Do you think it's rude, or dis-respectful of me to say thanks, instead of Thank you, to adults and teachers? I really don't want to be rude, and it's a habbit of mine to say thanks, since I usually talk low, I can't say much... So, is it dis-respectful??? Because I know it's definitly not proper grammar to say thanks.. So, thank you to those who answer!~
2007-09-12 14:33:43 · 12 answers · asked by Angel 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Anyone??? Please???
2007-09-12 14:38:52 · update #1
I think it sounds more polite to say "Thank You", but "thanks" is definately not rude. If I were talking to someone I barely know, like a teacher, I would say thank you. "thanks" sounds a little more laid-back and is more appropriate to say that to a friend or relative. just my opinion. Whatever you feel comfortable with is fine. Either way you're being polite, so nobody should really be picky about it!
2007-09-12 14:44:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in many way's a grin say's plenty greater desirable than any words ought to ever say. I do locate that some people over use the be conscious thank you plenty that this is misplaced the middle felt meaning. i could be pleased with a grin from you no choose for be conscious in any respect, i locate it very condescension the way some people use some words in simple terms like the post above me that often indications off with "Have a well mannered day" this remark is so beside the point and is not any longer smart what so ever and that i locate this barbaric asserting so rude.
2016-11-15 02:18:33 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying thank you in some way is never rude but you may want to work on some of your social skills a bit. Whether you speak low or not, a simple thank you is a little more respectful than an off the cuff thanks. Thanks sounds slangy and can come off sounding curt or off-handed. Try looking at the person you are commenting to when you say thank you and smile. It makes a difference and people will treat you differently than if you look down and quietly say thanks. I personally like to use "thank you so much". It's amazing how people respond to such a short but exuberant expression.
2007-09-12 15:07:27 · answer #3 · answered by dawnb 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it all depends on how it's delivered.
If the "thank you" is obviously insincere, mumbled grudgingly with no eye contact, then I'd much prefer a sincere "Thanks!" or "Thanks a lot!" said with a smile.
If your intent is to convey honest gratitude then I believe the recipient is being a bit of a prig to snipe about whether you say "Thanks" or "Thank YOU".
Perhaps it's the talking low that causes people to doubt your intent? If it's a bit mumbled people will tend to see that as you doing something you "ought to" or that you're being coerced into by a parent or other authority and feel that what you're thanking them for isn't really appreciated.
Make an effort to say your "thanks" or "thank you" (either one) a bit more forcefully with a smile and eye contact and people will receive it in the spirit its intended I believe.
2007-09-12 16:06:57 · answer #4 · answered by Greg R (2015 still jammin') 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think saying 'thanks' is rude, but if it bothers you and is a habit, maybe you can try adding "I really appreciate it" at the end of your sentence. I know you'd have to practice it for a while, but it might make you feel better about how it comes across to people. At least you say 'thanks'; a lot of people don't even do that nowadays!
2007-09-12 14:49:41 · answer #5 · answered by kayel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the situation. In a casual sit. like someone picks up yur pencil and hands it back, Thanks is ok, but if its like someone giving you a gift or a compliment, Thank you is the appropriate response to show sincere gratitude
2007-09-12 15:15:25 · answer #6 · answered by CJ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not rude. If someone was stressing you out about this, they have issues and need to get a life.
2007-09-12 14:45:03 · answer #7 · answered by realshortshorty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How in the world would that be disrespectful? Seriously, many people don't say "Thank you" at all. If someone thinks it's rude to say "Thanks" to adults or anyone else, they need their head examined.
2007-09-12 14:40:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no ...as long as you look them in the eye when you say it .....they hear it ...and you mean it
You should really work on your communication skills....take a course in public speaking and practice talking with people....lacking in this skill will hurt you in the future.
2007-09-12 14:39:59 · answer #9 · answered by pink 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is rude, it might be a little casual...
2007-09-12 14:45:14 · answer #10 · answered by Indy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋