Im now in Afghan, me and my girl friend love each other well we say we do. Ive been gone 3 months, she got really wasted one night, i spoke to her that same night so i know she was. She just told me that night she shagged someone, stayed round her mates doesnt really remember was that drunk she doesnt even know him. she had to tell me she says she wants me, was stupid thing to do and will never do any thing to hurt me what shall i do ditch her or make a go with things i love her so much were so good together.
2007-09-12 09:05:15 · 32 answers · asked by chris 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
she has been pleading not to finish with her.I dont want to but this is hard. she got taken advantange of when she was wasted she said she was even sick should i forgive her? she said shes never do it again.
2007-09-12 23:02:11 · update #1
well im going to give her another chance then i will have one on her if i mess up and she said she will give me a threesome with her mate that i have been on about for a while ha ha ha nice one!!
2007-09-19 01:35:26 · update #2
only if you can truly forgive her, and put everything behind you. do you think you could forgive her? or do you think you will hate her forever.
2007-09-12 09:10:31 · answer #1 · answered by marieantoinette17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its the first time anything like this has happened and it ws a one off thing that happened in the heat of the moment on a drunken night out and you really love this girl then I think it would be wrong to give up on the relationship. However if the trust has gone then there is not much of a basis for the relationship. Trust is hard to get back.
If this was to happen again in the future then I would seriously consider ending the relationship. Every1 makes mistakes. Every1 deserves a second chance but not a third. Good luck.
2007-09-12 09:13:02 · answer #2 · answered by lisa b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Poor thing it's not very nice hearing that I know. It really depends on you and how much you love her and if you could find it in your heart to forgive her, the thing is if you choose to forgive her you must not bring it up every time you have an argument as that will get you nowhere. I believe everyone should get another chance, she was very wrong to do what she did but regretted it straight away, that's why she told you. Let her know she hurt you and that if it happened again then that's it. Also tell her to watch what she's drinking in future. Hope this helps a bit. Good luck.
2007-09-12 09:20:56 · answer #3 · answered by Bezza 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you believe you can forgive and forget? If you do and you want to give her another chance, then let it be so. Warn her though that this is the second chance and there is not a third one! You need to speak to her as well though as she may have been in a bit of a state about you being away. Its rather odd behaviour to get so drunk you can't remember the dingdong you had - sounds more like an act of desperation than a good time!
2007-09-12 09:17:37 · answer #4 · answered by AUNTY EM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While your out protecting your country even...when she should be at home worrying about you. How inconsiderate! I had a brother in the Army that went through the same thing. You know, she CHOSE to get drunk and if she was resposible she wouldn't have. She chose to put herself in a situation to be taken advantage of by getting that drunk. She could lose you out on the line at anytime and she went out for a good time. Huh? Question now is can you forgive and forget?
2007-09-19 09:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by rizing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you think that that is the way it goes well do you youve got one on her if (when) you mess up that is really wrong you either forgive and forget or finish it their is no in between and the threesome with the flatmate is ummmm a bribe for her and you both maybee you will be able to make a go of it but if this isnt resolved permenently then you two will not be a permanant thing and oh yeah good luck to you in afgan
2007-09-20 08:43:58 · answer #6 · answered by the_orc_1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she got so drunk she did not remember what happened it good happen again.a if she really loved you she woudl not have done what she did. when people are drunk they do things that they wanted and the truth comes out. you have to look deep with in your self and if you forgive her and give her another chance you have to not bring up the past not bring up the fact that she cheated on you. it will be hard and you will have a hard time growing to trust her again and if you can't do itdon't be afraid to break up with her. i know you love her and she said that she loves you too but you don't cheat on the one you love. Good Luck and God Bless
2007-09-20 06:43:15 · answer #7 · answered by Yvonne O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was she thinking? Not of you, that's for sure. You have to ask yourself why she confessed this in the first place. There's a message for you there. Was it to make herself feel better? Does she realise that you're living your life on the line so she can have the freedom to screw around. I'm sorry mate, but you should dump her along with your sentiment. She's rubbish. Keep your self respect. Never forgive her and move on.
2007-09-12 09:22:40 · answer #8 · answered by Nige 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cant tell you what to do mate,just what i would do,i've never cheated on any of my girlfriends, even when i'm drunk and even when i had the chance to.but if i did i would expect her to dump me straight away, i think its the ultimate betrayal, i personally would not give her a second chance.but i'm a bit of a hardliner.drunkness is not an excuse,she either shagged him or she was raped,i know thats a bit harsh but its the bottom line.i think b4 you decide whether to 4give her or not you need to really figure out if you truly love her or not. sorry for your troubles mate,hope it works out.
2007-09-18 04:03:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her, you can give her another chance. Honesty is the best policy and is a sign that she really loves you. She put herself out there for you to make the decision on if you want to stay with her. She realized her infidelity was a problem and being that she loves you, decided to tell you. If you didn't matter to her, she wouldn't have told you.
2007-09-12 09:14:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be more concerned about the drinking or what ever she did to get wasted. Because that could go on all your life. If you really love some one and they do something that can be forgiven then go ahead. But habits like drinking and drugs give you no choice but to move on.
2007-09-20 06:26:20 · answer #11 · answered by Grampa B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋