My mom and my younger sister (15) are best friends. -So totally BFF!- That's not me. I like doing things myself and don't have to be talking to someone every second, like they do. I've told them many times that my not talking is not necessarily my being mad, upset or angry - they always say it is, it's not. I get in trouble or yelled at or grounded for it, and it really is starting to piss me off. Anything I say to my mom makes her mad, a lot when we talk about this kind of thing. How am I supposed to deal with this??? I don't need constant attention like they do and I get punished for it???
2007-09-12 12:49:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How much younger are you then she is?
You might want to remind your mother of this....you're older and you're needs are different from your little sis.
Say hey mom, let's just the two of us go shopping, spend some mother/daughter time out on our own and you'll see how much I've grown up (because she's obviously more into your sister) but be nice and sincere when you say it.
She will more than likely find an excuse and not do this because you are more mature than your little sister, even if it's a year older.
Sweet 16, there's something to say about that, and even if you're 17, that's even more the reason to just explain to mom, why can't everyone just get along? You're just more mature than her and that's OK too??
Then as soon as you can, move out because I am a lot older than you and guess what? I'm going through the same thing with my mom but older sister.
My same sister was very jealous of me at those ages, she always said I was moms favorite, but I never spoke and disrespected my mom like she did. I just learned how to keep my mouth shut and get the heck out of there as soon as I could. So I started babysitting around 12 yrs. old, saved every dime and had enough to move out.
Good Luck to you, if all else fails, just stay as far away from them as you can. I know that sounds terrible, but you need to set the record straight with the both of them, ask them both to try and respect your feelings like you are doing theirs, and just move on, otherwise you will not speak to unrational people, just a heads up mom, take more notice in "Both your daughters". or you're going to lose one or all of them real soon and then be sorry.
Yes and I agree, let your mother read this, bring it on, mom, I have grandchildren and never treated my kids like that.
IF YOU DON'T GIVE RESPECT, YOU CAN'T GET IT BACK~
2007-09-12 13:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some family members are just more social than others. They frequently feel the need to be together, chat and disclose secrets. Perhaps your mom is just concerned about you and your lack of need to interact with the family. Try to spend a few minutes each day chatting with your mom and/or sister. Talk about your day and what's going on in your life. It wouldn't take too much of your time and would perhaps satisfy your mom. If this doesn't work, suggest counseling for you and your mom as a way to better understand each other and your individual needs. You could also talk with your school counselor.
2007-09-12 13:02:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds such as you all have got to have an intervention with the mummy in-legislation. Just give an explanation for to her that even as you're grateful that they're procuring the marriage ceremony, it's nonetheless your sister and her son's. And it's so unfair that they very nearly haven't any say so of their possess marriage ceremony. When she performs the sufferer card simply give an explanation for to her that you simply all are looking to take her emotions into account however it's getting worn out. It turns out that she is the form that you simply ought to be company with, she may not holiday even though she makes you believe she's going to. Please do not quit being the matron of honor do in your sister she rather demands each and every best friend she will get correct now. Just speak to the mummy in-legislation and positioned all of it out at the desk. Good success:)
2016-09-05 12:07:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom when she shows that she cannot be acceptive of who you are, that makes you want to move out all the more and never go back.
2007-09-12 12:59:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Show her your question. If she sees how it upsets you, and how wrong she is to punish you for it, she may change.
2007-09-12 13:00:25 · answer #5 · answered by old beatnik 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish i knew my moms a ***** =(
2007-09-12 12:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋