Honestly now. I know there are a lot of us out there that fool ourselves into thinking we are ok with working. Who of you really wish you could be a stay at home mom? What is preventing you from doing so?
2007-09-12 07:50:51 · 33 answers · asked by Julie 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I made the decision to be a SAHM before I had children (based my "perfect catch" on this one...) because the first five years are so vital to the character of the child. I only worked part time to supplement income (as needed) if I didn't have to pay for child care (ie family member or dad was caregiver.) Some childcares are too crowded, and it is so easy to get sick, thus leaving me to take time off, so then there is no point!
I do have to go back part-time again, (pay off big med bills) but I found opportunities that will help my overall goals.
I will not work fulltime until my youngest starts school, then work around that schedule. It means "sacrificing" buying certain things, eating take-out. But the point of "working" is to bring home income, not have it go back out to child-care, taxes, take-out, work clothes, extra transportation cost, excess sick days (to take care of sick kids), AND on top of that get everything done around the house I couldn't over the week in two days, plus bond with my family and recuperate from the whole week.
While I do stay at home, I am also volunteering on days that I can, plus finishing my bachelors to help me in obtaining a job that gives me more flexibility and income potential. My children benefit from a stable home and rolemodels, plus I can work on things I wouldn't have time for any other way! It can be worked out if you have the right support system and plan of action. Of course, it cannot be all the time, as I have retirement to consider, and the reality that I may be a widow one day....but having a plan is better than the alternative!
2007-09-12 08:32:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would love to stay home with my kids. I was able to for about a year with my daughter, and it was a wonderful time in my life. Financially these days it is so hard for families to only have one income, so that's why I'm working. I try to justify it to myself by saying that I'm doing what I need to do so that my kids can go to college someday, but it still hurts. My mom will be watching my little boy after he's born in a few weeks, but it still doesn't feel right. I want to be the one to see all of his 1sts! I'm hoping that while I'm on maternity leave I can start working towards a job that I can do from home so I can have the best of both worlds!
2007-09-12 08:07:09 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really wish I could be a stay at home mom, Or at least work part time. I always work I swear. even though I work mainly 8-4 each day, I come home and its like I clean the house, cook then put my girls to bed. I get to spend no time with them, Then on weekends im pooped because of the work week, I dont want to do anything. My husband makes **** for money so I can't stay home. But I do wish I could be a stay at home mom. I really do.
2007-09-12 07:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by Jen L 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, I love working as a teacher:)
I honestly don't think I would like staying home everyday~ I'm only 26~ I would go crazy.
However, I did enjoy staying home w/ my son this summer~ I am now back at work & very happy about that. I pick up my son from my mother's house @ 3:30 everyday so I have plenty of time to spend w/ him:)
2007-09-12 08:03:28 · answer #4 · answered by Proud mother! 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a stay at home mom, and honestly, I miss working. I can't wait till my youngest goes to school and I can go back to work. It feels like I don't contribute, even though i take care of the kids and the house. when i want something, i want to be the one who made the money, u know? I love my children, and I am glad I chose to stay at home, but it is more a childcare cost issue than personal choice. My husband makes decent money, enough that i don't HAVE to work, but i miss it. I miss getting out there with other adults, and having something to do.
But I do know a lot of working moms who would rather be stay at home moms.
2007-09-12 08:14:35 · answer #5 · answered by Ms Always Right 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've done both. Stayed at home for several years, then went to work (but only part-time). They both have their pros and cons. But speaking as a mom of only school age children now, I would have to say the stay-home job was much more fulfilling than the away from home one. I didn't miss out on all the firsts and I was able to raise my babies the way I wanted to. Although, I did get very bored and even a little depressed from staying home all the time and having only baby conversations. But overall it was great, and I was blessed to be able to do it. My advice to anyone that is considering staying home is to get involved in some things, such as an aerobics class or something. This will help you from getting burned out on staying at home with no "me time" or adult conversations.
2007-09-12 08:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by Angel D 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I was a stay at home mom as long as I could be. I needed health insurance so I went back to work. I'm lucky that both of my kids are in school now and I work the same hours they are there so I still get to do all the mom stuff with them.
2007-09-12 08:04:32 · answer #7 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My kids are in school now - 6th and 4th grade so i dont mind working during the day, however, i would like to only work 3 days a week instead of 5 so i could see more of them. They get home at 3:00 and i dont get home til after 5 most days. I also would like to wokr only 3 days a week so i felt like i had more time for "me time". With working a full time job i feel so guilty if i choose to go to a class at the gym or go tanning or even out for a drink with a friend after work cuz i gone enough just with work. My husband is a teacher so he is home with them more than i am which has its good points as well as bad. I work full time now so that if/when we get pregnant i can stop working completely after the baby is born for as long as i would like. We are trying to make as much as we can now with my 9-5 so that if i choose not to come back i wont have to. I do love my job so i think even if i dont financially need to come back i would like to on a part time 2-3 days a week schedule. That way i can still get out of the house and talk to other adults as well as having the job of being there as my baby grows and my kids get off the bus!
I was a stay at home mama for only a few years when the kids were real little and it was great but i should have worked part time or volunteered so i could have some time by myself.
2007-09-12 08:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would love to be a part-time working mom. To be able to bring my children to school, work, then get off in time to pick them up, get homework done, some quality time, and dinner! As a full time working mother there is very little quality time to spend during the week...it drives me crazy!!
I don't think I could be a full time stay at home mom. I live wayyy out in the country, and would probably go stir crazy!!
We're actually devising a plan right now to allow me to do just that...and it cannot come soon enough!!!
2007-09-12 08:11:50 · answer #9 · answered by Tina 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would love it. I'm lucky enough to have been working from home right for the last 4 years but it's soooo stressful and hard to separate home/family and work. When I was at the office full time at least when I was at home work had nothing to do with it. Right now I feel like there's no distinct line. I think I'd be happy working part time instead and being home with my boys the rest of the time.
2007-09-12 16:08:13 · answer #10 · answered by Ella727 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋