i'm an indian girl of 16 and he's 17. we had knowing each other since a year. i love him intensely since then, he knows it. we also were in relationship for a month, but we broke up due 2 some reasons not related 2 sex. but know he's interested in having sex with me, saying that i should trust him that he wont let my image down and also having sex is not bad at all. and he justified himself. i can go 2 any extent 4 him, but shall i really agree 2 him and say yes???????? i'm confused...
2007-09-12 16:51:33 · 57 answers · asked by Nick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would not advise you to do so... i would really tell you to reserve it for the one you love.... and at 16... i dont think we know what love is... at least i didnt know it... and y trust a person who broke up with u?
if i was in ur place... i wouldnt... coz sex should not be the price u should be paying to be with him...
let me tell u a piece of wisdom i gathered... if a guy asks for sex in return for something...and keeps asking... hes actually not worth it... the guy who truly luvs u will never force you into it... guys will be guys and the guy that luvs u will ask u once or twice... but when u make it clear that u dont want to do it at this stage... he will listen.... so if he luved u... he wouldnt have forced u!
u just never know what is going to happen in future... so i would advise against it...
but since its ur life... the decision is entirely up to u...
and then theres the fact that ur indian... we know how our society is... why do u want to get things complicated? if i did it... i would feel guilty... not becoz its wrong... but its the way we've been grown up.... its not like i dont do anything... but having sex is going a bit too far i guess.... especially at your age...
and remember if he truly luved u... he wouldnt have forced you...
and ur just 16!! what if u get pregnant... what will u tell your parents??? plz plz plz dont do this... u kno how things get out of hand in india? i hope you listen to all the people answering and dont do it... dont fall into the trap of these guys!
2007-09-12 17:04:33 · answer #1 · answered by Proud 2 b Indian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! Don't do this. He will say anything so u will. But u don't know what he's capable of spreading. Plus, after sex, ur relationship WILL change. It wouldn't be the same. U guys would've shared a bond ideally only meant for marriage, and both will know it. It's not a bad thing for a guy to have experience anyway, but it can tarnish a girl's reputation forever. So if ur not completely ready for this in sound mind and body, and aren't ready for ALL the consequences...physical(pregnancy, disease), and emotional, and u still want to go for it, because u love him, then sure. But u mustn't have any regrets in this. Because most likely, in ten years, u'll get married, and u'll like the guy ur marrying, and u might regret not waiting for this man, because the love u felt for him is deeper than no other. U don't want that in ur concience. But if u can deal, then go for it. But as I see it now, if ur asking us if u should cave into pressure of a friend...I say no. sex should come naturally, because both parties mutually want it, and give each other mutual pleasure as a result of love...and nothing more.
2007-09-12 17:24:21 · answer #2 · answered by Uncertain Soul 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO absolutely not!! Don't lower yourself this way. Guys can find girls all the time just to have sex!! Silly girl! Any guy will say and do anything to have sex. It's the girl that ends up getting hurt. I mean really hurt. All guys do this at the age of 15 thru 30. They start to settle down with sex on their mind so much. It really is on their mind all the time. All day long. What do guys mostly talk about? SEX!!! Tell him I'm really busy. Anything in that matter. He'll get butt hurt but oh well you didn't get hurt. Understand. You are so young. Your gonna meet a lot of guys in your life time. Have fun with your life. Not like this. This is only a temporary situation.
2007-09-12 17:01:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are too young to appreciate what I am going to say. But it is worth a try.
Sex act is a pinnacle in any man-woman relationship. It should come natural to both you. You have asked this question means your relationship has not travelled enough to go for sex.
As said earlier this is the last step. But it seems your boy friend wants to have it in the very beginning. My advice is to wait for now. When the moment would come you would not ask. Second piece of advice is that let it be your choice and not his.
2007-09-12 19:27:30 · answer #4 · answered by Panchal J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you nuts, no way
look about how you have described this situation. This is somewhat not correct. Dont trust this guy... not for having sex atleast.
For a girl, the most precious thing is your virgnity...
so dont do this
Tell me something are you sure this guy is going to marry u.
if not then ask yourself that later on when you will get married will you be able to face your husband and yourself????????//
I would suggest that you should not go for this
But still it's your life
Before taking any decision do think about your parents as well as the result of all this
2007-09-13 03:50:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. You deserve to be with a guy who not only is your best friend but is your boyfriend as well. Yes, you love him but the reason why you're confused is because something doesn't feel quite right about the situation. The reason for that is because he wants to have the benefits of a romantic relationship but none of the responsibility that comes with one. Having sex with him will NOT make him fall in love with you but it is more likely that you'll fall deeper in love with him.
You have to be careful with your strong feelings for him and don't give in because of how you feel. Love and sex don't always go hand-in-hand for men. They do not mean the same thing so do not get confused about what he's asking of you. And ask yourself, do you deserve to be in a healthy romantic relationship with a man before you have sex with him?
2007-09-12 17:02:30 · answer #6 · answered by Jasmine808 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-26 08:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, u are a small kid. Don't say "yes" to him. Say a firm "no" and end the matter there. You are just 16 and u have a long time to go and if you do it now, I am sure you will regret it later. Enjoy your life with your friends and family. Study well and be a model to others. All the best.
2007-09-12 20:07:43 · answer #8 · answered by JP 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are too too young for it. Tell him to wait till you are legally adult at least. Because as per Indian laws, sex with a girl under 18 is rape even if it is by consent.
Secondly you are not mature enough to handle a pregnancy if it happens.
thirdly you are not mature enough to handle the consequences, emotional, psychological associated with it. Sex is good fun for few minutes, but the baggae is left with women. You have to grow mature enought o handle it right so that it does not spoil your future.
All the best.
2007-09-13 04:56:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've answered yourself - if you're confused, you're simply not ready to have sex with him yet. In my mind, sex should be taken seriously, and you shouldn't question whether or not you want to do it; you should know that it feels it and its being done with the right person. Another thing for you to gvie thought to: are you mature enough to handle the responsibilty? I mean, if you were to say, fall pregnant, could you handle the decisions that come from that? Don't say you'll be using protection - that's ignorance if you believe it can't occur when using protection.
2007-09-12 17:00:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋