my step mom thinks she never gets to spend time with my dad?

Question

but she gets to live with him and she left a blog on myspace that for every one that has a problem with them to shut up
but she gets to live with him and we get to see him two times a week. am i being selfish or just missing my dad?

Answer 1

just missing ur dad. if i had a step mom i would almost automatically hate her.

Answer 2

You are not being selfish. If you only get to see him two times a week she should not complain. She sounds jealous and selfish. She should love you and want to see you as much as he does because you are a part of him. If she has him all to herself when you are not around she is threatened by your time spent with your dad. I hope that it will not take your dad long to see through this and he will stand up for himself and for you. A lot of men don't because they think that it could lead to another divorce and then they feel like failures. I hope for the best for you.

Answer 3

Your stepmom is being selfish if she begrudges you time with your dad. She knew he had you first, and he has a duty to you that comes before his duty to her. She may not have thought about this. She may just think she should be the center of his world. But your dad is your father, and you need him more than she does.
So don't feel bad about taking your dad's time; he's supposed to give it to you.
But you need to get along with your stepmom, so be nice to her and maybe bring her a little present so she knows that you acknowledge her. Even if you don't feel sincere about it, try to make her feel important so she won't hassle you so much.
I'm glad that your dad doesn't just ignore you like some divorced parents do.

Answer 4

I'm sorry that your father apparently married someone with the mentality of a teenager. I hope she isn't actually a teenage. Of course you're not being selfish. Unless I'm missing something, your dad is doing his job by trying to be with his child and raise you as best he can with the custody agreement. Have you been complaining to or about her? My advice is to stay away from her My Space page and continue to enjoy your father. Don't even mention it to him unless she says something to upset you. Of course, if this does really upset you, feel free to speak to him.

Answer 5

You only see your dad 2 times a week? Then honey, you are surely NOT the selfish one! But your stepmom sure sounds like shes being selfish!!!!
She needs to realize your dads children were his before she was :)

Answer 6

shes being selfish and your missing him. he has to divide his attention to more than his kids now, and thats probably hard. she doesnt like sharing him because she wants to be around him. try to do activites like going to dave and busters or the movies with all of you guys. try to get along with her as much as possible and it will make things easier. she will be nice back, if she isnt, than she is a mean person and you need to inform your dad that you tried and she is being mean. no matter how much she annoys you, just suck it up for then, and be nice. good luck.

Answer 7

Of course you're missing your dad.

How old is your stepmom? She's not very mature to be leaving MySpace entries that are so destructive. Has your dad seen it?

Answer 8

Sounds pretty rude huh? Well you get to see your Dad twice a week let him know you don't like her and show him what she wrote if he defends her well you know who owns him.

Answer 9

You have to decide that! Can you talk to your father and tell him how you feel? I do believe that the children should come first! But they have a right to have their relationship with privacy! Try to talk to him! Good Luck!

Answer 10

Probably both, you're being selfish and missing your dad.
But that's normal cuz you're a kid.
Just don't sass mouth your step mom or your dad, be someone people want to be around, and then things will even out.