like especially when they speak fine english!!ahhh i hate that!! like its freaking america,and the national language is english so speak it!! i dont care when they r buy themselves but c'mon when they r with someone who only speaks english,that is just so rude and disgusting.i just wanna smack them in the face!!
2007-09-12 16:31:12 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
oh maria shut up plz im not writing a freaking essay or something so quit being such a teacher...
2007-09-12 16:37:50 · update #1
I feel the same way. The lady that does my nails, she speaks English as well as I do... But, she will speak another language in the middle of our convo, to other people. I hate it. It is so rude.
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2007-09-12 16:38:19 · answer #1 · answered by stacie m 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OK... the point is that in fact it is rude to speak a different language in front of someone who can't understand you, if they are perfectly capable of speaking English. If there's someone who can't speak English, that's different, but they should translate what they said for you, to be inclusive. I have sat in a room on many an occasion, with everyone around me laughing and talking in a different language. It made me feel stupid and uncomfortable. Yes, I could go out there and try to learn other languages. I already speak French fluently and I travel a lot so I try to learn a few phrases of other languages but you know what... therre are only so many hours in the day with 3 kids and a job to do. I digress. It's rude to have a conversation in a different language and not try to include the folks who don't understand you, period, end of conversation.
2007-09-13 04:08:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe that if they want to live in a different country than their own, they need to assimilate into that culture by learning the language, it's the decent thing to do. By not assimilating they keep themselves separate and wear targets on their backs for this type of emotion. Speaking their native language in their homes so their kids will be bilingual is a wonderful thing. I don't like it one bit when I get a pedicure and the people working their only speak their native language so I can barely understand their English because they don't practice it enough. Very hard to communicate with someone who doesn't speak your language. We shouldn't have to learn their language if they are in our country! I find it difficult to even find a decent job because I only speak English in America! That's not right!! Thank you and good night. :)
2007-09-12 17:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by gma 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
lots relies upon on what's the 1st language of the folk in question. it truly is rude in the event that they talk in yet another language particularly to exclude you yet whilst they are in a majority they might purely be speaking in a fashion that comes organic to them. I actually have a house in Spain and stay there a sturdy area of the 300 and sixty 5 days. maximum Spanish human beings i understand do talk no longer undesirable Engllish yet whilst i'm invited to their domicile and there are acquaintances and relatives there I do assume them to talk of their own language, which now thankfully i can %. up maximum of. They do at cases turn and talk to me in English yet i understand they don't seem to be being rude. As I say it truly relies upon if that's to purposely exclude you from the verbal replace or no longer.
2016-11-10 07:17:55 · answer #4 · answered by konen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a great example of this. I used to have my nails done at a place where everyone is Vietnamese. The women there were so catty & would only speak to each other in their language. You know when you can just tell that somebody is taking about you....? I could tell that they were making fun of everyone who walked in the door, just based on their body language. So now they don't have my business. It pays to speak English in an English-speaking country!
2007-09-12 16:43:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Usually it is just easier to explain to the other person in their native language. Are you afraid that they are talking about you behind your back or something. My husband speaks a few other languages other than English, and I use to be all paranoid and thought maybe he was saying something about me, I also found it very rude as you do when he would talk to his friends in Arabic when both of them new English and I was with them. But then I began to realize that it is just more comfortable for them to talk in their native language and most of the time they were just talking about the same mundane stuff that we talked about in English. I realized that it was kind of silly of me to get mad because I wasn't even trying to learn what they were saying and they had took the time to study and learn my language and culture.
2007-09-12 16:51:25 · answer #6 · answered by Brittany 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My friend went into a fine china shop and the woman salesperson said to the other something very rude about my friend in German. My friend in fluent German asked the lady for a particular dish design and availability. The rude saleslady went in to back to hide she was so humiliated and embarrassed. Most of these people don't think other people understand them. Ignorant.. But you can do what I do at work. Just smile and nod your head like you understand every word she or he has said. Watch them shut up. They aren't sure if you understood them or not and they are not about to ask you!!! Works a charm for me.
2007-09-12 18:39:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it is rude. English is the hardest language to learn (you still haven't mastered it). It is mentally tasking to continually speak in a language that is not your mother tongue no matter how well you speak it. Since I realize this, I have no problem with people speaking in another language in front of me.
2007-09-12 17:39:08 · answer #8 · answered by krazydoggarou 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do believe that it is rude to speak another language in mixed company. What I mean, if the people are in a group of people who speak another language. It is just as rude to sit in a group and whisper to each other. I was told by someone who speaks another language that the people who do this are indeed excluding you from their conversation, as well as talking about others in the group. As a matter of fact a young lady that I know married a Mexican immigrant, and his family did not know that she spoke fluent Spanish. The man's mother and sister would speak Spanish in the woman presence, and none of their remarks were flattering. The American is the mother of these women's nieces and grand-daughters. How's that for family bonding?
2007-09-12 16:44:10 · answer #9 · answered by patriceg 1 · 5⤊ 1⤋
It is indeed rude to hold a conversation with someone in a foreign language when a third party is present. If one person is translating for the other, that's a different thing, but if both are competent in English, common courtesy insists that you should be included in the conversation.
2007-09-12 17:05:25 · answer #10 · answered by old lady 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋