I recently found out that my boyfriend cheated on me several times in the past. I am debating to end it but am still unsure. The only reason staying with him is even an option is because of my own past as a cheater. I cheated on a previous boyfriend and it ruined everything. I loved him very much and had wanted a future with him. When I met my current boyfriend a few years ago and realized that I loved him even more than my first boyfriend, I knew I couldn't repeat past mistakes and I haven't. This is the first real relationship my boyfriend has been in. I feel like he is sorry and realizes that he needs to change as a person. I feel that I would of given anything in the world to have gotten a second chance with my ex. So, do I give him the chance I never got? Karma is a total ***** by the way.
2007-09-12 08:53:43 · 14 answers · asked by jessica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He cheated on you because you were his first relationship. You open the doors for him and now he wants to explore. People need to experience life an do all the worng things before they understand whats is right. The exact same thing happened to me and when he cheated on me he told me he did it to try something different. I suggest you give him some space for him to think about what he wants and if it was meant to be, it will be.
2007-09-12 09:03:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel he wants to give it a go, or if you feel there were good reasons for him to cheat, or if you feel that you would find it hard to live with the "what-ifs" if you don't give him another chance, and if you feel that you can truly forgive him for cheating then do it. Otherwise move on... You're the only one who can really make the decision, and it's a hard one. Good luck.
I agree with what one of the above answers says - that you opened his eyes and now he wants to try out more. I was like that with my first real boyfriend - totally in love but worried because I didn't want him to be the only guy I was ever with. If he needs to experiment and experience life/love then maybe you should break up for a while and let him have his fun and stay in touch as friends....then if it's right get back together again later. To be honest, if you want to be with him longterm, then it's better if you get together *after* he's experienced other girls - then he'll appreciate what a catch you are.
2007-09-12 09:06:22 · answer #2 · answered by Alex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, but you did not cheat on the current boyfriend did you? Your current boyfriend however, is cheating on you or has already. I would not give your boyfriend anymore chances. You are already aware of his cheating. Just because this is your boyfriend's first "real" relationship does not give him the right to be unfaithful. If he wanted to date other girls, he should have been upfront with you, not go behind your back. The only way you will know how truly "sorry" he is will be if you leave. If he cares enough about you, he will change. If you stay however, he will know he can always pull one over on you and will never change. I believe as you that what comes around goes around, but if you are being cheated on, there's no reason why you should allow it just because you feel you need to be punished for what you did. I would get rid of him.
2007-09-12 09:02:01 · answer #3 · answered by kikio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your experiences were in the past. You have realized your mistakes, regretted them and attempted to have a healthy relationship. Now, your current boyfriend is cheating. The only way to help HIM realize his own mistakes for the future is to end the relationship. There is no use being with an unhonest man anyway, as he clearly does not have eyes only for you and you may find him lying about a lot more than his other girlfriends after awhile.
Best of luck! Go with your gut. *hug*
XOXO,
Laurie
2007-09-12 09:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by Laurie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well what u did in the past has nothing to do with what he did but yea Karma is still in play,...but i think if it really bugs u, well if i were u and i loved the person and that person cheated on me and they wanted forgiveness the only way i would forgive and stay is if they let me do another grl and make things even so she could have the understanding of what it feels like..do this especially if this is his first real relationshipso he can understand the pain of things like this so he would think twice before he does it in the future
2007-09-12 09:02:48 · answer #5 · answered by D.C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing your identify on my own gave me the respond: Cheater. do no longer follow a cheater. Why ought to you stand via him, if he's no longer status via you? Deceit will kill a courting from the interior out. the reality that he's prepared to maintain on a charade with those 2 females (telling lies to the two one in all them too) tells me that he's in no way remorseful and is not any longer honorable whilst it includes relationships. you p.c. finally. yet, as quickly as a guy cheats it frequently happens back.
2016-11-15 01:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by riveria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say cut your losses and move on. Learn from your mistakes in the past and hopefully you'll find someone to have a healthy and loving relationship with. But you have to change the pattern now and recognize the type of men you're allowing yourself to fall for and stay away from them. Good luck.
2007-09-12 09:02:05 · answer #7 · answered by Kathy R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, Karma is a *****.
Like another answerer stated, give him another chance but make it clear that it'll be the last chance he'll ever get.
2007-09-12 09:00:30 · answer #8 · answered by aliengirl83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! Sorry to say this but I am glad karma hit you and no I wouldn't stay with him. Take it as one of life's lessons.
2007-09-12 09:02:48 · answer #9 · answered by RedRabbit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4give him once but if it repeats u know what to do even though u think of ur past now u know how it feels to be cheated on
2007-09-12 09:03:05 · answer #10 · answered by *S!LL!3G00B3R*TTC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋