I recently met this guy online (through a dating site). We have gone on a couple dates and everything seems to be working out fine. He has said in the past that he wants to get closer to me and has introduced me to some of his friends. However, we tend to hang out only when he is free and available. Is he just taking me along for the ride or is he interested? At our last date, we went out and held hands for the first time. His emails are confusing and I just want to know if he is interested. His profile is still active online so is he holding out on me? Soo many questions!
2007-09-12 18:53:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he was just using you for sex he wouldn't just now be holding your hand. He has no reason to lie if is all he has been doing is treating you as a friend. I think he is just trying to show you respect since he did meet you online. Talk to him it's that easy say I would like to know how you feel about me? If he doesn't answer to where you understand ask him specific questions. Good Luck
2007-09-12 18:59:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is the tricky thing about online dating. I mean you have usually reestablish all the stuff the person has said online when you actually meet them. I mean I have had a friend be serioiusly lied to and even pressured for sex and stuff even though both guys say they weren't lookng for that right off. As for the friends he could just be very busy with his job and doesn't get much chance to see them or let you meet them. And as for the online status he probably hasn't been on that site in a while since actually meeting you, so he hasn't really changed the status to in a relationship or taken it off of the site. I think you should ask him direct questions about stuff and don't hint around about anything. If the guy is for real he should be able to explain what he is thinking. If not I say you should end things before you get led along too far and you get hurt.
2007-09-13 02:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that he is interested. But in what way? This guy might be working a few of you at the same time. Really, you should continue searching for someone better. That is the advantage of on line dating. To get the right guy and not the first guy to respond. Get the kind of guy that you think is a soul mate. Someone who does not leave you with questions. Good luck to you!
2007-09-13 02:04:10 · answer #3 · answered by orcarius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may have some competition going on.... He probably is interested in you, but, at the same time, he might be interested in someone else, and he's trying both of you out for a little while. Before you work yourself up by all the thoughts, why don't you take a little break for few days. See how you feel about him and his emails.
2007-09-13 02:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by myboo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you sound so insecure right now.
He introduced you to some friends, you guys went out on a couple dates, he said he wants to get closer to you, and he wants to hang out with you when he is free and available. Oh yeah and you recently held hands for the first time.
Where in that situation brought on him trying to play you?
Sounds like he has enough respect for you to take it slow. To make sure its what you want, since you guys started from online dating, and now you guys are face to face. thats got to be a total different kind of dating isn't it? for a while you were dating words on a computer screen, now you are actually dating those words face to face.
Cut the guy some slack. Gonna tell you now, guys do not like women to base who and how they are from the womans assumptions.
You haven't stated any thing on here that would make me think that he was just fooling around. So please dont get mad, you asked....I'm just one of the answers.....I just think your being a little insecure....cut the guy some slack.
2007-09-13 02:05:21 · answer #5 · answered by Lilkryptonite 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thirty-five percent of the people who use personal ads for dating are already married. Just keep this in mind! It is too soon to really know. A couple of dates does not mean love is in the air!!
2007-09-13 02:19:04 · answer #6 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well id say dont take things too fast. He may not even be the one for you. Its still too soon to tell. And maybe that is why he hasn't taken his dating profile down. Explore your options. Thats probably what he is doing when he isn't with you. Then see if he is what you really want to persue.
2007-09-13 01:57:48 · answer #7 · answered by younggb77 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like he is keeping you around just in case, If he is still active. If he is not available or hard to reach he already has someone.
2007-09-13 01:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to talk to him about it. If you haven't defined yourself as together yet or exclusive he may be leaving his profile active till that point. Talk to your guy and see if he's interested or not.
2007-09-13 02:01:07 · answer #9 · answered by Megs 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're best off confronting him. Just ask "Are we an exclusive couple, or are you still looking at other girls?". The straight-forward way is often the best.
2007-09-13 01:59:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋