What else can I say to make them feel better about the situation?
2007-09-12 15:05:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Take a dish of food ~+~ there are not many people that feel like cooking during a period of grieving!
And if u can ~+~ sit down for a minute and let them talk about the good old times!!!
Good Luck Sweetie ~+~ You can pull it off!
Just do it!
Luv You,
XXX
Pepe
2007-09-12 16:58:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give them a couple of days after the funeral, and then call them and ask them how they are, and if they'd like to hang for a bit. Don't keep it a long conversation, basically it would be comforting to know that you're thinking of them. Call or text every few days. When they are ready to see other friends, they'll let you know.
2015-10-04 20:58:06 · answer #2 · answered by Orla C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do the normal I'm sorry, if there's anything I can do just ask. Instead, offer something specific. Is there a grandfather still around somewhere? Or did grandmother live by herself? Does your friend need help in clearing and packing away her things? If they are going to be busy during the week, can you offer to bring/make lunch for them? Can you offer to cut the grass for them? People always say "just ask" but no one ever does. If you offer something specific, it's much more meaningful.
It's also helpful to encourage them to talk about the person. "Do you know much about the family history? Where was your grandmother born?" etc. Even if you don't really care, it truly helps them to talk about the loved one.
You sound like a very compassionate person.
2007-09-12 17:15:43 · answer #3 · answered by old lady 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are really no other words to say except I'm sorry for your loss. Hugs are good. Bringing them food, offering to help with the food at the wake is good, if a church isn't already doing that.
Offering to stay and watch the family home while people are the funeral, is good too. Some sickos read the obits and then burglarize homes of grieving families so it's always good to have someone you trust staying in the home during the funeral.
2007-09-12 15:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is very thoughtful of you in thinking of your friend during their time of loss. You're right in thinking there must be something else besides the usual "it there's anything I can do'. It is not a bad thing to say by no means. I find usually the person can't think of anything specific so they say "no, nothing". some ideas would be "can I bring your family something to eat as they'll be busy with the services" or "while you and your family are busy, I'd like to feed the cat, walk the dog". I think that very simple things when someone is in grief are most appreciated. And always "if you need to talk, please let me know".
2007-09-12 15:13:35 · answer #5 · answered by inkster7 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from personal experience, the "I'm sorry" thing is a bit weird because then you feel the need to say "it's ok" in return, even if it's not. Maybe say "I'm so sad for you" instead or just say "I'm here for whatever you need" or don't say anything and let your friend talk
2007-09-12 17:34:48 · answer #6 · answered by Evieve 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would probably mean a lot to your friend just to know you are there for him/her and that you will listen if they want to talk. That's the best thing to do in these situations.
2007-09-12 15:14:16 · answer #7 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't make them feel better. I wouldn't even suggest it as it might invalidate their feelings. Just offer to be there for any help and support when they ask for it.
2007-09-12 19:36:28 · answer #8 · answered by Sophra 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
besides sending flowers how about sending a platter of food to where her family will be sometimes people dont think of eating but is sure is a nice thing to do.
2007-09-12 16:00:31 · answer #9 · answered by nicole l 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your friend would like to tallk, just be there to listen to her. That will help more than anything you can say. I'm sure she will appreciate you just being there for her.
2007-09-12 15:12:06 · answer #10 · answered by luvspbr2 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋