About a year ago I changed religeons. I became, eclectic/wiccan and I still have not told my parents. They are pretty firm christians, hell my dad is a pastor. I am not sure how to tell them "what i've become" PLEASE HELP!!!
2007-09-12 09:19:00 · 31 answers · asked by blonde_goddess2992 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Also, my Dad (the pastor) is a convicted child abuser so I do not want to be abused again, just because I changed religeon.
2007-09-12 09:33:14 · update #1
Keep it to yourself and just comply with their wishes until you are sure you are safe and free from your father. Even then, don't mention it unless you have to, it's not worth the trouble. If you do come to telling them, stand your ground, don't apologize for something that you don't owe an apology for. It's your life to live as you please, not theirs.
2007-09-20 09:14:50 · answer #1 · answered by Boris Bumpley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking as a Wiccan, and a mother, if you are a minor, living with your parents, THEY, not your whims, get to choose your religion.
Wicca will be there when you're old enough to be responsible for YOURSELF.
If you can't be patient, then Wicca's not the right religion for you, period.
Yes, it's a shame your parents are the type of people who'd pick your religion, as adults should make their own choices, after having access to OPTIONS, but they have the RIGHT to pick it, even if it's sucky.
Edit: If your dad is a child abuser, he's lost the right to be a parent. Call the judge of the case, or speak to your case worker, or social services, and ASK to be REMOVED.
That being said, your story sounds awfully unlikely. He's a CONVICTED child molester living with children, employed by a church? In what state or country is that legal?
2007-09-12 09:26:25 · answer #2 · answered by LabGrrl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That's a tough one.
I just told mine.
Be prepared to answer questions, weather a storm of un-informed criticism, get thrown out of the family, or have an entire congregation praying for your soul, depending on your parents' demeanor.
I had to answer a lot of questions, then deal with years of my parents acting like they didn't notice, while I found books like "14 things wiccans don't want you to know" lying around their homes, then I got kicked out of the house when my younger (minor) brother took an interest, but I kinda needed the kick in the pants to get on with my life (was staying with my father while going through my divorce).
2007-09-12 09:27:28 · answer #3 · answered by Beowulf 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're telling the truth, but this smells pretty fishy!
Having been imprisoned once for child abuse, I seriously doubt he'd like conviction #2, so one thinks it would be pretty safe to broach the subject. Still, you know him best--if he even exists!
2007-09-20 07:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell is a very hot place, I don't think you want to go there, if your dad is a Pastor and now your into wiccan, how did your relationship with him and your mom get so far apart. There is nothing in Christianity that would lead you to wiccan, I think maybe your friends are into this, that puts you at a cross roads, if I was you I would stick with my parents, in the end if you need them of course they willbe there, but most of your friends growing up will eventually find there own way in life and you will drift apart, your parents aren't going anywhere, and converting over to wiccan is not something on my to do list, the bible calls it witchcraft or sorcerery. Jesus died on a cross for you, he loves you, your parents love you, this will hurt them beyond comprehension. Have you ever ask Jesus into your heart and became a true born again Christian. Just pray this prayer, Dear Jesus, I know and confess that I am sinner in need of salvation. I believe you died on a cross and arose from the grave to wash away my sins, I ask you right now to come into my heart and save me. I pray this prayer believing in the name of Jesus Amen. If you prayed that pray with a sincere heart you are now a born again Christian, Praise the Lord, Now start reading your Bible, Get involved in Church. Its helps to grow your faith in Jesus. Amen
2007-09-12 09:41:12 · answer #5 · answered by victor 7707 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If you are able to sit down with them and have a reasonable mature discussion about why you believe what you do, that might work best. Maybe writing a letter would help also, since you can put all your thoughts together and not start getting upset or angry like a conversation might. Ask them to wait a day and think about what you told them before they react, so it will be a more calm and thought out response. I suspect they may not take it well... so be prepared.
2007-09-12 09:23:10 · answer #6 · answered by Ellenaj 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You probably know how this will hurt your parents. I wonder if you could just wait till you leave home to practice your religeon, and respect your parents values until then.
2007-09-12 09:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by Yahoo Answer Angel 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, to help him understand what u believe on. Just love him as usual. Be patient and lovely. Because love is universal religion.
If he see you now a better person with this new religion, i am sure it will fit his christianity.
2007-09-19 05:45:39 · answer #8 · answered by trish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you actually believe in your new religion, you should be happy to tell others. If your heart is telling you it just doesn't feel right, you probably have made a mistake. I'm just curious though, why you would want to become a devil worshiper in the first place? Or didn't they tell you that that's what it's all about?
2007-09-12 09:26:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Just tell them you are their child and they will love you no matter what.
Also Max is an idiot!!!! He is just proving that religion wants to scare you into believing!
Wow Greg is an uneducated goof as well. Dude investigate before you type them down. Wicca is not devil worshiping. Hard to worship something that doesn't exist.
2007-09-12 09:27:25 · answer #10 · answered by shiverz 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋