I have a friend getting married in a couple of weeks. She has two weddings, one Hindu wedding on Friday night and then a Non-denominational wedding on Satuday. Both weddings provide dinner. The one Saturday provides alcohol, and dancing. I was married a few months ago and they purchased a gift for me that cost $270. I am sure their second wedding is very expensive. Their first if apparently simple. They are doing to appease the grooms parents.
2007-09-12 05:28:39 · 10 answers · asked by SusannaMiles 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
well don't think so much about the amount think more about the quality & usefulness of the gift. where are they registered? what is on thier list? does any of it fit in w/ your budget, if yes, pick the gift that fits w/ your budget. if no, see if you can find something similar of equal or close quality that is more within your budget. you should not overextend yourself financially for anyone, as you will have to be responsible for the debt incurred, thus making you irresponsible to yourself. you can find a suitable wedding present for your friend and not break the bank. if she does not understand that you are on a budget than you need to evaluate whether she is really your friend.
2007-09-12 05:39:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Two weddings, same couple = 1 gift. The engaged couple can't invite everyone to two weddings and expect two gifts. I'm sure they know this too.
You are not obligated to spend 270 because she did. Buy her what you can afford to get her. If you want to and can spend more, great, if you can't that's fine too. There is never a set limit on gifts.
I would also like to add since you seem to be getting responses in relation to the gift must cost what the couple is spending, that is false. Per Emily Post "Any formula wherein a wedding gift should cost at least as much as the bride and groom are spending on entertaining each person at the reception is a myth. Such extravagance is impractical, uncalled for and ostentatious, and therefore in poor taste. The cost of the gift should be based on the guest's affection for and relationship with the bride, groom and families. No one should feel pressed to spend more than can be afforded"
2007-09-12 05:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by Erin 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A gift to the bride and groom, though it should always be graciously accepted, should never be expected. It would also be unreasonable to expect a gift of equal or greater value to a gift given to you under similar circumstances. The value of the gift is in it's giving alone. That being said, you shouldn't purchase a gift that exceeds your financial limitations. Despite two ceremonies, one gift to the couple would be adequate. I'm sure the happy couple would greatly appreciate being told how much you enjoyed both ceremonies...that's a memory that's bound to last.
2007-09-12 13:40:24 · answer #3 · answered by Tina A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually you should spend the amount that a plate (dinner) costs for each person that is attending the wedding. So if it's approx 60 dollars a plate, and you and your bf are going, I would spend about 120 dollars. So if you are eating twice (2 weddings), I would add that together.
However, since you know what she spent on you, I would spend the same amount, especially if she is a friend. She's going to be paying for more than one event (most indian weddings cost around 80 000 dollars), so you may want to take that into consideration.
2007-09-12 05:35:50 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Spend what you can afford. Get them one gift. That being said, sometimes the best presents are not the most expensive ones, they are the ones where someone I know has put some thought into the gift and given it to me because they know I will truly love it.
2007-09-12 05:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by Brooke 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Give a gift at one wedding only.
Give how much you can afford to spend without needing to scrape for cash.
$50? $100?
However much or little you want.
2007-09-12 06:39:34 · answer #6 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
$100 to $200.
2007-09-13 04:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, this is going to cost you a pretty penny. I would give a gift that has a value that at least covers the cost of your dinner plates. I always give money at a wedding, and from the weddings that I've been to that's pretty standard.
2007-09-12 05:36:25 · answer #8 · answered by Not quite perfect 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Figure out how much you want to spend total for the marriage. Divide it into half and put each amount into two separate gift cards Example $ 200 total equals two gift cards at $100 each. Now you have 2 gifts one for each event
Go and enjoy the parties
2007-09-12 05:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by flautumn_redhead 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
You don't buy a gift based on what they "give" you at the reception. Nor do you buy a gift based on what they spent for you.
You buy a gift based on your personal budget and relationship with the bride and groom.
2007-09-12 05:36:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋