guest at many I feel that it's too long and distracts from the reason why everyone is there. Not to mention that if more than half your guests aren't Catholic it is uncomfortable for them.
2007-09-13 02:55:48 · answer #6 · answered by Luv2Answer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 12:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It totally depends upon your priest, parish, diocese, so go talk things out with him. You can either have the full Mass, or just the Rite of Marriage.
Make sure you contact the priest well ahead of time, so you and your bf can be fit into the pre-marital classes at a convenient time.
2007-09-13 02:50:34 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is check with the Priest. They usually are open to your liking however, some priests are strict with handling the ceremony the traditional way. Just ask and tell what you want. :D Best wishes and good luck!
2007-09-12 19:03:31 · answer #9 · answered by Autismmomof2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That the service will be unnecessarily long and boring. Do talk to the priest though.
2007-09-12 20:10:54 · answer #10 · answered by skunk pie 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋