I recently slept with this guy i'm dating,we havent told each other we love each other yet but after sleeping with him for the first time,i feel closer to him,now i cant stop thinking about him,what do you think?
2007-09-12 11:09:49 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes it does make people feel closer just because sleeping with someone is such an intimate thing, im not sure how it worrks with the male side of things not sure if they feel the same after they have slept with someone but for women it definately makes you feel more emotionally attached to that person
2007-09-12 11:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by mizzmamma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love isn't the idea you hold, it is the reality which bonds people together -- and that exists. Secondly, that the behavior was genetically justified explains why it came about and is shared by about every single individual, but it doesn't explain the social expression of it, nor the development of the idealized instance of it and, most of all, your conclusion is a bold non sequitur: even if it is a material phenomenon, what makes it lesser true? It just means the idea isn't the reality, but it doesn't prove love doesn't exist. You think it's reducible to two people having sex? Well, you understood Darwin the wrong way and you probably do not know Marx to talk that way. Dawkins once said to a man that genes aren't that deterministic; in the shortest of ways, they provide a tendency and a disposition, but not a direct sequence of actions. If you change the physical and social ground, you change the expression of the tendency in a qualitative manner. Social relations exist, you knew that? Or do you suddenly become unable to be a friend because evolution means it's a survival advantage? The state of things doesn't change, no matter the label you put on it. You will still have friends, you will still love people and it will be real specifically because it doesn't remain an ideal.
2016-04-04 17:40:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes. It depends where you both are at spiritually, physically, and sexually. At times Sleeping together can bring someone close or further apart. Try not to think about him all day long and get nothing else done. DO other things to occupy your mind. Most guys are not exactly attached to a girl physically or emotionally after they slept with that person so be careful, be safe, be honest with yourself. Do you feel good and better after sleeping with that person and did that person call you back and is thinking about you as much as you thought of him. Just a thinker!
2007-09-12 11:18:32 · answer #3 · answered by Princess_unique 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can do, but not always.
It is possible to have sex with someone and feel nothing for them. Otherwise prostitutes would be mooning over every client for weeks!
Then again, making love with a long-term partner makes you much closer as a couple, and re-inforces your bond.
When you have sex with a new partner it can trigger the same type of feelings, especially for girls, even when it is only a casual encounter.
I always suggest that people only have sex when they are in a mutual loving relationship with their partner, not because I'm old and boring or because I'm religious, but just because it's so much better then. Why bother with so-so sex with a near-stranger when you can have fabulous meaningful sex?!?
I hope it works out ok for you with this guy and he says he loves you soon.
2007-09-12 11:30:54 · answer #4 · answered by Fifi L'amour 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women differ on this one as whilst both produce the bonding hormone, oxytocin (common name), men counter this with testerone which lessens the effects of the bonding hormone. Interestingly, when women are breast feeding, they release this hormone too. Anyway, thats the reason you are getting those lovely feeling for your bf. Don't be surprised if he isn't quite at that stage yet...it might take him a little longer and a little more yipdedoo to get there. But thats the reason men can be a little less emotional about sex than we are and why they can dip their wick in a melon and think thats okay!
2007-09-12 11:50:05 · answer #5 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea its a proven fact that after women sleep with a guy a chemical is released in our brains to want bond and feel closer to the guy. Its supposed to be a feel good chemical but it makes women naturally more attached to a guy. However guys don't have that much of this chemical released in their brains, so they usually wig out and wonder why women are feeling so clingy to them after they have sex. This is also why I don't see why people say friends with benefits works. Because women are naturally the ones to fall for the guy and get hurt the most, but such casualness of sex. But that is just my opinion.
2007-09-12 11:34:42 · answer #6 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you may think it was making love, but he may have thought of it as just plain sex, or a good ol' piece of azz! But yes making love DOES make two people more connected. But sex does not, sex can sometimes just make things complicated and messy. So yeah I'm sure after that you're going to be more attached, but make sure he is on the same page as you, or you could be setting yourself up for a world of hurt. Be careful! Making love is very tender and sensual. Sex is just getting what you want and being done with it.
Talk to him about it! Good Luck! Hopefully he feels the same way as you do.
2007-09-12 11:15:38 · answer #7 · answered by Lucky Colette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As much as I'd like to say that men and women are very similar when it comes to relationships or falling in love, I have to say that it's easier for us, women, to feel closer to a guy after sleeping with him. I think it's because most of the time we see sex as something more than just a physical thing, it means something special to us.
2007-09-12 11:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by interpreters_are_hot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you are falling in love with him, now that you have been intimate with each other. You cant really make "love" to him, if you two are not "in love." It just doesnt make sense. For now, keep your feelings to yourself about him. I know that after like 2 weeks, I fell for my now, hubby really hard. And I told him. Guess what he said? Nothing. I thought that I may have scared him off. Nah, he told me that he loved me too. 2 weeks later. Sex can be really great, with someone that you are really in to. So, if you feel so great now, Im sure that you 2 will fall in love, an make it known to each other soon. But dont scare him.....just keep it simple, but hott!! Feeling the tingleys is really great huh? :)
2007-09-12 11:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by Little Deer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, it isn't "making love" unless you are in fact in love with the person that you are with, it is just having sex. Second, it is natural to have those feelings toward someone after sleeping with them. Being intimate with someone will cause your feelings to get stronger.
2007-09-12 11:19:40 · answer #10 · answered by benz s55 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋