My oldest son will be 2 in November. I need a little advice on, I guess better discipline or something. Ok heres the deal, when I take him out somewhere and he doesn't get his way he acts like a total....MONSTER. I mean, screaming, crying, (fake of course). I spank him and it doesn't help. I think he only gets worse. I don't let him have his way when he acts like that. I just need some advice on what I could or should do when he does this.
2007-09-12 11:48:40 · 11 answers · asked by d shay 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Put him in the corner where ever you are find one and stick him there, it will only take a few times of being embarrassed in a store or a friends house or where ever for him to get it.
My youngest hates the corner and I have told her Wal-Mart or where ever has corners and I will find one. I only had to do it once and it was actually in the corner of a big cardboard display.
2007-09-12 11:53:59 · answer #1 · answered by Miss Coffee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spanking is not the answer and you already know that I see. It is difficult I know, I have 3 kids. I suggest that when you go to a store that he is strapped into his stroller. That you only go to the store and get the one or 2 things you absolutely need, then go home. Never buy him anything. No drinks, toys, treats, etc. He stays in the stroller only. Make sure when you go that he isn't tired, isn't hungry and doesn't need the potty.Try this for at least a month. He will get the idea that he has to behave. Then try letting him walk with you after that month. Give him a talk before you get out of the car. Say, we are going to get "x". No screaming, OK. I have a special sticker for you after we're done. Prepare him for a reward once he is back in his car seat, like give him a special sticker that he can put on his shirt.
If you are going to the grocery store then give him a shopping list. Make a picture list. For example, a carrot, milk, bread, cheese, etc. Just limit his list to things he can easily help you with or get for himself and about 5 items is plenty for him. This will give him a sense of accomplishment rather than he having to do everything you say, he'll think it is fun and his idea. You'll enjoy shopping too. Just keep the shopping trips under 1/2 an hour. He won't tolerate more than that. If you set up good "going out" behaviour now, it will stay with him as he grows up. Let it get out of hand now and it will just be so much harder when he's 3 and 4.
By the way, 3 year olds are generally much more difficult as they are wanting to express their independence and it often goes against what you want to do, so try to sort it out now. If you still have trouble there is no shame in seeing a child behaviorist for help. Good luck and remember it is only temporary, tomorrow is another day unlike this day.
2007-09-12 12:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough stage, and it can be really hard to control your patience in times like these. The best thing to do if you are out and about is take him back to the car and sit in there with him until he is done throwing his tantrum. Try not to get totally frustrated and spank or yell at him, just let him calm down and then try going back to the store, or wherever you were again. He does this to get a reaction out of you and it works so he does it again. If he gets no reaction, he will stop doing it.You could also try distracting him with something while you go out. What I do with my 2 yr old is keep asking her questions, like "wheres your ears? etc etc" or you could bring a toy or something to keep him occupied. I have found that positive reinforcement works better than negative, so on times where he is really good, even at home, make sure to give him lots of praise and tell him how happy you are that he is being good. When he sees the positive reaction out of you it is good encouragement to do it again. Hope that helps
2007-09-12 12:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by krystal 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you are out in public leave the store. Stop the buggie and go. At home, take away toys, the most prized possession first. Don't cave and let him have his way or he will think crying will get him what he wants. You must be consistent, always. When spanking did not work on my son, this did.
2007-09-12 12:13:41 · answer #4 · answered by midnitrondavu 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't spank. Bring food to snack on, bring some toys to entertain him. Encourage him to use his words, even if that means signing. Just bring some distractions when you are out. Involve him if you can. Let him put the food in the cart at the grocery store. If all else fails, take him out to the car for a few minutes to recompose.
2007-09-12 12:20:33 · answer #5 · answered by nanners454 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 2 yr old tried the same thing. Try taking him outside the store and tell him that you guys are not going back in until he calms down. If he enjoys going to the store as much as my daughter, he will stop sooner or later. It may be time consuming.
2007-09-12 12:02:02 · answer #6 · answered by bunnybunny_700000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, take him to the bathroom and talk a little more firmly with him. i normally just end up leaving the store and he has to go to his room when i get home. after the second time, he has learned that if he wants to go out with me, he has to behave. i know its hard but hey, you have to let him know whos the boss. you are doing a good job by not letting him get his way,better now then later and hes too old to learn.also ,taking things away from them works.best of luck
2007-09-12 11:55:10 · answer #7 · answered by smiles22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time out is the best thing since cake. i used to spank when my kids were young but this is great and it seems to bug them and its not as stressful for you. try it you put them in the corner facing the corner when they stop they can leave untill then they stay there even if you have to drag themt here it works wonders.
2007-09-15 13:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha ha. My son tries to do the same thing. I just let him have his fits and ignore them. After a while he eventually stops. Walk away from whatever he wants and just ignore his protests, kicks, screams, and all else.
2007-09-12 11:55:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let the child in your life,try explaining the reason that he cant
have things all the time,i.e we dont have enough money.or
some other time we might,or if the issue is toys let him look
at them but first explain that you not buying any,and when the
time comes to go and he wants the toy,tell him "I told we were
not going to buy anything to day because we have no money"
the secret is to try to remain calm,it is hard but when you both
have respect for each other it becomes easier.
2007-09-12 12:07:40 · answer #10 · answered by boldyman2 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋