For the past 3 years I have had a serious crush on a neighbor who lives around the corner. Usually I spot him in the neighborhood with his son. I never was 100% sure that he was involved with the mother because I rarely ever saw her, maybe 3x in 3 years while I would see the dad daily.
I am a single mom myself and our kids play together. I know he is attracted and I think he knows that I am too.
Today I mustered up the guts and walked up to him and made some small talk and I asked "I always wondered....are you in a situation.?" He said "Situation, what do you mean" and I went on to ask him if was together with his sons mom." He smiled and said"Yeah..." and I said well I didn't mean to disrespect your situation that but I always wanted to know'"and then we parted ways.
Did I handle that properly.? For some reason I feel rejected and ashamed I wish I could stay inside forever. I NEVER did anything like in my life!
Please advise. Thanks in advance
2007-09-12 17:50:21 · 16 answers · asked by Miss Brookyn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This guy and I met each other in the park eery day at the same time for an entire summer. But we never spoke. He would circle my block like a buzzard changing outfits to show off. Once he took of his shirt.There was attraction but I wanted to do the right thing . So I ignored his antics. Then one day I was engaged with another friend and he said "Hello" and passed me by so fast that I didnt even notice until he was gone. From that moment he became more distant.
We knew there was a connection from day 1. There still is. If he sees me he turns his head 3/4 times. But I have to do whats right
2007-09-12 18:10:13 · update #1
This guy and I met each other in the park eery day at the same time for an entire summer. But we never spoke. He would circle my block like a buzzard changing outfits to show off. Once he took of his shirt.There was attraction but I wanted to do the right thing . So I ignored his antics. Then one day I was engaged with another friend and he said "Hello" and passed me by so fast that I didnt even notice until he was gone. From that moment he became more distant.
We knew there was a connection from day 1. There still is. If he sees me he turns his head 3/4 times. But I have to do whats right
2007-09-12 18:10:21 · update #2
Don't feel ashamed or rejected. He'd still be in a situation even if you hadn't asked, so you didn't lose anything.
2007-09-12 17:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by Needs to go to bed 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You took a chance and that is all you could have done. Don't be ashamed of what you did. Hold your head up high and carry on with your life. You have broken that fear that you have had for the past 3 years. You are ready to take on the next relationship challenge. "Carpi Diem".
Thanks for asking the question.
Dominus Vobiscum
Don
2007-09-12 17:58:38 · answer #2 · answered by msrtampa04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you handled it excellent. It took a lot of guts to approach him and ask the question. Open, honest communication eliminates a lot of unnecessary heartache and drama. Don't feel rejected or ashamed, cuz he was probably flattered! I give ya cudos for being assertive enough to ask, instead of always wondering. Don't be afraid to approach the next guy you might be interested in, cuz if you don't take the chance, you might miss out on the best time of your life.
2007-09-12 17:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by classic1957gal 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Naaaah, you didn't do anything wrong! don't be so hard on yourself. I bet he was flattered! It was good that you asked and he was honest. He could have lied to you and broken your heart! I'd get right back out in the neighborhood and still wave at him like it was no big deal.....you never know what happens 10 yrs down the road (or whenever).
2007-09-12 17:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm maybe that you asked it ...that made you feel ashamed for his knowing you might be interested in him and you revealed that to him. the fact that you'd seen a woman in his life and he never approached you in the past three years shouldve given you a clue. but i think now, with confronting the guy maybe you'll get over him. so it may be a good thing for you to move on. no need to feel anything more than ready to move on from the guy. good luck.
2007-09-12 18:03:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some reason he might just avoid to mention it(depend upon how he thought) u just putu into a awkward situation anyway be smart next time
2007-09-12 18:07:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you took a chance and it didn't work out for you it happens don't feel aashamed we have all done it one time or another. You handled it properly and maturely and didn't take anything for granted be proud of yourself and move on and find someone else who makes you happy
2007-09-12 17:58:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you did ok. You have a right to inquire if he's taken if you really like him. Just act as if nothings happend. He's probably flattered. You can't fear rejection it is a part of living!
2007-09-12 17:56:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was respectful of you to be upfront about whether he was in a relationship. You did nothing wrong. The only bad thing would be the size of his ego after you left. LOL.
2007-09-12 17:56:42 · answer #9 · answered by sam 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you where brave
You threw out a possibility
Now you have to be patient
Nothing wrong with being upfront
You may be surprised in time
He may remember you as being someone interested
2007-09-12 17:58:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋