Is it ok for a man to defend himself against a woman if she attacks him?

Question

The conversation I had with my professor and some peers led to the statment"You should never hit a girl under any cercomstances. I said that I would if I had to defend myself and the whole class got mad. So, is it reakky not ok to defend yourself against a girl if it means striking her?

Answer 1

Of course it's o.k., especially if she has a weapon.

Answer 2

I think if the man is bigger and stronger than the woman, no. If the woman is big and tough and she's trying to beat the crap out of a little guy, I would say try to run away first, but if you can't then yeah, defend yourself. Neither men or women should be attacking anyone. People use their fists because they can't use their brains.

Answer 3

It's a matter of degree. If a woman is coming at you with a baseball bat and a serious intention to injure or kill you, few will blame you if you strike her in self defence.

If a woman comes at you with her bare hands, it is unlikely she will be stronger than you, and you should be able to defend yourself without striking her.

In law, the usual situation is this, it is self defence if you use like force. That is, gun against gun, fist against fist. But in the case of a man versus a woman, the man is (usually) stronger and therefore the force is NOT equal.

This is one of the reasons a man hitting a woman is not considered to be OK.

Of course, there are exceptions to every circumstance, I am speaking here only of the *usual* situation.

But, as any student knows the exception proves the rule, rather than disproves it.

Cheers :-)

Answer 4

Personally I would use both fists to disable anyone who was doing the same in a threatening way. But no no, society must "protect" women and keep them fragile. Of course I would really restrain a girl by grappling - so that I would not be defending myself against an entire mob of arrogant men as well. Don't think that women haven't realized this.

Answer 5

Most definitely YES! And I'm a female. For those who say no, get real. If you had an obviously strong or fast woman attacking you, it is in YOUR BEST INTEREST to defend yourself. If a woman shouldn't be hit, then she needs to act like the lady she is supposed to be and not attack someone.

Answer 6

I heard an old saying someone said once & I agree with it. "if it acts like a man, hits like a man, fights like a man or talks like a man, then treat it like a man".

By all means if a women was going to hit a man then yes a man has the right to defend himself, such as restrain her, give her one good swift hit, kick etc. I would not say flat out beating her up was alright, but only what was necessary to defend yourself. After all if she doesn't want hit then she has no right hitting you.

Answer 7

It is never ok for a man to hit a lady. The moment a lady launches an unwarranted physical attack and strikes a man, she ceases to be a lady and is fair game. That is how I see it.
I have to add that the man's retaliation should match the woman's. If she shoves you, you may shove her back. If she punches you, you may punch her back. If she stabs you, by all means... she set the precedent didn't she. But a man should never take the first swing, or give it harder than he got it.

Answer 8

In theory it's OK to defend yourself against any attacker. In reality, it's a political landmine if a man hits a woman. Obviously, it's best to avoid fighting altogether. However, if there was no choice, I would try to grapple or run away from her. Especially if there's no witnesses, it's her word against yours, and who do you think people will believe?

Answer 9

as I tried very hard to explain to my son, no matter what is trotted out a man is 99.999999% of the time MUCH stronger than a female and usually when a guy does strike back he is so angry that he does not pull his punches, so to punch a female in the face the same speed and force that you would do to a man is ALWAYS unforgivable no matter what.

I would much rather he did what ever it took to remove him self from the situation than to have to explain him self to the police as to why this person of over 6 foot that has done judo since he was 6 years old could not get out of a sit. without punching some one, even when you restrain a female by the arms you are more than likely to leave some nasty marks.

BUT and I know this is going to make my 1st statement look silly IF she is coming at you with a weapon then disarm her and then remove your self from the area and if need be disarm her in any way that you can or need to.

I do see your point though.

regards

Answer 10

if a woman slaps you, I dont think you should hit her back, but if she is actually attacking you then defending yourself is ok.

but that being said I think using as little force as neccesary is the right thing.. Restrianing her and then filing charges on her is what I would go for. Let her reap a bit of what she sowed and let her think it over in jail for a bit.

There is nothing worse than a woman hitting a man becuase she knows it is not likley they will hit back.

If women really want equality then they should not have a problem with men hitting back when hit.

For me it would be a situation by situation decision. If I could walk away I would, but if that wasnt an option I say she should know it would happen and she made it happen by her attack. There is no reason for a man to hit a woman 1st though.

I had the unfortunate incidents of having to fight drunk women on occasion when I was a sheriff's deputy and I could not just walk away. Even though it was my job it left a bad taste in my mouth to have to do it.

women who consistantly hit men might be served with a man actually fighting back and not holding back to make them think about doing it again. Women should not hide behind being a woman if they want to act like a man. Its kind of like a woman wanting to play football on a men's team but expecting them not to tackle her hard. If you play on the man's field then expect to be treated like a man and dont complain when they do.

If they dont want to be hit back then they shouldnt hit in the 1st place

Answer 11

If anyone attacks you it's OK to fight back. Doesn't matter if they are male or female. A woman who hits a man is counting on him not hitting her back. Women take advantage of this fact. They cry that they want to be treated equally but they cry louder when they are and it bites them in the butt.

I was taught at the police academy that women are actually more dangerous than men because men are programed not to fight back and we needed to get over it. So men are larger and stronger than women if you don't want to get hit back by a man don't hit him in the first place.

Anyone who disagrees is just full of political correctness BS.