Growing up, my grandparents lived in a small town that hosts a HUGE annual arts and crafts fair. I have NEVER missed the fair, even when I was 8 months pregnant with my son and had preeclampsia!
My daughter was born last week, and everything is going well. She's a quiet, "normal" baby (we had a preemie with our first--a preemie with colic), and my c-section has healed amazingly well. I've been given a go-ahead from my doctor to attend the fair if we so desire. The fair is 3 hours away, and we would stay with my parents while we would be there.
The main problem is that our son, who is 2, is still in the process of adjusting to life with our daughter.
On one hand, going to spend two nights with his grandparents may be what he needs to get the attention he's being deprived of currently.
On the other hand, it may make the transition even more difficult.
My husband and I are stuck, and although I REALLY want to go, we want what's best for our son.
Any insight?
2007-09-12 16:07:45 · 13 answers · asked by FaZizzle 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Oh and for those wanting more...
No, the newborn wouldn't be going to the fair. She would stay with my husband and father as they watch football and tend to her while my mother and I would take my son to the fair for about 2 hours.
2007-09-12 16:09:05 · update #1
I think you should go. you already said why: he will get the attention that he is used to for a couple days. he will see that he is still important even with the new baby there. also, give him time to get used to the situation. of course it's difficult for him, cause it's different. But he will get used to the situation and will love having a baby sister. don't try and force things to go in a certain way. do what feels right. from what u write it seems like to u it feels right to go to that fair and spend time with your son.
2007-09-12 16:19:10 · answer #1 · answered by HannaMira 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a fun time for everyone! I don't think any quality time spent with his grandparents is going to make the transition more difficult for your son, sometimes it's hard to adjust to a new sibling and the older ones have to be reminded that they are still special. Have fun at the fair!
2007-09-12 16:45:25 · answer #2 · answered by Zyggy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd go. Your son will have a ball at the fair, with attention from both mom & grandma--they have lots of fun things for kids, right? You can rest anytime you like at your mom's house. And if toddler gives you trouble on the ride, give him a dose of benedryl--he'll sleep through the ride.
TX Mom
2007-09-12 16:17:22 · answer #3 · answered by TX Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your health condition allows you to go, then, go!
This is the better plan: Safe and not out of control.
Go with your 2 year old son only. Leave your new born girl at home with your husband. Good luck!
2007-09-12 17:07:03 · answer #4 · answered by Super Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go! Family is all about being together and what better way to spend time together! You're son will adjust, with or without the fair...
Enjoy your time!
2007-09-12 16:12:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he may really like to go and spend time with you and do something different. Plus, I always kind of feel like dealing with adversity can be good for them. Life isn't always going to cater to them, and it's perfectly normal for him to have a period of adjustment with the new baby. I really think if you want to go, go. It's a family tradition. Talk to him about how you want to take him to the craft fair because it is something special to you and he is special to you and you want to share that with him. He may really like spending time with you that day.
Go and have fun!
2007-09-12 16:15:06 · answer #6 · answered by average_american_superhero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should really go. With what you have said, your son will realize what family is all about. Plus, when you leave your newborn with your husband, you will be able to give your son one on one mommy time. Go and enjoy yourselves. Good luck.
2007-09-12 16:16:21 · answer #7 · answered by lnlyheart123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go, especially since the fair would enable you to spend some much-needed one-on-one time with your son. I think you'll really regret it if you stay home!
2007-09-12 17:42:12 · answer #8 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GO!!! Everything will work itself out. Your son will be just fine. He has to adjust sometime, let him have his independence and adjust on his own!
2007-09-12 16:14:24 · answer #9 · answered by wundawoman 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would go, it will work or it won't. But I don't think it will ruin the transition forever or anything. I think the extra attention might help.
2007-09-12 16:33:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋