if u asked him about commitment in the relationship and he says tht he cant think about it now..and he also said about the different culture between u and him...wht is ur opinion about it?
2007-09-12 06:04:55 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
said what about the different culture??? sounds like he isn't comfortably with the idea of commitment or whatever differences you guys have in culture. give him time to think it over or threaten to leave.
2007-09-12 06:08:28 · answer #1 · answered by Nico 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on how long you've been dating and if you are both already active members in one another's lives. If you have been dating for a long time, and "I love you"s are being exchanged, then he should be expected to make a commitment. The same can be said if you spend most of your time together, and you both get along with, and hang out regularly with, each other's friends. If the relationship is still pretty new, give him a some time. Sometimes, that's all you need.
About the culture difference... whose background is more conservative - yours or his? He may just be uncomfortable with having to face the differences. You may just have to support him and be strong - if he sees you're willing to work on that, he'll want to do the same for you.
In the end, you know how he feels about you. If you see this as him pulling away - then he probably is. Whatever is going on with him, you deserve to have someone who wants to be with you and is ready for commitment when the time is right.
2007-09-12 06:19:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say it depends on lots of things, if you've been together a while, over a year then maybe you should think about the future but if you've just started seeing each other maybe talking about commitment is rushing it a bit. However if he thinks the different culture between the two of you will affect your relationship maybe he's trying to tell you something.... best thing to do is ask him straight out what he wants from you.
2007-09-12 06:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by Big H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's thoughts are something he knows u don't want to hear and would be upset about if he told you.
Culture differences do create differences in opinions about male/female relationships. You may not like how his culture sees women and he may not like urs. If u can get by that then ur good to go, however, it is not likely, since this is something that is taught from very early age and that is extremely difficult to change......
2007-09-12 06:10:48 · answer #4 · answered by pure1simply 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's pretty much a standard pat answer for guys. Just see how it goes and if after a while you're not feeling it they go your own way. And if he's worried about the culture difference why did he start going out with you in the first place? Just put this on the back burner and have fun, if you can and see where it leads.
2007-09-12 06:12:53 · answer #5 · answered by Shel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you, when a guy likes a girl, and wants to be with her, he will do it, plain and simple. Guys try to make things all complicated, making excuses all the time. It's real simple, if he likes you, and wants to be with you, you would not even have to ask about commitment, it would be there, that's just how it is. Guys sometimes remind me of a spoiled kid, you know they have something and it's "mine" ya know, no one else can have it. That's how guys are when it comes to the women they like, or love, she's his, period point blank, he don't want to share, nobody is getting her time cause he got it, ya know? So when I see how a guy will come up with all these reasons for why he can't be with the girl that he supposed care about so much, I know it's a load of sh*#! Tell him to stop making excuses, let him know that you don't have time to play any games, and if he can't commit to you in the way that he should, you are going to have to go do something else! Tomorrow ain't promised to us, and you can't waste any more of your time waiting on him to get his mind right, for real!
2007-09-12 06:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by Sweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had said he can't commit purely because it's too early in the relationship etc then fair enough but you said he said your cultures are different. So why is it ok for him to be seeing you but it's not ok to commit to you? Being with someone means you accept them for who they are inclusive of accepting culture/religion. Sounds harsh but if i were you, i would dump him as by now i'd realise it sounds as if he's using you.
2007-09-12 06:11:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that he's telling me that he doesn't want to commit to you (right now?) and that he has concerns about your different cultures. Men are straight forward. They mean what they say. Take it at face value and don't try to read anything into it. If you want a long term relationship, being honest, I would have to tell you that you'll have to seriously think about moving on. Please explain this to him. If he sticks to his original lines... move on, don't bang your head against the wall and cut your losses now. Good luck.
2007-09-12 06:10:43 · answer #8 · answered by spiffy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, you can do better.
Commitment is not a culture thing, it's a love thing. And if he is not in the same place as you as far as being ready for a commitment, than it probably won't work out anyways.
2007-09-12 06:09:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would be upset. He must not be that interested in you if he brought up the different cultures between the two of you. A man that loves you wouldn't let that bother him. I think you should move on.
2007-09-12 06:10:51 · answer #10 · answered by Unknown 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋