Im 41 and have 3 kids 23,19,5 been with fiance for almost 2 years he has no kids and wants a baby should I have one with him or not hes 41 and wants a baby
2007-09-12 13:01:30 · 16 answers · asked by Holly 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I have to get my tubal reverves for me to have a baby and I just worried it wont work it took me 13 years for the last baby to come along and I dont have that kind of time
2007-09-12 13:10:57 · update #1
It's all up to you. Just ask yourself, do you WANT another baby? Are you ready to commit to the next 18-21+ years? Do you have the energy to raise a happy healthy child? Do what you think is best for you and your family. Good luck in your decision making. :)
2007-09-12 13:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that in the end what you want yourself should way the heaviest. After all you will probably end up doing most of the work if you do have one.
It is also worth mentioning that you may want to show your fiancé the risk of having a baby with Down syndrom at your age. The risk percentage becomes one where you will actually have to take this into account. Having a child with Down syndrom is still very rewarding, but it does come with a lot of work and is definitely life changing. Even more so than a 'normal' baby.
2007-09-12 20:11:07 · answer #2 · answered by McPatrick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 40 and I have 2 kids and I would have some serious doubts about starting over. Do it only if you want to because you are going to be the on taking care of the baby.
2007-09-12 20:06:24 · answer #3 · answered by midnitrondavu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having another baby is a decision in which the two of you should be in complete agreement; it will not necessarily create a better marriage. Regardless of his desires, your decision should be the final one. Afterall, you will be the one taking any risks, although many women have babies over the age of 40. You should discuss in detail his feelings should you decide not to have another baby. Afterall, you aren't marrying each other simply to procreate, and you already have three children to share with him.
2007-09-12 20:37:32 · answer #4 · answered by Darke Angel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask this question you probably shouldn't. It's really up to you. Aside from the health concerns at your age, do you really think it's a good idea to have a baby you don't really want?
If you're just looking for somebody to talk you into it you should talk to your fiance.
2007-09-12 20:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by Evelyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's YOUR body, and remember if things do not work out with your relationship, YOU'RE the one stuck. Get him a puppy or tell HIM to adopt, Your not married so what kind of a commitment is there for a baby?? Wake up!
2007-09-12 20:07:33 · answer #6 · answered by gowpet 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you aren't sure, don't do it. If he loves you, he loves you for you. Some things in life just don't happen. We might want a girl but we get all boys. If your fiance wants you to do this even though it is going to be extremely hard for you, well, I would have to say I would question his commitment to you.
2007-09-13 08:35:17 · answer #7 · answered by NRPeace 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to think about whether you can handle another baby and if you really want another baby. Think about it carefully, then talk it over with your fiance.
2007-09-12 20:06:11 · answer #8 · answered by FantasyBookworm 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO! 3 is enough, 41 is critical but if both of you decide to have one then who's stopping you.
2007-09-12 20:15:20 · answer #9 · answered by Astro63 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you should, he wants his own chance at parenthood, and if he loves you and you know he will be a good father, then there shouldn't be any doubt. Don't let his chance of knowing what having a baby is, he wants to experience it and I think it's sweet.
GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-09-12 20:06:52 · answer #10 · answered by Butterflies 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋