my 10 year old son is a lifelong bedwetter. He wears pullups at night and is proud of it. My question is, how can he respond to friends who tease him about it? It's becoming a real problem.
2007-09-12 18:20:15 · 8 answers · asked by Meg R 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Take him to the doctor...at age 10 this should NOT be an issue outside of something medical.
If it is not medical...read a biography about George Orwell...he was incontinent as a child and got over it pretty quick due to his father's intervention.
*cheers*
2007-09-12 18:31:39 · answer #1 · answered by Osmei 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I know how he feels because I was a bed wetter up until my early teen years and I was put in diapers for it. My true friends knew about the diapers and didn't really care so I did have sleep overs and it was no big deal, on occasion some one would pop a joke but in fun kidding. There was no teasing. A couple things, I would tell him not to go around bragging that he still wears a pullup diaper if he is proud of it, and if someone does find out, if he has a sleep over get with the parents and let them know so they can inform the person he would be spending the night with so there wont be any teasing. I think its all about how you handle the situation, he is a bedwetter and you choose to use pullup diapers to control the situation and thats what you intend to keep doing.
Good luck
2007-09-13 11:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by xxxxxxxxxx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have to agree with the above posters, take him to the doctor to rule out it is not a physical problem, but if it is, get him the proper treatment.
What concerns me is that that you say he is "proud" of wearing pull ups at night...that is very disturbing. Most kids want to fit in with their peers and that alone is an incentive to want to have control of their bladder. If a physical ailment is ruled out, the next step would have him see a psychiatrist as there may be an underlying psychological problem that needs to be dealt with. It could end up being not a issue of bladder control, but wanting control over some other area he doesn't have any control over and by wetting the bed/wearing pull ups, it is putting him in control of that situation.
Some boys grow out of bedwetting at night when the hit adolescence and some never do completely and still have set backs when they are ill, overly tired and just have to take precautions their entire life. In that case, honestly with their true friends is the best policy; it is like a disability and not something they can help and wearing a pullup (or adult diaper later on in life) is the lesser of the two evils (the worse evil being wetting the bed).
2007-09-12 21:38:08 · answer #3 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My son is turning 10 and has this issue, but doesn't get picked on. We discussed how important it was for him not to tell anyone. He showers every morning and cleans his sheets every day so no one that comes over smells them. Unfortunately, bed wetting is genetic and can be due to many number of reasons, such as heavy sleeping, hard to rouse, and inability to hold in pee. My son pees almost every night, so this stops him from being able to have sleep overs or attend them, but he does go camping with his boyscouts. We are just extra cautious about getting him up, using wipes to clean his genitals and getting him dressed before the other kids are awake.
My son was started on a medicine for his tic disorder and one of the side benefits is that it stops bedwetting. It is called Tofranil. We had tried all of the other meds and methods on the market, including DDAVP, ditropan, bed wetting alarms, etc. They never worked. My son has been on this med for 3 days and for 3 days hasn't wet the bed. This is the longest he has ever gone. I am very excited!!! Talk to your doctor about it, it may be an option. Tell your son that he will get better with time and for right now, he should just avoid the conversation with friends as it is none of their business.
2007-09-13 02:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you taken him to a urologist and ruled out any medical issues? If not, you need to...as for his friends, Michael Landon was a bedwetter and his friends teased him and his mother hung out the soiled sheets out the window for the neighborhood to see...didn't ruin his life and he became a success despite the ill treatment.
2007-09-12 18:26:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he shouldn't be talking about this subject with his friends. and if he has a sleep over, and that friend doesn't understand, then you need to talk to that friends parents. I can't imagine why he would be proud of it. I think you have to tell him that it's NOT ok to be wearing pull ups at 10 unless there's a medical problem - if not, get him out of the habit. don't buy them.
2007-09-13 06:05:11 · answer #6 · answered by wfhlembo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why are you doing the pull ups?? if he is wearing a diaper that he CAN pee in, he will.... why don't you limit his liquid intake and wake him every couple of hours to go to the bathroom?? or is it just easier on you to let him pee his pants and subject him to humiliation from his so-called friends?? come on !! you gotta step up to the plate !! be his mom and love him more than loosing some sleep at night!!
2007-09-13 04:02:19 · answer #7 · answered by Jeanette 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think of you may desire to forbid using pull-united statesa. this factor. He might desire to placed on underclothes, no longer drink for a pair hours until now mattress, pass to the bathing room proper until now mattress. Then, get him up 2-3 hours later to pass to the bathing room, and maybe lower back early in the morning (3-4 a.m). this is a coarse time table for some days, even though it might desire to artwork.
2016-12-13 07:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by colmenero 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋